Date: August 31, 2015
“I would like to find a way to persuade him, blackmail him or force him to tell the truth. But I don’t know how.”
I would not give an answer to this, even if I imagined I had one. Blackmail is a serious crime…and deservedly so.
My advice is, Just don’t!
You’re likely to end up in more legal trouble, or worse.
In the past, I’ve had to watch one of my dearest BL friends get snared by the legal system…and refuse to ever accept the realities of his circumstance in the aftermath…He decided he was going to do what he wanted [including manipulation of other people]…Over a handful of years, he went from this beautiful, loving person…evolving into someone constantly dancing around the fire, till it burned him again…after which he went completely off the rails, became someone I don’t even recognize…did things that were way, way crossing the line, the likes of which I [and I think most of us] would only have condemned without reservation…became abusive and estranged, cutting off all contact…Three or four years later, he turned up in the news, for something particularly heinous…
Again…I don’t recognize “that” person, who is now likely to die in prison…and who betrayed…everyone of us, and everything good about BoyLove.
If you want to blackmail someone…you are looking down that same road. Even if you think you aren’t…you have no way of knowing how this will play out, or what you’ll be sucked into.
He became obsessed with hurting someone…Initially, it was a boy who he previously tried to make his YF [Young Friend]. Gut wrenching, sickening and personally horrifying and embarrassing, watching him turn on that kid…Apparently, he eventually took out his rage on another hapless boy, he gained access to.
Bad things happened to him, which he did not deserve…but that never justified him forcing bad things onto other people.
You cannot…you must not, deal from the darkness…not even when you think someone deserves it. It will consume you, and possibly those close to you.
I’m not aware of many BoyChat cases, of this specific nature…But what I am aware of, is too many…I don’t want to see anymore.
Don’t be a sociopathic criminal…Don’t imagine you can get away with manipulating people these ways.