Date: May 11, 2014
This selection from “In Self Defense: The Life and Times of An Atheist BoyLover…Memoirs and Ethos”, has been narrated by Rocco White. Please enjoy the listen, or read along if you like…or need to.
I cant even tell you how many times I’ve seen people expressing the notion, that one sexual instance [or a few of them] during their own childhood “destroyed them” in some manner…this even being stated sometimes, about very mild, very consensual contact.
You know…it caused them to think about issues, privately…it caused them to wrestle with things, they did not understand…Maybe, over the years it caused them to obsess over what happened, because they lacked a caring confidant to confide in…somebody who could help them make sense of it.
In the absence of a wise, stable and level headed voice…what were they left to do, except embrace the loudest, most dominant voice out there?
If nothing else is being told to them…then what else are they supposed to think, in regards to what happened?
I sometimes wonder…how it is, that some of us find our way through this social forest…and on our own, we make sense of it…we come out of it with a context, that we understand…Not only do we understand it, but we want it…we love it…
…What went so terribly different, with those who never made it to this place?…Were the social pressures just too much for them?…Did they not understand, how they were being manipulated by other people and groups in society?
It just seems to me…they would have been so much better off, had they not been pushed through all of this psychological anguish…and forced to carry false shame…or a false sense of being damaged.
…I question these things…
…What if there were no preconceived notions, of “absolute bad touch”?
…What if the woman who has lived with psychological baggage since she was eight years old, because someone touched her “forbidden spot”, had been allowed to live a life liberated of that psychological baggage…because nobody would have been there to saddle her with these life long problems?…What if the concept would not have even existed?…And she could have been free, to remember the incident in a different light?…or even to discard it, and move on with her life, not allowing it to have any impact?
Wouldn’t that be much preferable, to what we have today?…
…Because what we have today…is, essentially, a professional victim mill…taking the willing and unwilling alike…taking the deserved and undeserved alike…and branding them “victims”…”damaged”…”injured”…people allegedly in endless need, of the guidance and control of the victim mill, itself.
Have you ever thought that just because your genitals were touched in an “unconventional” or taboo way…maybe reality is…there was no bad consequence to this experience?…
…Maybe, the victim mill was wrong?…Maybe, the victim mill was lying to you?…Maybe, the victim mill wants you as it’s pawn?…Maybe, the victim mill has very hostile social sexual ambitions?…ambitions which they intend, for all of the rest of us to submit to?
Today, we have a rising social attitude amongst some…divorced from reality, or from any balanced social respect…where it seems people are enthusiastic to find anything to get offended over…even taken to the point, of absurdly framing themselves as “a victim”…when the entire offense, is nothing other than what they have reconstructed in their own mind…Something born out of their own sense of being offended…
Often times…it feels like these individuals throw themselves into the middle of things, with intentions of causing problems…and without any thought or consideration, for the fact that those who they are trying to disrupt, do have genuine and sincere need for this type of dialogue.
It is as if they don’t understand…social problems do exist outside their own range of perspective…and those social problems are experienced by other people, who they do not identify with…But this makes those social problems no less critical or important.
I wish people would be more respectful of this, whenever they become offended and wish to evoke their own victimhood, just so that they can go on an attack against others or try to disrupt things.
How much of this “victimhood” being bantered about, is even genuine or real?…How much of it is just trite, trendy hive mentality?…
This world does not need more people who are obsessed with being offended, loud and obnoxious public spectacles…
…It needs people who want to work together, to build bridges, to foster understanding and to solve social problems.