Monthly Archives: October 2012

It’s a freak show…

Date: October 24, 2012

01) Why do I do this to myself?

“I’ll read an article about a child abduction or murder, that doesn’t affect me beyond “that really sucks” and that is not what I go looking for. However when I do find those articles I immediately go to the comments section. Why?”

The freaky spectacle put on display, is one of a psychological nature…people who think of themselves as good and normal, exhibiting the thoughts and intentions of mentally ill, inhumanely violent sociopaths…all without the price tag, of a real world consequence.

There is something about looking at how people act and get carried away…which can be a source of…I don’t know…perplexed fascination?…

…Of course, I’m talking about the people, who make outright sick and demented threats towards people like us…Those who spread bad information can be quite distasteful, also.

Anal Sex = The Last Taboo?…


Date: October 22, 2012

01) Anal sex: Science’s last taboo

“As of the 1990s, only about one-quarter to one-third of young women and men in the U.S. had tried anal sex at least once. Less than 20 years later […] as many as 40-45 percent of women and men in some age groups had tried anal sex.”

“They surveyed more than 2,000 women ages 18 to 30 about their experiences with anal sex.”

“Only about one-quarter of women said their first experience with anal sex was pleasant.”

“…nearly two-thirds tried anal sex again…”

“Certainly enough people have been having anal sex over enough generations that if anything were seriously dangerous about anal sex, we would know it by now.”

“[W]e also don’t know much about the long-term effects of anal intercourse…[…]…because no one has studied these kinds of things.”

“…more women in the U.S. have received anal sex than the number of men who have received anal sex…”

This is an interesting article, about a University of Zagreb study…in which the topic was women’s experience with anal sex…

I’m not going to attempt analyzing anything…but, I thought this was interesting enough to mention…and that some others might find it interesting…You should read the whole article, as I’ve only quoted a handful of points…which I think are over all relevant…

I do think this article underscores something rather substantial, however…that being, the prevalence of anal sex in heterosexual behavior. Anal sex is stereotypically associated with homosexuals, despite the fact that many of us have never had anal sex…And in all reality, heterosexuals account for a large percentage of the anal sex which is going on.

Heterosexuality does not get stereotypically associated with anal sex…even though it is a substantial contributor to the practice…I tend to wonder, why it does not get it’s accurate representation.

…Are too many heterosexuals embarrassed about this?

Probably one of the more interesting revelations I have encountered, is this very phenomena…Anal sex is looked down upon by so many heterosexuals…yet, so many of them are doing it, too…and it’s not being acknowledged.

Anal sex is every bit as much heterosexual, as it is homosexual…or bisexual…and “nobody” is recognizing this point…I think, there are a lot of closet cases, out there in the hetero world.

It’s interesting to note, this parallel with studies on pedophilia…where we also don’t know much or have concrete statistics, because nobody is studying it in any meaningful way…

…Do we have a problem with confronting issues, because of a deeper social problem relating to taboo and personal embarrassment?

Shouldn’t these things be studied?…and if not, then why should they not be studied?

Another point I find interesting…is that nearly 25% of the women reported their first time trying anal sex, as being pleasant…and that is something which seems counter intuitive…

As a homosexual male, myself…I readily admit there can be very serious pain associated with anal penetration [I’ve had prostate exams, during doctors visits]…I am not at all, a fan of being anally penetrated…and my younger years aside [where I might have tried it with an age peer], I have not been prone towards the activity…I find it unthinkable, to push this upon another…You think it’s going to be painful, and may even injure them…

…Then you have these cases…first timers, saying it was good…and it was a lot of the first timers…not just people who’ve become accustomed to it.

Honestly…I don’t really know what to do with that information…and I don’t believe it would translates evenly, to cases where young people [teens and children] are anally penetrated by adults.

I actually take a very strong stance, against adults penetrating children in sexual ways…even though I am aware, some homosexuals have accounted that [as boys] they craved having sex with adult men, in that way.

Anyway…I have to take strong issue with the title of that article…

…Anal sex is certainly not the last taboo of science…There are a number of issues, which are every bit as much taboo, if not worse…pedophilia comes immediately to mind…

I just wish, people would stop taking singular issues, placing them on a pedestal…and trying to suggest, that “this” is the last frontier being held back by taboo and stigma.

This author probably didn’t mean anything deep or literal, within that choice of wording…but still, given all the groups/issues which are marginalized by taboo and stigma…it’s kind of insulting [or dismissive, at any rate], when people do that…

…It’s much like when minorities announce themselves as, “the last legitimate group to liberate”.


Mmmmm…yes…”Spiritual Murder”…

Date: October 10, 2012

01) Link

…”Judge Cleland is even more offensive, explicitly proclaiming that the “victims” suffered “an assault on their souls” in addition to a psychological assault”…

This sounds like a spin, on the “molestation is spiritual/psychological murder” line.

I’ve never thought to highly of people who go there, and try to employ this tactic.

…It’s the same sort of thing, that comes from the voodoo molestation crowd…They’re always dreaming up excuses, why nobody can say anything about sex which they disapprove of…It invariably has something to do, with some other person, somewhere else, entirely out of your own sphere of control, reading your words and allegedly deciding to molest/kidnap/rape/murder a child “because” of what you said…

…and, gee…with such “high stakes” being saddled on your words…who can say anything at all?…Quite the corner, to be backed up, hog-tied, gagged, blindfolded and ear-plugged in…isn’t it?

I realize that sometimes people do sexually/psychologically devastating things to other people…and those other people may never recover from it, entirely…It may be fair, to describe those things in such a way…

…but I’ve also witnessed these carefully designed bits of emotion dripping, outrage evoking, slick behavior/effect labels used far to many times, as nothing more than a naked weapon to lash out, and bludgeon other people with…

I am like you, Will…It disgusts me to see people do this…Language that pushes peoples emotional buttons, should be left at the door.

We are still viewed as separate…


Date: October 9, 2012

01) Movie portraying children sexuality

“On the one hand there is the Sandusky trial and on the other hand there is a movie that discusses children sexuality. The movie is clear about its message of love and no mention of abuse.

Are we not keeping up with peoples’ perceptions about us? I feel that there is a trend that people are accepting more and more children’s sexuality. How come we are not recognizing this acceptance amongst us as childlovers?”

There is no doubt, for years there have been marginalized voices [separate from us] attempting to bring social acknowledgement to childhood sexuality [at least as a matter of human sexual development].

Since many people view childhood sexuality as being extremely inconvenient to current social models, reviving social consciousness towards childhood sexuality [and it’s various issues, both personal to the child and social] has been a challenging shell to crack.

It does seem that their is a growing acknowledgement, that ignoring and suppressing a humans natural sexuality at those ages, generally leads to negative effects. This is not to imply anybody “has to” have sexual experiences at those ages, in order to grow up fine…It’s just to say, that neglecting the practical issues that arise surrounding a child’s natural sexuality, is over all bad. A child should not feel shamed into silence about their very real sexuality, for example.

There have been sex experts in recent decades, who openly advocated positive reaffirmation [ie: “That feels good, doesn’t it?”], whenever a parent finds their young child sexually stimulating themselves, for example…and just being non-judgementally open, about discussing sex with their child…and accepting, about various sexual things their child is more likely than not to eventually do [ie: masturbation].

These are good trends, but I’ve also seen those exact same experts being booed and rejected by audiences, for answering in such ways…What they say may be sound, but many people don’t want to hear it.

…That is a deep social problem…truth and reality, getting rejected in favor of “social wisdom”…a principle more in place to enforce “social norms” and prevent change, than anything else.

…But we should not ignore the fact, that some sex experts have been acknowledging childhood sexuality for a very long time.

It’s important to note, that “we” are not seen as being involved in that equation…Meaning, “childhood sexuality” and “pedophilia” are framed as two distinct issues.

In the real world, they certainly could intertwine…but it’s political suicide for an expert in the field of sex, to openly state such…as it would be, for people in many professions.

It’s also important to note, that while a lot of these movies may be interesting to us for watching, and there might be some angle by which we can personally identify with them…these movies are not about “us”…

…I have yet to actually see a movie which I can honestly say, it is my opinion that it gives an accurate portrayal of actual “pedophilia”, and a realistic storyline for “pedophiles”…let alone, a reasonably balanced representation of adult/child sexual relations.

At best, movies typically dance lightly around the kids sexual experiences…and that is all that those parts of the movie are about.

It’s nice to see the acknowledgement…but these movies are sometimes targeted with “child porn” accusations, too.

It is out there, and we’ll find an oasis every now and again…but there are very loud, obnoxious and aggressive groups, who are very intent on suppressing this sort of thing…Which is why we so rarely see it, even in it’s most tame of forms.



For a Lost Soldier…

Date: October 9, 2012

01) For a Lost Soldier

“It’s been mentioned here countless times before, but I think For A Lost Soldier is the only major motion picture that fits the bill.”

I was thinking to myself while writing that post, that I know someone is going to mention at least one movie, that does fit fairly well…and FALS is an obvious one…though I’ve seen a few others mentioned, where this kind of relationship was more implied by the movie, and not explicitly shown, also.

There is one caveat I do have…and that being, that anal sex where a man penetrates a young boy [and yes, I know “young boy” is a bit more hazy, when we are really talking young teens], I feel is not a very accurate representation for what I have come to learn, as being statistically common for “pedophilia”.

…Why are us [would be] little boy cock suckers so neglected and under appreciated?! 😉

Seriously, though…As a personal and practical matter, I will never have anal sex…and absolutely not with a kid that young.

I am coming at this from the perspective of being an LBL, so this greatly effects my position…and I think anal sex when concerning young boys, is best left between similar age mates, if it comes up at all.

I’ve always felt like most people are oblivious to the fact, that our style of “pedophile” even exists…Yet, statistically, we are the overwhelming majority.

This is probably the only major way, in which I do not consider FALS to be a good representation of typical “pedophilia”…

…I generally give it leeway, regarding some of the other things it’s been knocked for [like the aggressive pursuit of Jerome, or the soldiers abrupt leaving]…because life isn’t a perfect fairy tale, nor was it meant to be…And I think people can honestly go well overboard, when deciding how perfectly constructed the world is supposed to be around children…as if they wont survive a few “rough n tumble”, sad or disappointing experiences.

…Of course…they will…and they do, all the time…

If it fit’s peoples ideas of a good social model, then they call it “building character”…or “making you stronger”.

I’ll generally concede the point, that there is a balanced and decent theme for man/boy love, in FALS…Or at the very least, this is about as close as we’ve come thus far, in getting “the perfect” account of a man/boy sexual love affair.

I forget the soldiers name…but he is very human, in this movie…The relationship, is very human…very mutually empathetic.

Banned Sexual Orientation Therapy…


Date: October 2, 2012

01) BoyChat

“…Religious and civil rights law groups say they are headed to federal court to try to stop a new California law that bars licensed counselors and therapists – even if they are pastors, priests or rabbis — from helping anyone under 18 to change their sexual orientation…”

02) Original News Story

I don’t know that I specifically agree with the strict letter of that law [which prohibits even instances where a homosexual youth personally wants to seek it]…but I do think this is something, generally in the right direction.

To me…I don’t know that there is a right answer, when youth want this for themselves [and yes, I know there’s a lot of destructive, preconditioning that goes into this]…If they are dead set on pursuing it and believe they cannot live this way…then they have a lot to work through, and merely denying them the first hand experience of this path may not help…but I do know that compulsory negative influence surrounding your orientation, can become personally devastating.

A lot of times when I was growing up and discovering the revelations of my own sexuality…I wished for some kind of sanctuary…Not necessarily to be made different…but to have a way out of my circumstances…to be rid of the conflict…and the fear…

Sometimes I look at what is going on today, with gay youth groups…”gay straight alliances”, and the like, openly practicing in public schools…It about blows my mind…That sort of thing was inconceivable, back when I was in school…and where I went to school, this would have never been allowed, at all…

…I wish it had been…

As someone who has led an isolated existence of this sort…I wish there had been something/someone there, to stand up for people like me.

…I think these laws ultimately should focus on those people/groups, who impose a hostile atmosphere of aggression, threat and shame upon kids who are not heterosexual…most especially, those cases where the kids cannot leave the place and situation.

…These settings are rife with psychological and emotional abuse…even at the hands of the well meaning.

I think…crippling a human beings sense of well being and self worth, is the true crime…