Date: April 25, 2010
Since advancement of human culture, man/boy love, has always been one of the most logical, practical ways of dealing with boyhood sexuality.
Ultimately, boys have sex…and, at pretty well all age stages, once they have been placed in social environments [ie: school].
…not all boys, of course…but, certainly a high enough percentage of them, to where we know, childhood sexuality is a very real aspect of human life. Those who deny this, are simply not being honest…or displaying incompetent ignorance.
Kids, even very young kids, are being caught doing sexual things, all the time…and how many more, are never being discovered?
Some people trivialise it, saying they were “sexualised”…and it’s all just “mindless mimicking, of what they saw”…Yet, these same kids, typically exhibit a personal, sexual arousal…and a personal, sexually motivated drive, to do these things…
This is true, even when they lack the words, and the mental concepts, to be able to communicate these things.
We cannot deny, that sexuality is an inherent part of being human…and, nearly all humans are sexual beings…fully capable of receiving, and engaging, sexual intimacies and pleasures.
Kids are having sex.
Despite however many people do not like this…it happens to be true…and it happens to be true, everywhere you go.
This is because, we are biologically hardwired, to sexually mate, to have sexual companions, and to experience regular, sexual stimulation and release. Age makes little difference in this natural, inborn drive. It is like hunger for food…The drive is just part of our natural biology.
In most cultures, it is inconvenient, to have close relatives producing offspring with each other…for many reasons. And, it has become even more inconvenient, to simply have people below certain ages, producing offspring, at all [even though, this was perfectly acceptable, even desirable, in fairly recent human history].
With sexually transmitted diseases becoming a concern, the focus has been on preventing vast numbers, and ranges, of people…from doing what comes most natural to them, and what is a key factor, in leading a healthy, happy, fulfilled and confident life.
Abstinence does not work…
It simply does not work, and this has been soundly demonstrated, over and over. It only makes for ignorant children, who grow into ignorant adults…
…and these children/teens, are still having sex.
Something the Romans and Greeks understood…
It has always been more practical, to leave open the door, for a generous, sexual indulgence, in a safe and controlled context, as opposed to enforcing strict prohibition, through threat and violence.
When sex is forced underground, it still happens…sometimes, more than it would, if it were openly accepted…The only thing is, “checks and balances” are lost…and, generally more naive, less experienced, people are engaging in bad sex [sex that is not really great sex], and sometimes doing dangerous things.
A typical life path, for young boys who have sex, would include brief encounters, with several different girls.
We all knew these boys, while growing up…They were always on the lookout, for any opportunity to have sex. When they had not done it in a while, you might see them consistently begging one, or more, girls, to have sex with them. They could spend a lot of time, just chasing after sex with any willing girl.
When this paid off, of course…that boy would then employ his bragging rights, and notch off another one of the school girls, on his list…Of course, the quality of the sex, whether it was worth the cost [to all involved], and how much sex he got out of all this, are the questions of deeper importance.
For all their effort, most of these boys merely get a girl, who’s willing to get naked, and lie still on her back…just to let him get on top, and mate her.
Depending on various factors, that may be it…That may be the very last time, this boy and that girl, ever have sex again…but, they’ve already taken this step, and “chemically mixed”, so to speak.
If that boy is lucky, maybe the girl will agree to this once, or twice, more…and it would be a true, sexual boon, if it were half a dozen times.
The point is, these kinds of sexual “relationships”, are normally very limited [often, because the experience is not equally exciting, and fulfilling, for the girls], and for what little sexual fulfillment the boy is getting out of them, he is still taking the exact same level of risks, by opening himself [and the girl] up to STDs and infections, and maybe even pregnancy.
I come at this from the philosophy, that we should choose our sexual companions with care, and consideration for how likely it is, that both partners will realise maximum sexual mileage. I do not believe, that we should recklessly open ourselves up to risks, over a limited, sexual fling [which is what most boyhood sex amounts to]. I believe, we should keep the number of sexual companions we have, over a lifetime, generally low in number. I see pursuing someone like this, as an investment…intended to pay off, in a long term, sexual relationship…lasting years, and consisting of very much sex.
This model, is generally healthy…and it is practical, to the human nature.
People, including children, should have practical choices available, to freely satisfy their own sexuality [which is vital, to a humans well being, and mental stability], on a regular and frequent basis.
Because of the pitfalls, in boys having sexual flings, with half the girls in school…I think, BoyLovers should be seen, as a viable and promotable alternative, in addressing boyhood sexuality…addressing it in a free will, free association, no pressure kind of way.
…Just including it in sex education, saying “This is out there, and it’s okay”…giving it an aura of dignified respectability.
…and boys should be made aware…
…Yes, you can spend half your time, following those girls around, and begging for sex, for days on end…just to get a quick, “dead fuck”, from a girl who isn’t really into it, and doesn’t really want it…and you can open up yourself to various, unwanted things, for those poorly planned, scantly few minutes of ecstasy…
…Or, you can actually have a long term, sexual companion, who knows a lot about mind blowing, satisfying sex…and who is totally into having sex with you…This can keep you in regular, frequent sex, for years [as opposed to the half dozen or so, times you get it, via traditional methods of chasing young girls]…It can make you grow as a human being, both sexual and otherwise…and it keeps you with one companion, limiting unnecessary exposure, and preventing an unwanted pregnancy [providing the BoyLover is a man].
A BoyLover in a boys life, is an incredibly advantageous, natural resource, for any boy perceptive enough to know, when he has a good thing in front of him…
…This is “the gravy train”, for boyhood sexuality…
…and, hence, it is a very obvious choice, when looking at options, on how to bring STDs, pregnancies, rape, etc, under control, while at the same time raising boys to be sexually gifted and responsible…which brings with it, a host of other, social benefits.