Daily Archives: April 30, 2013

BoyLovers and Gays: Who is “Dragging Down” Who?…


Date: April 30, 2013

…BoyChat Response…

…BoyChat Response…

“…’use ’em and throw ’em away’ is a common interpretation of such affairs. Some gay men subscribe to ideologies that value temporary relationships, cruising, one-night stands and even anonymous sex, but heterosexuals are very unlikely to take this up as official line, despite the existence of naughty swingers’ clubs.”

Good incite…

…Often gays like to expound on how association with us has damaged them so badly…Yet Child Lovers and Teen Lovers have been no less damaged, by the sexual baggage of the gay community…and yes, the “normal” heterosexual community, also.

In fact, I would argue that we got the far worse end of this deal…We have to unfairly contend with these gay stereotypes, which dismiss us as “looking for anyone to shove our dicks in”…

…”Meat truck orgies”…”Bath houses”…”Regular anonymous sex”…

I’m not trying to devalue anybody else’s life experiences…but at the same time, that is not me

Short of being pulled into something like that as a boy, and at the efforts of other kids [and maybe not even then]…I would not have ever in my life, ended up doing any of those things…I’ve never done any of that…

I see it as reckless and very dangerous behavior…and it is not something I associate with being a BoyLover.

It’s always bothered me that BoyLovers get tainted with this stereotype, just because our natural relationships are same sex.

And yes…For the record, a lot of gays do not do those things, either…It’s not right to associate what a minority does, with the rest of the majority.