The Right to Choose…


Date: May 14, 2016

01) “Quiverfull” Cult Plans Arranged Marriage Camp For Teens


“The religious cult associated with TV’s Duggar family, known as the “Quiverfull” movement, is having a retreat for people who want to set up arranged marriages for their teenage children. Quiverfull patriarch Vaughn Ohlman has a website promoting marriage for “Truly True Christian” children…

…A group of ultra-conservative Christian men are planning to meet up in Kansas later this year to arrange marriages for their pubescent daughters … and they don’t believe their daughters’ consent is actually necessary.

Quiverfull patriarch, Vaughn Ohlman, who runs a websitepromoting early, “fruitful” marriage for Truly True Christian™ children, has announced plans for a “Get Them Married!” retreat where fundamentalist fathers will find, and TAKE, suitably submissive young brides to bear many babies for their adolescent sons.

The weekend retreat, which will be held in Wichita this coming November, is “designed to bring together like-minded families (and their unmarried young men and women) who are committed to young, fruitful marriage and to help them overcome the barriers which have kept their children unmarried.

Read More: http://www.rawstory.com/2016/05/duggar-cult-founder-plans-kansas-retreat-to-set-up-arranged-marriages-for-teen-girls

My stance on this issue:

It’s one thing to have an important, yet passing, relationship, where perhaps parents would be the ultimate decision maker…Parents can choose where you go to school, for example…and hence, the school teachers in your life…

It puts a sour taste in some MAPs mouths when I say this…but, I largely consider a MAP with child relationship, to be subordinate to the parent with child relationship…in that the parent(s) must be in the know, and on board, approving of the relationship…Otherwise, it is beyond happening…

Admittedly…that’s more of an ideal, and something I would put forward as a social model inclusive of MAPs…And I would not judge to fiercely, someone who’s had fully consensual, human to human relationships, just because they are frowned upon or didn’t happen in the most ideal of setting.

In fact…the MAP and child [or teen] relationship needs to be shielded from the bile and fury, and judged in a pragmatic manner…Which is to say, it deserves far, far more open minded leeway, than what it is getting today.

Parents are still vital…And considering that MAP with child [or teen] relationships are likely to give way to other intimate relationships, later in life…I don’t see it in quite the same light, as bonding two kids together “for life”…and expecting them to make lots of babies together…

…Not to forget the ultra religious element, but just focusing on the pre-arranged relationship…and trying to force two people together, for the rest of their lives…and forcing them to turn into a baby factory…

Let me be clear…

…There has always got to be a foundation of natural choice and natural desire, on the part of the child or teenager…Without that…arranging this kind of a thing…it’s indistinguishable from forcing your own child, into a life of serial rape…and handicapping their horizons, frankly.

MAP with child [or teen] relationships are transient by nature, because they are not age peer relationships…The participants are in different stages of life…The elder is likely to die much sooner than the younger…And they’d not make good life partners, because of this…What the MAP brings to the table, is knowledge and experience a child or teen cannot get from age peers…It’s life experience they can grow on…Once they are done growing on it, they can spread out and make more relationships, as they grow older.

…So, the MAP is important [as are other transient relationships]…but the MAP is not someone who the child [or teen] is chained to, for life.

It’s a different style of relationship, from that of marriage…

…I really get a bad feeling about it, when parents presume a right to force their children to marry.

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