Date: May 13, 2017
Following this through with a bit of logic…
…How far is this “individual pronouns” policy supposed to go, when groups you are addressing become to large to keep every individuals pronouns correct?
The insanity, is in expecting everyone around you to jump through these hoops…just because you want it…and getting offended because this is the way you think.
In society…there are generalizations, for the sake of brevity, and not getting hung up on everything…Nobody should be surprised or distressed by this. It allows the human mind to function most efficiently. In contrast…going to the extreme in the opposite direction, is a path to social dysfunction…because everybody is going to be stressed out and overwhelmed, over whether they are adhering to these impossible “new standards of respect”…and adverse to the possible harassment and scolding they’d receive, if they fail in this impossible task.
You’re imposing way to much onto social interaction…if you believe that individualized “proper pronouns” for every single person, are a necessity. People don’t usually mean anything nasty, by the generalization…There is rarely anything about the social interaction which demands anything beyond the generalization…And there is no end, to what these “proper pronouns” have the potential to be.
If you don’t live with the person, and know them intimately…then you have no business expecting them to address you on such an intimate, personal level…They cannot keep everybody’s preferred pronouns straight…and you need to allow them to be human…It’s rude and abusive not to…This used to be common sense…I hope it still is.
If you only have one person in your life who requests this of you…that’s one thing…because they make themselves stand out, by making the request…If you have multiple people in your life who request this…they no longer stand out, and it’s just a confusing maze…If you have dozens of people making this request of you…what?…are you supposed to keep a journal on you at all times, with notes on what to call every single person?…Do you have to chronically consult with it?
This is completely unreasonable.
Ultimately…if you want to be part of social culture…then it falls upon you, to not make yourself impossible to deal with on a social level.
I think that’s what’s getting so many people irritated, when they see this kind of behavior. It’s recognized as imposing an impossible demand on public interaction, causing a nuisance, and being a public menace.
Re: Misgendering trans people is an act of violence:
Good video…I agree.