Date: March 02, 2019
01) The Importance of Connection – Alissa R. Ackerman – TEDxCSULB
“Dr. Alissa R. Ackerman offers a new perspective on restorative justice and how it can help those who suffered from sexual assault. With her personal experience, she shares with everyone the true importance of engaging in difficult conversations to heal from intimate harm.
Dr. Alissa R. Ackerman is a criminal justice professor at California State University, Fullerton, where she specializes in the study of sexual violence. For almost 15 years, Dr. Ackerman has devoted her career to better understanding how to prevent sexual misconduct of all kinds. Her research and advocacy work are nationally and internationally recognized and she writes extensively on topics related to gender-based violence and restorative justice. Her newest books include The New Campus Anti-Rape Movement: Internet Activist and Social Justice and Sex and Gender in the 2016 Election. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.”
One thing to keep in mind, even about people who have committed a violent act [sexual, or otherwise]…is that that one act, does not sum up the totality of who they are…
…and years down the road, they may be an extremely different person from the one who did that violent act.
I’ve seen people destroy themselves…by holding onto the hate they have towards such people…and living their lives in accordance with that relentless hate.
…As someone who is only “guilty” of being an open, honest pedophile…I’ve been targeted by such people, who live by the driving force of hate…and the few blows they’ve managed to inflict upon me aside…I can tell you…they’re primarily degrading and killing themselves.
Holding onto hate, as the primary thing which keeps you going…it will chemically change you…and it will make you ill…it will kill you, earlier in life…
This is one of the reasons I try to keep positivity in my life…why I try to laugh a lot…and why I try to bring positive creativity, uplifting music and comedy to this blog…It’s why I try to build something constructive and useful on a broad level…instead of just complaining about how things are, all the time.
I feel like I should say more about this video…Heck…I think I should probably have a sub-blog series, to showcase this exact kind of video […the kind where an expert is talking about what’s wrong with the “sex offender” and “justice” system and society, while offering something substantially constructive as an alternative…]…
Alissa shows that we can get along…and we can all move past bad things which happened in our lives.