Daily Archives: January 7, 2020

Stop Using a Sledgehammer and Your Moral Outrage, to Fight Child Sexual Abuse! (Narrated)…


Date: January 07, 2020

This selection from “In Self Defense: The Life and Times of An Atheist BoyLover…Memoirs and Ethos”, has been narrated by Rocco White. Please enjoy the listen, or read along if you like…or need to.


One of the biggest problems I have with those who dogmatically refuse to differentiate the nature and setting of encounters involving a sex act…

…is that it muddies the water, causing a lot of immediate and peripheral confusion…about not just sexual brutality…but natural human sexuality, itself.

It corrupts not only research, but also people’s ability to intelligently distinguish harm versus non harm…

…It also corrupts our ability to distinguish through research, what actually causes harm, versus what does not cause harm.

These are vital questions…Their answers can lead to real world solutions.

Why do so many people fight against this?

I have always been of the opinion, that we first need to clearly understand the full situation…then we need to focus our efforts and resources on those cases, which really, genuinely do need intervention…

…As consequence…I am also of the opinion, that we should not be wasting our efforts and resources, throwing them away on cases where the only one complaining is some morally outraged pearl clutcher, who gets offended at things they deem “socially abnormal”, “evil”, etc.

Fact of the matter is…focusing obsessively on the willing and wanted interactions, takes away attention and resources from the cases where the kids are being brutally raped and the like…the cases which actually demand our attention and resources…

But…no…moral outrage rules the day…and as usual, takes the optimistic possibilities and runs them straight into the ground.

And somehow…magically…moral outrage at the wanted and willing relationships, is supposed to combat the cases in dire need of intervention?!

I am a strong proponent of the “no victim, no crime” principle…

I am also a strong proponent of the right to ones own cognition, and the right to decipher for ones own self, whether they are/were a victim of something.

The “child abuse fighting champions” who talk over, scorn and contemptuously dismiss those of us who had sexual experiences as children and youth, when we will staunchly tell you We Are Not Victims…these sorts are a massive part of the problem…

…And they’ve been using their moral outrage, and a proverbial sledgehammer, to attack all things which they imagine are “abuse”…or “assault”…

…Wanting and allowing only things, which jump through hoops to affirm their own, preconceived notions and prejudice.

I say…it is time we walk away from this failed ideology…put down the sledgehammer…

…pick up a scalpel…and start using some rational intelligence, for once.

Maybe we can actually do some good, combating actual sexual brutality.

Stop depriving the kids who actually need our attention and resources.

Stop flooding and overwhelming this field, with cases that rightly should not even be there.

Focus on the real traumas.


A disturbing 3-minute history of the Adam Walsh Act…


Date: January 07, 2020

01) @syodertweets

“A disturbing 3-minute history of the Adam Walsh Act, recounted by Judge Mary Kate Huffman at mins 24-27 here:”

02) Judge Mary Kate Huffman

“Hon. Judge Mary Kate Huffman of Common Pleas Court in Ohio presents her perspective on the sex offender registry and management.”

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Trump Threatens Iran…

Date: January 07, 2020

01) Trump Threatens Iran

“Trump is an absolute monster.

President Donald Trump again threatened Iran with escalating attacks if the country retaliates, and advanced the odd argument that his social media posts count as notifying Congress.

“These Media Posts will serve as notification to the United States Congress that should Iran strike any U.S. person or target, the United States will quickly & fully strike back, & perhaps in a disproportionate manner,” Trump said Sunday. “Such legal notice is not required, but is given nevertheless!


Marie Fredriksson…


Date: January 06, 2020

01) Roxette singer Marie Fredriksson dies, aged 61

“Roxette singer Marie Fredriksson has died aged 61, her manager has confirmed.

The Swedish star achieved global success in the 1990s with hits like Joyride, The Look and It Must Have Been Love, from the film Pretty Woman.

A statement said the singer had died on Monday, 9 December “following a 17-year long battle with cancer”.

“You were the most wonderful friend for over 40 years,” her bandmate Per Gessle said. “Things will never be the same.”

Very sad to learn about this…I did not know she was in ill health…Roxette just seemed to fade away.

“Listen to Your Heart” was having its run on the radio, when I was in basic training…I absolutely love that song.

I love a number of their songs.

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