Date: March 10, 2014
“I believe that our main goal should be The Humanization of Minor Attracted People and civil rights.”
…Or, stated another way…We need to increase focus on our commonalities, and on what our individual existences honestly are like…We need to promote a mutual sympathy, not just for our own plight…but for the fears and phobias [and for some people, things they actually experienced at the hands of “a pedophile” and society] which are held by many.
It’s not enough to simply express truth…People commonly do not think in terms of “what is true”…or more accurately, in terms of continually searching for what is true.
…To many people think “they just know”…or even if they don’t, that they are acting on behalf of some “higher cause”, by behaving as though their actions are above question…or “obviously, for the better”.
I think…a better goal moving forward…is for the creation of a better form of dialogue…Not one where people of opposed sides are relentlessly looking for “the win”…But one where people actually want to set down, and work through issues which divide us and issues which injure us…not just as individuals, but as a whole society…even as a species, in some regards.
This demands a far better quality of individual, because they all must want to work with each other on a common base goal…not work against each other, like so many people already do [even amongst our own ranks].
This means that a lot of the ruckus and noise making must be placed aside…and, almost certainly, that this kind of constructive dialogue cannot happen here.
As to individual issues, I cannot speak for anyone else…but these are ideas on what I have a tendency to do.
B4U-ACT is the only organization I am even aware of, which is making any positive advancement in this area. Despite reservations and understanding it may not be what a lot of us think ideal…I’ve always held a deep respect for what they are doing. I’ve seen over the years, that despite our outward face we put on, that “we are doing okay”…for many of us, we are not doing okay…Some have no place to turn to.
Be it what it is and has been…I will continue to give general support and promotion to B4U-ACT…I think, they are at the only place in mental health right now, where genuine change can begin to take place…Things will spring from this place.
I don’t have any grand scheme regarding mental health…other than personally not going insane, or falling into a deep pit of despair…Not allowing myself to be mentally, emotionally and spiritually beaten down by others, here or elsewhere. I plan to hold onto those things which give my life meaning and hope.
Given the place where we stand today…I think, this is a balanced and realistic outlook.
Legal system and government:
Any of us can speak of “what needs to happen”…but to be totally honest with you…I don’t know where to begin, or where to focus…
Largely…I believe much of the reason we are where we are, is because the government with it’s “justice system”, is simply too big and invasive…and it has largely been expanding into our private lives [even where it never should be], as a means of substantiating it’s own tendency to grow and expand…”There is always something, that needs to be stopped or regulated”…It is an inhuman social machine, handling humans and their issues and needs, daily.
Maybe…we should promote that being a decent person with good intentions, is not enough to justify falling foul of “the justice system”…
I am, however…like most here…disenfranchised from the legal process…and in my opinion, the wrong people are pulling the strings of this puppet we call “the justice system”…To many of them are not people, that give a damn about the destructive impact of their own actions…Many of them are, in fact, in denial about their own actions being destructive at all.
…Exactly the wrong sort of people, to be entrusted with such power…Maybe, nobody can be trusted with this sort of power…Maybe, this type of power simply should not exist.
There are a lot of times, when I think many of the anti-state anarchists have it right.
We need to pin people and organizations down to concrete positions…and we need to press them, to put their money where their mouth is.
Some questions that come to mind for me…Is “pedophilia” a mental illness, or not?…Is it a disability, or not?…
I have my own opinions on these questions, but they are not relevant in this context…because I’m not discussing my opinion on these questions…
If it is a consensus that we are mentally ill…and it would also follow, that we would have a disability…it needs to be explained and justified, just why we [who are allegedly so dangerous to children, and where children are of the greatest concern] have been consistently denied social benefits and programs for our disabilities…as well as resources for our mental illness…
There needs to be some consistency, not only on where things stand, but on following through to logical conclusions…No more of this languishing on in a debased sphere of existence, which is neither here nor there.
This is what I want to see, socially…No more hiding behind, “They are evil, so lock them in prison and throw away the key”…but a genuine, consistent stance…
It is already well established, that we are complex individuals, who share most of the same human themes as anyone else…including deep personal conflict, and self reflection…a sense of moral and ethical right…inability to escape our circumstances…attempting to make the best of what we have…
…It is high time society started acknowledging this, and living by a humane approach towards us…
There may still be a lot wrong in what they do…but at least they will start behaving more consistently.
I’m reminded of an old proverb I just recently got reintroduced with…
“Be kind…Each individual is fighting a great battle.”
Society desperately needs to embrace this proverb, and live by it…It’s not just the golden rule…it is wisdom and insight, the likes of which all social behaviors and policies really ought to spring from.
If society were actually kind and understanding towards us, so much senseless conflict and suffering could be avoided…on all fronts.
…I intend to continue promoting the ideals I have discussed here, along with others I have not discussed here. That is my plan for the future.
Since like many others, I’ve been part of a handful of groups and efforts over many, many years…I ascribe to the principle, that fighting wrong in this world is a matter of multi-pronged initiatives, spread out over a wide range of people and groups…and in the present, so much of what we spend our time doing may feel like little more than spinning our wheels…but it is adding to a positive body of effort and work…
…It is a search for understanding, and being understood…an attempt to find symbiotic existence with this world…and that is not a bad thing…In fact, everybody should be doing this.