The Number One Thing I Would Tell Boys About BoyChat…


Date: August 31, 2015

01) Re: Boy Allies/Boy Actors/Boy Imposters

“People here complain about unfair repression of their views, whether in the sciences, law, culture, or the arts. But they are guilty of having the same attitudes towards boys, as well as clinging to a view about boys that very seriously undermines any message that depicts their “love” as sincere: the current message from the boychat community is one that the boys themselves overwhelmingly reject as loving. In short, this community routinely complains about external oppression, but refuses to examine how much their own internal views and attitudes are holding them back.”

The number one thing I would tell boys about BoyChat…

…is that there are so many diverse, different factors and motivators behind the “why” and “how” people post on BoyChat…that much of the content posted here gets judged and saddled, quite unfairly.

We have people here, dealing with a lot of things.

The phenomena of angry posts, offered by those on registries…often made hours after making their regular, required, humiliating visits to the local PD…or being visited in their home.

People who simply want to share something with others, who they reasonably know will likewise appreciate…when they don’t know anyone else who will.

“Soap Boxing”, because something in this world rubbed you the wrong way…

Sometimes you’re just in a good mood, and want to create something whimsical to share, and brighten the world a little bit…at least for those who appreciate such.

Claiming and asserting our human worth, and that we belong…

Every here and there, someone wants to get serious about something…like research…people who attack us…

BoyChat is a place of exchange, for legal content created and/or shared by BoyLovers…It is tailored to BoyLovers, and their needs.

It is way to easy, for people to impose their own interpretation on what gets posted on BoyChat…without looking under the surface, and allowing a lot of leeway and empathy for the many things driving this place.

…I would ask boys not to impose to harshly, their own “cover all” judgments on what appears here…Because so much of it, is just people working through their issues [or sharing a happy moment in their life], in a place that’s supposed to be available for that exact thing.

I’d ask boys to understand, the toll it has taken on so many of us…being out here in the world…We are human…and BoyChat is one of our outlets.

I’d also ask them to not place to much emphasis on BoyChat…to not take it to seriously…to let those of us who are here be human, and have our place for being human.


As a side…it would be nice to have genuine boys posting at BoyChat, again. As I expect you are aware…we once did…though it was very few.

BoyChat has lost a deeply valuable, balancing voice and perspective, in their absence. That observation is dead correct.

I have little hope, in seeing the day this changes…though I hope I am wrong.

We all know it is complicated…We all know, there are dangers lurking out there. Some days I am glad there aren’t boys coming onto the radar, by associating themselves with this board. Sometimes, I think it’s for the better that we remain apart…especially in forums like these.

By the way…Thank you, for this post…and I mean that sincerely. There is a lot of importance, in what you have expressed here.

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