Date: July 19, 2014
There is that, yes…
…and if one is looking broadly enough, one will certainly find things I’ve not given acknowledgement too in my posts. But to reserve a minimum of fairness for myself…I was never intending to write an all encompassing thesis on this…I just set out to share a few thoughts, which is one of the most typical behaviors on this board.
The question of kids who are simply raised to be open and free, regarding what they can talk about with their parents?
Yes, I completely agree with you. I still don’t believe this is the norm…though admittedly, I’m getting a bit crusty and old…and I’m not an expert, on every nuance of how modern kids are relating to the issues of sex.
Near as I’ve seen it…There have always been the more open and tolerant families, who will let their kids be…well…open, about the subject matter [they can ask anything, tell anything, etc.]…Those families don’t represent a majority, as I understand it…Repression of the issue, intentional or not, has been the norm.
…Which is one of the reasons why it makes lesser sense to me, when a kid living in a generally non-permissive culture, doesn’t think twice about just blurting something like this out without understanding the wider consequences…At the very least, to me, this implies some degree of sheltering and imposed naivety…or indoctrination.
In all fairness, we don’t know if the kid who tattled was doing so, because he thought “This is wrong, and I’ve got to tell someone who can stop it.”, or if he just thought it was funny and told his mom…or if he was just sincerely looking to someone he trusted, in order to explore and work out the whole issue in his own mind.
You’re right…There are a lot of things, which potentially lead to that kind of exposure.
…I’m still inclined to believe, that an indoctrinated kid under the thumb of his parents, is the most likely scenario.
But you know what?…I am something of a paradox here, myself.
My early family life was very repressive in this manner…yet I unwittingly found myself in at least a couple early life exposures to sexuality, compliments of a few older cousins.
It might be wrong to say “it’s in my genes”, even though who I am [and my natural interests] likely played a role in this…but I think I was mostly just conditioned by my parents, to know that I could not talk about this without something bad coming of it. As consequence, it never occurred to me to say a single word to anyone, about any of it. This is a conclusion I came to, when I was six, seven…eight years old…I don’t even recollect any exact age…I just remember the events, vividly…and knowing without question, I could not tell anyone about it.
Only one of these cousins, from the latter experience, begged me not to say anything about it…but it never crossed my mind to tell anyone, anyway.
Maybe, it has always just come naturally to me because of who and what I am, to shelter what I interpret as good or neutral, and to keep necessary secrets.