Date: September 24, 2013
“You do not give enough attention, or consideration, to actual victims of sexual assault.”
I live in a world of humans, that officially and socially gives attention, consideration and human respect to groups which do not conveniently fall into their own ideologies, at a degree which makes it pretty well non-existent.
In countless cases and numerous regards…even the very state, itself, behaves as a terrorist against these harmless people, who merely wish for a natural companion for them to love.
Virtually nobody speaks for these victims…let alone, about them in any way that accurately reflects upon their character.
These types of groups need a voice…There needs to be an avenue of open communication…There needs to be mutual respect and understanding. It needs to be understood, that we all have a right to exist…and a right to live, equal to that of any other human being.
My focus as someone part of such a minority…is to point out and emphasize what is missing, in current social and political dialogue. This is why I have a strong history, of going back to these kinds of topics, and taking the hard and dangerous social stand.
I don’t like ruffling feathers…but the almost universal discrimination, hate speech, violence [violation in countless forms] and censorship aimed at minorities like my own, is dead wrong…it is indefensible…it is cruel and immensely destructive. I cannot be compliant, in its existence…And I will not be silent, in the face of this social and political evil.
…Please do not confuse standing up for the unseen victims of extreme intolerance, with disregarding victims of actual sexual brutality. I fully acknowledge, that both of these categories of victim truthfully exist.
Victims of sexual brutality, have masses of advocates…People who are merely guilty of being socially marginalized, do not.
My niche is in giving attention, to those victims who are getting no adequate attention.
I make no distinctions…between [for example] victims who were brutally raped as children, who have to live with the consequences their entire lives…and [for example] those who have had their lives torn apart, being sent to prison [maybe for decades] or worse, merely because they dared to love “the wrong person”…These are both despicable, inhumane things to visit upon anyone…Both of these, are what I would recognize as true evil…And the world would be better off, if all of these forms of wickedness were eradicated.
Please do not frame this as a “black or white”, “either this or that” type of issue…It is nothing of the sort. You do not have to support one form of barbaric evil, just to combat another form of it. In fact, if you choose to do such…then you are just using one form of evil, as an excuse to commit evil yourself…And you are no better, than those who you claim to fight.
People who are being attacked, demonized and suppressed…they need voices…Out of all people, they most immediately and most intensely need their own voices.
Victims of sexual violence already have their voices, their resources, their support structures and their places to go when they need help…
…Victims who are in my category, do not sincerely have any of these things.
If I give stronger emphasis in my topical discussion, to people in my own social situation who have suffered grave injustice…it is because, this is where I see the most alarming, most pressing need for such attention…Virtually nobody else is doing it…And these minorities need a voice, more desperately now than ever.
You should welcome this type of a voice…If nothing else, it gives a fair and honest incite, into the sort of world people like myself live in…and why the vicious, vile oppression of people like us, needs to be brought to an end.
We all have a mutual interest in this…Whether you see it or not…we do.
I want to repeat one thing, I’ve expressed numerous times in the past…
…I have nothing but the utmost sympathy and respect, for those who have been sexually brutalized during their lifetime. Many of these people, have had something [their own sexuality] which should have been a wonderful part of life for themselves to discover and experience great joy in, stripped of them…and have had ugly memories, experiences and phobias imposed upon them…What was done to them is unspeakable, in my opinion.
Likewise…I have nothing but empathy and respect for those who, through no fault of their own, have found themselves victims of social stigma…those who have lived in the cross hairs of destructive social intolerance…Many people who have been loved by ones such as myself, have fallen into this category…The ugly residue of intolerance for people like myself, rubs off onto these tragic victims, who are made by society to feel dirty, guilty, wronged, damaged and shamed, no matter what happened. Though fault is commonly misplaced in these cases…these are also victims…They also have been deeply impacted, damaged and caused to suffer…And many of them lay their anger and hate at the feet of people like myself, because they did not want to go through all of that…and they never should have had to.
Many people may suggest, that I show contempt for these specific groups of victim…or that I lack all understanding, of where they are coming from or what they have gone through…but those people are dead wrong.
There are many hard truths, which many people do not want to hear…
…One of those hard truths today, is that phobia, hate and intolerances must be put aside…Because it is the social incorporation and acceptance of people like myself, which is going to reign in an era…where the types of victims I have just pointed out, are going to greatly reduce in numbers.
You cannot even begin to tackle these problems…until you learn the truth, learn to be honest, learn to take hard but solid stances, learn to stand against hostility and intolerance, learn that all people must have a voice and social standing, learn that people like myself are not a threat…learn to stop using every so called “sex pervert” as a social scapegoat…and learn to stop labeling every single sexual thing that is socially inconvenient in the minds of some, a “sexual assault” or “sex offense”.
We need to get our minds out of the horror fantasy world, created by crusading zealots…and get them back into the real, natural world, as it actually exists.
…Only then can we actually start to address, what all may very well be wrong within “pedophile minorities”…And yes, there are problems…Many of these problems within “pedophile minorities”, are literally caused by outside intolerance…vicious social intolerance…And what develops, is a repetitive vicious cycle.
…We need to break that vicious cycle, and bring “pedophiles” into the fold…Do people understand this point?
This is the only rational direction to move forward…And anybody who fights this, is supporting and defending the current status quo…a status quo, which creates countless numbers of victims, commonly for no sane reason…countless victims who would have otherwise been just fine, had they just been left alone and not been declared “a victim” by others…and not been forced to live under that imposed delusion.
That is some brutal honesty, for you…Some people hate me, for my character trait of speaking brutal honesty…But I respect all others enough, to speak truth.
We need honesty and openness, first…This is our base, to start from and move forward.
What we do not need, is what we presently have…that being, zealots who won’t even acknowledge things as they naturally are in the real world, calling all the shots, creating all the sound bites, doing all the interviews, lobbying all the lawmakers, heading all the organizations, etc, etc…
…Those very same zealots, are at the very core of the problem…Many people [including children] will be sexually brutalized, and victimized in a wide range of ways…specifically because of those zealots, and the damage they are wreaking upon the public.
If these zealots could see past their own phobia and dogma…they might actually start understanding, not only what true victimization really is…but that by embracing “pedophiles”, we are creating a world where they can attain good mental health and stability…and in doing such, we are helping to create socially aware, socially responsible individuals. Even if “pedophiles” only account for a tiny fraction of a percentage of true sexual violence [which they in fact do], this is a rational direction, supporting the claimed goal of ending sexual violence [especially against children].
Since sexual brutality against children is soundly a problem caused overwhelmingly by normal heterosexuals, you are not going to solve it by targeting “pedophiles”…However…bringing “pedophiles” out in the open, will allow us to better police the conduct in our own communities.
Ultimately…my own vision for the future, has been based upon these previous several paragraphs.
If you somehow think that this makes me “inconsiderate” or “disrespectful” towards victims, or that I supposedly “do not care about victims issues”, then you clearly have never understood me, why I am here and what motivates me.
…When it comes to these specific issues, I have always spoken of the victims [in one form or another], and/or at least had them in my mind as motivation.
Just because there are some out there, who are so callous they claim my definition of victim “is not good enough”, and hence they refuse to recognize all the same victims that I do…does nothing to end the fact that those people are still victims, every bit as real as those of sexual brutality.
No…For me, this has always been about standing up for victims of all types, and trying to create a world with fewer victims in it.
…If that is not good enough respect and servitude to those who have been victimized [sexually or otherwise], then nothing ever possibly could be.
Truth be told, people like me show a tremendous deal more respect towards victims of sexual violence, than most…At the very least, I respect those victims enough not to lie to them…Which puts me well ahead of the status quo.
I am neither feeding people fantasy, nor trying to saddle others with false victimhood and all the psychological baggage that comes with it.
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