Ritch C Savin-Williams Ph.D. – Why Many Pre-Teen Boys Are Having Sex…


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Date: October 20, 2019

01) Why Many Pre-Teen Boys Are Having Sex

“They are as likely to rate the sex as “wanted” as boys who have sex later.

Researchers Lindberg and associates note that young people having sex before age 13 delivers the message that we need “early, inclusive, and comprehensive sex education as well as sexual and reproductive health care to male children and adolescents.” Yet, the “developmental needs and pathways to healthy trajectories for young males remain unknown.”

Findings

1. African-American (19 percent) boys were more likely than Hispanic (9 percent) or White (4 percent) boys to report early sex, with an 8 percent average for the total sample. The higher rate for black youths held regardless of sociodemographic variables.

2. Boys whose mothers had at least a college degree were less likely to have sex before age 13.

3. In terms of wanting intercourse, the responses were as follows:

(a) Nine percent reported, “I really didn’t want it to happen at the time.”

(b) Thirty-seven percent reported, “I had mixed feelings—part of me wanted it to happen at the time, and part of me didn’t.”

(c) Fifty-five percent reported, “I really wanted it to happen at the time.”

4. These numbers were not significantly different from those who had first intercourse at age 13 or older.

5. The first sexual partner was usually a friend.

I would suggest that another scenario is that the opportunity for sex simply presented itself as a realistic possibility; he went for it, and, now older, the boy says he wanted the experience—whether for pleasure, to prove something, for bragging rights, or some other idiosyncratic reason.

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Critical Messages

1. We need comprehensive sex education that is culturally informed and inclusive, beginning many years before puberty and before a youth’s first sexual encounter.

2. Many adults, professional or not, stigmatize and pathologize early sex, which likely causes more harm than good.

3. If early sex is perceived as fulfilling the dictates of traditional masculinity, then we need to develop a more inclusive notion of masculinity.

4. As the authors suggest, health education and counseling services should be readily available for young males who experience unwanted sexual encounters.

5. Given that so many of the boys wanted sex at an early age, we need to ask about their views and their perspective about the encounter(s). As the authors write, “This finding underscores the need to include young men’s views when identifying and interpreting their sexual and developmental trajectories.”

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6 thoughts on “Ritch C Savin-Williams Ph.D. – Why Many Pre-Teen Boys Are Having Sex…

  1. feinmann0

    “Across a large national dataset, nearly 20,000 high school boys completed a school-based written questionnaire. The boys stated their age when they first had sexual intercourse, without reference to the sex or age of the partner.”

    A few thoughts.

    The phrase ‘sexual intercourse’ means any sexual activity, not exclusively penetration. I wonder if this was made clear to the kids when they were given the questionnaire to complete.

    It is highly probable that more than 20,000 videos exist online, depicting boys less than 13 years of age, enjoying sexual activity. Cornell University could have saved themselves a lot of time and effort by viewing these for free, and still have derived their self-same headline … :o)

    “Despite the youths saying they wanted the early sex they had, the authors tend to view early sex as an ‘unhealthy sexual choice’, because it has been associated by researchers with an increased prevalence of many negative physical (e.g., risky sexual behavior) and mental health (e.g., depression) outcomes.”

    Surely this view of the authors contradicts there own finding, specifically, 55% of underage boys reported: “I really wanted it to happen at the time.”

    “I would suggest that another scenario is that the opportunity for sex simply presented itself as a realistic possibility; he went for it, and, now older, the boy says he wanted the experience -whether for pleasure, to prove something, for bragging rights, or some other idiosyncratic reason.”

    There is nothing idiosyncratic about a child attempting to learn about their own sexual desire by experimenting sexually with their peers. Seems to me as if the author is a victim of political correctness given that he is prepared to play down the educational benefits of underage sexual experimentation with others.

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    1. eqfoundation Post author

      “The phrase ‘sexual intercourse’ means any sexual activity, not exclusively penetration. I wonder…”

      That’s a very good question…it can be a tricky subject to see clearly, because of the lack of discussion, clarity and equal understanding of terms.

      I cannot see them watching “child porn”…though, as a sane, direct and honest approach, you are correct. This should not be getting ignored.

      I’ve suggested for years, that these recordings are made illegal, specifically to place them outside of both research and public discourse.

      The state is the most devious player on the chess board…They have the power to abuse, and get away with it.

      “Surely this view of the authors contradicts…”

      Yes…but, they have to have their “holy grail” of arguments…namely, that it somehow “damages the individual, in the long run”.

      Again…extremely devious.

      “There is nothing idiosyncratic about a child attempting to learn about their own sexual desire by experimenting sexually with their peers…”

      When we are children, our genitals get puffy/stiff, all on their own…we learn how wonderful it feels to rub these parts…It’s natural for us to want others to rub/stimulate these parts on us…

      It is a very natural progression, that so many of us end up having sex as children, in one form or another.

      “Seems to me as if the author is a victim of political correctness given that…”

      He might be. I kind of thought he was a bit forward thinking, given that he’s willing to take it seriously at all…and pose questions about it.

      Maybe he’s floating ideas?

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  2. Yure

    You know, it’s interesting how black boys are more active, yet Kilpatrick’s work on girls shows that white girls are more active. It’s not very significant, but I find it interesting.

    Reply
    1. eqfoundation Post author

      That is interesting, for sure.

      The thing that most comes to my mind in the moment, is that fact that the most sexually aggressive person I encountered when I was a boy, was a girl…one of my cousins…

      …She damn near raped me…literally.

      I tend to think, black children tend to come from families with lower wealth and means…which means they are less kept under the thumb of their parents…Same for all low income kids.

      This gives them a lot more freedom to behave, in ways which come natural to them.

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      1. Yure

        But how to explain the sexual activity of white girls? However, considering the amount of subjects who have been forced or, albeit not forced, were passive in Kilpatrick’s sample, maybe it isn’t like white girls are more active, but rather are more commonly desired by others.

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