Old Cunundrum…


Date: October 18, 2014

…To what extent does [BoyChat] influence or encourage some to take daft risks?…

…To what extent does [BoyChat] influence or encourage some to take daft risks?…

Old Cunundrum…

…But let me offer a thought, or two.

Note: I realize what follows may seem a bit wide reaching [rape, murder, etc.], in the face of your original post…but your post reminded me of someone who went by the name “p=[chad]”…and if you know about their case, then you can understand the context, and why I went in this direction. I got tired of writing, before I got around to mentioning this person specifically. For the record, I’m not entirely referencing this person, as I maintained a far distance from him, and hence harbor no personal sense of guilt in the mess he created…He creeped me out…Anyone with half a lick of common sense, knew something bad was in his future…and that he was inevitably going to take others down with him…But even saying all of this, I think very few of us would have expected him to do what he did. Should there have been more critical response given to p=[chad]?…Probably…But there are some people in this world, who you cant tell anything too…They’ve already got this idea and direction in their head…If you don’t support it, well…you are nobody to them. He was a train wreck waiting to happen, but you could have only known this in your gut, unless you were one of his close friends who knew what he was up too…There was no practical way, for most people to intervene…Heck, he concealed it so well, that there was no obvious reason to ban him from these resources, though I know he would have been, had we known what he was up too.

Most things and people are outside our sphere of control…sometimes, even that of our influence…Sometimes, they will do bad things…

…And sometimes, those people will arrive here and intermingle with us socially…Sometimes, it will be of a friendly and warm nature…

…What is our culpability, in holding conversation with them?…or in exploring, even arguing, an idea?

In some regards, this comes down to the crux of the same questions posed, when considering if NAMBLA held culpability in the murder of Jeffery Curley…

…We need to keep in mind, though…people searching for an excuse and validation, are going to keep looking until they think they have found it somewhere…And a violent, homicidal, necrophiliac sociopath…where do we suppose, such a person who can wrap his mind around doing all of that, cannot find some “hidden message”, that tells him to do as he pleases?

People like us have always been convenient “sitting ducks”, for anyone who claims their style of behavior [or what they have done], was the result of any manner of contact with us.

This is the sad reality of it…

…Anyone can connect themselves to us [this resource, etc.]…and go on to do things which the rest of us condemn, or advise against…And there is not a thing we can do, to stop them from this…aside from allowing only pre-approved posters to interact here [and even that is not a total guarantee]…but that destroys much of the reason for this board.

We cannot allow people to destroy and manipulate us through, and over, this.

There are many “pedophiles” who have done unspeakable things…This does not mean that we are bound or obliged, to bare the burden of their actions. It means that we are bound to a social problem, which we need to gain control over. Only then can we actually begin to exercise any power, over those who rape, brutalize and murder children, teens, etc…

In fact…I have to cast off these chains of blame even more fiercely, because of how disenfranchised, disconnected and debased we have been kept.

What is anybody to do, about things they don’t know about and are in no position to stop?…It is all the worse complicated, when we consider the endless list of dangers confronting us.

Yes, I have asked the question before…whether some individual has ever used my words, to justify cruel and inhumane behavior directed at anyone.

I am not aware of it ever happening…but even if someone pulled on me what was pulled on NAMBLA…it is inconceivable to me, that anything so antithetical to my very existence could be attributed to my words, by anything except the most mentally ill of minds. Which by definition of it’s own circumstance, would necessarily invalidate the claim of culpability.

Would I stop everything, if I had credible proof that doing so would spare one person [or more] from an unspeakable fate?…Yes…

…Though we will probably never meet that burden of proof…and I will be left the rest of my life, wondering about the effects on the flip side of this coin…you know…not opening up…not reaching out…not trying to help others, find a sense of meaning and worth in life…

…Am I culpable, also, because I went silent, and those who have never seen me, go on to rape and murder a child?

There is never any easy answer to this…But I do know that allowing ourselves to get brow beaten into submission over this, is no viable answer.

I cant rid this world of all the abusers in it…

…but I can do some small part, in fighting for a world where these cases are less common.

Should I be made to feel that their actions are due to me, and therefore my own?…because we happened to coexist here, for a time?

…I don’t believe so.

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