Date: December 20, 2009
[A BC Post]
I once got banned…
…from a self purported, “bastion of free speech”, over on the delphi forums [presuming such resource is still around].
The board, and it’s owner, actually put themselves forward on the “free speech” platform, as their claim to fame, and why they are so different from other forums…”You can speak your mind, and say what you want, here!”
I engaged in a handful of threads, got a bit of positive feedback…[People do, generally, find me very personable, measured and approachable…and I typically get good friendly responses, and even praise for my balanced and integral thoughts…until I apply the exact same level of balance and integrity, to any issue surrounding “pedophilia”, then things usually turn nasty on the part of others].
Someone introduced the topic of “pedophilia”, in some manner [though, there were typical, ignorant comments expressed]…and I gave a fairly long, cordial and thought provoking response, talking about how not everyone experiences these kinds of relationships/experiences equally the same. I expanded, on how some have had positive experiences, and retain fond memories.
The axe fell pretty fast [within an hour or so], and the self professed hero of free speech moderator, came rushing in to censor me, and properly lay down the law by threatening me publicly with a ban.
This was actually very tame writing, on my part, especially in comparison to how I usually write…So, I was like, “Good grief!”…and I calmly tried to explain, what I was trying to express, and why I was trying to express it…very respectfully, and trying to smooth over the situation…
Mister, “I am a champion of free speech” banned me from the forum, for this…
When another member called him out, for being astonishingly heavy handed [and partially defended me, and my consistent behavior there], this moderator white washed the whole thing, and [for the pacifying of those who never got to see my posts] claimed that I was doing something unspeakably dark and horrible…and I think there was even an implication, that I had somehow violated the law, or something to that effect.
It is amazing, how hyper ignorance on “pedophilia”, and gross ignorance pertaining to free speech law, go hand in hand.
This even got addressed, by me, in my last post on that forum [which also got deleted, in full]…
I’d participated here at BC [and a few other places], for several years…was even on the administration for a long time…Still, there are no shortage of ignorant bigots, who today [after well over a decade of my own personal, “hands on” experience], would presume to lecture me on what “is”, and what “is not”, legally protected free speech. They’d claim I am engaged in a crime, even for just posting watered down thoughts, with intent of infusing common sense and calm balance, into a discussion.
I don’t recall what depths of hostility that thread sank to [it’s been many years ago], but I do know…it is so typical, for regulars [or “drive bys”], to post the most vulgar of violent, terroristic threats, aimed at “pedophiles” in general…all without eliciting any form of response from a moderator. The hypocrisy is staggering.
I may, or may not, have a copy of those posts somewhere…buried in a collection of old writings…If I ever find them, maybe I’ll put them back online, again…but, regardless…
No one in their right mind, would maltreat someone for the kinds of things I posted.
The problem is that “pedophilia” has become so maligned, that simply having the resolve to discuss it sensibly, accurately or even clinically, has itself become seen as “profane”.
This is a serious problem, in many cultures. The focus is not on transparent, open and intelligent discussion, or working through problems to find solutions…but, instead it lies with sabotaging honest communication, and propping up the current power structure…no matter how corrupt, dishonest and abusive.
People will get outright nasty and abusive with you, if you have the integrity to speak truth…They act as though you just called their mother a whore, or something, when you did nothing of the sort.
At the same time, so many of these same people are blind to their own abusive [often corrupt, sometimes criminal] behavior, because when certain target subjects come up, they see themselves as having “free license”…and nobody will ever hold them accountable.
When you point out the folly, the hypocrisy, the shortcoming in their knowledge base, logic and behavior…that act alone, becomes a new, personal offense against them.
People who are not forced to confront the complexities of an issue, will generally default to a simplistic, and often erroneous, stance…and behave in kind.
To few people are forced to confront, just what “pedophilia” actually means.
I’ve been banned from a few forums, over the years, because of this.
It is good to have BC, and other places, where True Free Speech, actually lives a vibrant existence…and makes an actual impact.
So many other places out there, are just neutered and pathetic in comparison…They are populated by people, who do not know what Free Speech is, and lack anything resembling a true respect for Free Speech.
To add to the legacy of this specific episode, in the last year, I made a post on my blog that was inspired by this experience, where I talked about some of these things, and how many people just have no concept, of where the line of legality actually exists [and how many of them are just being abusive ass holes]…
Some goof ball found my post unexpectedly, in a web search…and threw a feisty fit, in my comments section [and, I strongly suspect, set a spam bot after my blog]…Quite a nasty chap, that one…
He has yet to say anything of intelligence, to my cordial response, to all his vitriol and abuse.