Date: September 9, 2008
In 2008, the then former webmaster of BoyChat Jim Finn the 3rd [JimF3 – He lived as an out BoyLover for years] was arrested in a fishy ambush, charged with downloading “child pornography”, convicted and sentenced to prison. This came months after Jim played a crucial role in helping Free Spirits and BoyChat, thwart the aggressive onslaught of Perverted Justice, and remain online. The “investigation” was result of allegations made by Perverted Justice [who claimed responsibility]. Many of us believe, Jim was framed and railroaded through the court system, on account of his past positions within Free Spirits and BoyChat.
Anyway…Within months of Jim’s arrest, someone claiming to be his father [Jim Finn the 2nd] appeared briefly on BoyChat, and posted the short message below to all of us. What follows this, is my response to him.
“Just to let you know that one of your own, jim finn 111 has been sent to jail for 8 years for his computer downloading. As his Father I could not be more disapointed. During the sentencing it was brought out than many of the young boys were tied up and being raped. I thought your site and life style was about love > Or do you consider rape love ?” – jpfinn7
Grabbed by the Bag?…
Hello, Sir…
I once held Jim in very high esteem…
…I don’t consider him, “one of my own”, however…maybe at one point in time, yes…but, that was years ago…
He drew his line…and let the rest of us know, who amongst us were “sub human pieces of trash”, belonging on the other side of that line…
Jim was a paradox, in that he was so vital to BoyChats history…yet he turned into the most abusive, hate filled and vicious, legitimate community member I have ever witnessed on BoyChat. Watching this change, was possibly the single most sickening, disheartening and sobering thing “I” have ever seen here…
It really was the fall, of someone who I considered a modern day hero of sorts…but worse, because it was also a betrayal of so many good, decent people here…who never deserved “that” type of treatment…
It was painful to watch this unfold, and realise what it all meant…
I did not know Jim well [though I was at one time given the impression that there was mutual respect]…and for years, I’ve wanted nothing at all to do with him…As would follow, I don’t know what he enjoyed spending his time doing with his computer…
Personally, I have yet to be solicited by anyone at all, here at BoyChat or elsewhere, with the prospect of seeing young (little?) boys being tied up and raped…literally, figuratively or legally such…
While I can not say that sex starved people will never be enticed to look at all manner of forbidden fruit, I think I can safely vouch for the fact that BoyChat and its core members do not act as a clearing house, for portraits of young boys being tied up and raped.
Literally tying up and raping anyone, is a serious and alarming act of inhumanity.
“That” act is frowned upon and condemned…even “here”…
You know what, though?…
…After being called all manner of hateful things…After a lifetime of being told “that” is what “I” am…After the endless years of personal conflict, and needing to know the truth for myself…
…I could never fault anyone who also walks in these shoes, for needing to see for themselves…
…What would be “my” reactions…if “I” had all the violent, child rape pictures and videos available, at my own personal disposal?…
Would it shock, horrify and disgust me?…or would I involuntarily be swept away, with a sense of arousal entirely out of my control?…
It is a little talked about thing…that amongst other sexual classes…fantasies of violent rape are common…and “they” get to be considered “normal”…and even “healthy”…Nobody is there to decry, demonise or “medicate” the so called “ticking time bomb”…
…but, when the same “normal” and “healthy” thing is applied to a stigmatised sexual orientation…”that is just unthinkable”…”what a monster”…
I think, like many people…you are failing to see and understand the larger complexities of human sexuality…
Let us not lose sight of the fact, that what is truthfully important here…is not whether or not Jim did keep and look at pictures of young boys being tied up and raped…but whether or not Jim was going out, tying up and raping young boys…
I will never condemn anyone who has had in their possession video, or pictorial, documentation of a sexual act involving a legal “child”…
…not even if I condemn that actual act documented.
…I simply will not…To do so, is to give support to the concept of “thought crime”…It is to play into the stigma and stereotype…
I will not support stigmas and stereotypes…I will not pander to lies…
I also will not be forced into answering, for the alleged sexual tastes of another human being…Whatever was found on Jim’s computer, is not the fault of people who have called BoyChat their online home, over the years…and throwing it into “our” collective lap, is simply not right.
If you are looking to be angry with people…as though you want to find someone who led your boy astray…someone you can easily point at, blame and explain it all away…you are looking in the wrong direction…
I don’t know what I feel about Jim’s predicament, beyond that I am always disgusted to see people locked up over what amounts to a thought crime (keeping videos or pictures, is generally accepted as a practice to evoke future thoughts and feelings)…but I know for absolute certainty, that “I” have nothing at all to do with him being there…
Unless you know and are willing to share something concrete that I do not know about this situation, then I would have to say that most (if not all) of us who have participated here over the years, also have nothing to do with it…
For all I know…after seeing his web hosting company brought down, Jim may have just said to himself, “screw it all”…threw caution to the wind, mentally snapped…maybe even had a nervous breakdown, and decide he was going to have fun exploring the sights and sensations, before they came to take him away…
When it is a no win situation, and everything has been done to make ones life as unlivable as is possible…I fail to see how it is that so many of you “normal” people, can’t conceive of just how that effects the mental stability of people like “us”…
If nothing else…ponder these thoughts seriously, please…
To answer more directly…No, I do not consider tying up a person and raping them, to be love…I don’t consider viewing such a thing to be hate, either…I also reject the absurd and obscenely broad legal definitions of the term “rape”…because much of it simply is not rape…and the same stands for “abuse”…
“We” did not lock the door on your son…Your real battle, is with the system and moral extremists.
Steve…
