Daily Archives: October 20, 2016

In 2016, Kinky Sex is the New Norm…

Date: October 20, 2016

01) PlayBoy Magazine: In 2016, Kinky Sex is the New Norm


[Dr. Michael] Aaron points out that from a scientific perspective, there’s no connection between sexual kinks and psychopathology. “Healthy sexuality encompasses so much beyond traditional notions of intimacy,” he writes. “A fixation on traditional notions of intimacy leads to far ‘unhealthier’ sex than just going with the flow and surrendering to whatever the moment lends itself to.” Sexual intimacy can also mean different things to different people and still be healthy.


there is no scientific evidence proving that problematic sexual behavior is similar to drug or alcohol addiction.


The popularity of “sex addiction” as a pathological condition is just another way sex has been used to control us.


Research suggests that paraphilias (or unusual sexual interests) are like a sexual orientation in that they are with you early in life and can’t be changed, no matter how hard you try.

A purely environmental, trauma-based explanation simply does not hold up. And scientific evidence confirms this.”

Interesting article…

Once again…let us pause and acknowledge that there is nothing about being a pedophile, which makes it a psychopathology.

While I’d hardly dismiss being a pedophile to the category of “a sexual kink”…the point is still entirely relevant.

As a side note…there has been a long debate, over what separates a sexual orientation from a sexual fetish…And certain people [who I presume wish to diminish it’s legitimacy] have argued, that pedophilia is nothing more than a sexual fetish.

My preferred distinction was introduced to me, a handful of years back…

It defines sexual orientations as attraction to a reciprocating, sentient being…Whereas a fetish somehow involves a non-living item…anything that has no possibility, whatsoever, of comprehending anything at all.

Fetishes are more about using tools of enhancement…

…Orientation is about who you are naturally inclined to be with.

Those arguing that pedophilia is a fetish…are essentially trying to tell us…that children have cognition, ability of communication and senses, equivalent to that of a lifeless sex toy.

Putting aside the outrageous fallacy in that…They are also [I think willfully, in most cases] ignoring that the alleged “inability of a child to consent” is a legal construction…It is not a law of nature.

I’ve always thought that “sex addiction” was largely a whole lot of flim flam…from yet another, newly emerging “sex treatment” [sex exploitation, is more accurate] industry.

Sure…some people have a harder time getting a handle on their sex life…But how many people honestly need clinics and sex therapists?

It seems to me…these things have moved in and filled the void, that’s been left by that fact that we are so up tight about talking about sex, even in our normal support structures [ie: family]…Now you seek out strangers and pay them for the advice, because you’re too embarrassed and fearful of discussing it with people you know.

…It’s just sad.

…It also shows why Alfred Kinsey’s word was [and still is] so important…and why it’s persecution is so detrimental…

…For as loose as we seem to appear on the surface…there remains this massive disconnect of communication and understanding [and hence, often a lack of social empathy, and support structures]…People who have these kinks they’re too embarrassed to talk about, don’t even understand how normal they factually are…And they are isolated from any avenue, to come to terms with it.

Not even knowing where you stand, makes you vulnerable to the whims of larger society…as well as that of those who would profit off of your suffering…

…Absolutely the same quandary, we pedophiles find ourselves in.

Go read the article…It’s a good one.

Pedophobia: One Problem with the ‘That’s Not Fear’ Argument (Narrated)…


Date: October 20, 2016

This selection from “In Self Defense: The Life and Times of An Atheist BoyLover…Memoirs and Ethos”, has been narrated by Rocco White. Please enjoy the listen, or read along if you like…or need to.

This can be applied to homophobia…pedophobia [pedophilephobia], islamophobia…or like terminologies…

I’m the last person to imply, that these words are never used wrongly…or for misleading purposes…

…I don’t believe that parodying something [or someone], automatically translates to fear or hatred…

…But I take issue with it when people simplistically define this kind of word, as to make it seem like phobia has nothing to do with the reason they exist.

Many of the expressions which get labeled “phobic”, are more of a symptom of the phobia…They are not a fearful expression, themselves.

From personal experience:

When people start getting nasty with me…maybe mocking me for being a MAP, a pedophile or a BoyLover…I rightly recognize this as an act, rooted in pedophobia [or pedophilephobia]…


…Because it usually comes out [fairly quickly], that they mistakenly believe I am raping a child, or plotting to do so…or trying to make rape of children socially acceptable…and who knows what other social problems, they’ll lay blame on me for…

…In their own minds, they’ve made up this fictional character of total evil to represent me…While at the same time being oblivious towards, or willfully ignoring, what I have factually spent a large portion of my life fighting for.

The fact that so many of them have made up these type of strawman…and refuse to open up a goodwill, sincere dialogue…these are the behaviors, of someone who is acting out of emotional fear.

While the immediate expression may be one of hate, power and abuse…there is something deeper it is rooted in…something they genuinely fear…unless they’re just a sociopath, and MAPs are convenient targets for them…But for most people, it is a legitimate fear [even if it is mistaken].

Sad thing…many people mistakenly think they are doing something ultimately noble, when showing aggression towards MAPs…because they imagine their cruelty towards another human being, is somehow going to “save a child” they imagine to be in peril…

…That is classic pedophobia [or pedophilephobia].


FrightPix: Jacobs Ladder…


Date: October 20, 2016

01) FrightPix: Jacobs Ladder

“Synopsis: The horror classic starring Tim Robbins as a Vietnam War veteran struggling with flashbacks and hallucinations. With the help from his new bride, he fights to stay sane while his brain jumps between reality and delusion

Directed by: Adrian Lyne

Starring: Tim Robbins, Elizabeth Peña, Danny Aiello”


Ecuador Turns Off Julian Assange’s Internet…

Date: October 20, 2016

01) Ecuador Turns Off Julian Assange’s Internet

“Ecuador has confirmed that it has temporarily cut off internet access in its embassy in London to Julian Assange, the founder of the whistleblowing site WikiLeaks, over fears that he was using it to interfere in the US presidential election.

The move followed the publication of leaked emails by WikiLeaks, including some from the Democratic National Committee (DNC) released just before the party’s convention in July, and more recently a cache of emails from the account of Hillary Clinton campaign adviser John Podesta.

On Tuesday, officials released a statement saying that the government of Ecuador“respects the principle of non-intervention in the internal affairs of other states” and had cut off the internet access available to Assange because “in recent weeks, WikiLeaks has published a wealth of documents, impacting on the US election campaign.”

Todd Nickerson’s Dark Room interview…

Date: October 19, 2016

01) Episode #44 -Todd Nickerson

“They are arguably the most stigmatized group in our midst: pedophiles. The mere mention of them often evokes apprehension and even disgust, thought at once to be violators of the young and destroyers of innocence.

Paul and Jordan talk to pedophile, Todd Nickerson, about what life has been like since publicly admitting his troubling proclivity for children and why, as someone committed to never acting on his sexual desires, he rejects being called a “monster.” Despite intense societal opposition, Todd, through writing and advocacy, is intent on dispelling the myth that all pedophiles are criminals.”