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WordPress, Tom O’Carroll’s Blog Suspension and My Thoughts On the Future of Our Love Frontier…


Date: July 01, 2020

Firstly, WordPress is still accepting my money…as I just got done renewing my year subscription to two of it’s services…so that you don’t have to see any ads…and I can continue uploading my audio files to share with you.

Second…Tom O’Carroll’s blog Heretic TOC had a head start run on WordPress of about nine months, before I finally decided to lay down a foundation here and start blogging again. It was Tom and the refusal of WordPress to kick him off of this platform in the face of public outrage, which inspired and convinced me to move here. So, this abrupt, unexpected move is very concerning…and bordering on personal, for me.

Third…there was a ridiculous hit piece written by some hack named Katherine Denkinson…where she [very badly] tries to link Tom with being some central figure in the MAP [Minor Attracted Person] activity flourishing on Twitter [a platform Tom has been long banned from] and YouTube.

The “article” itself, is just a bunch of accusations, red herrings and loose facts cobbled together [some of it not even related], without any real substance behind what is being implied or claimed…The thing is an incoherent mess…but, they got to feature Tom’s name and face prominently and surround them with all these “shocking” accusations and inuendos…and I’m confident that was the lions share of what they were trying to accomplish…link a whole bunch of unrelated stuff, in the minds of a public which wont do fuck all to actually verify any of it [or critique the “article”], before flying off the handle in a mental spazz out.

Reality is…Tom has only more recently even come around to occasionally using the MAP acronym…It’s grossly disingenuous, to imply that Tom is deeply tied to it.

Fourth…Tom was apparently linked to three blogs [all now suspended]…I’m not sure what the other two blogs were…but I do know that Heretic TOC was beyond reproach…and there was no sane reason for it to have been taken down…

This was wrong…Shame On You, WordPress!

I call on WordPress to do the morally and ethically correct thing, and reinstate Tom’s blog.

Do not go down the gutless road of imposing censorship, WordPress.

Fifth…I am not leaving…

I am going to keep blogging right here, for as long as I am able to keep doing so.

Sixth…I have my own domain name registered…


It simply redirects wherever I specify it to go [at present, this blog]…but that should be one of your methods of finding me again…I should also be on Twitter, among other places…So, you should not lose me, in the event this blog went down for any reason…nefarious censorship, or some other reason like hardware failure, or a glitch in the system.

Seventh…forgive that I’m bouncing around unorganized…but I have on good authority that Tom is just fine, and that he plans to secure hosting and upload his writings back to the internet.

Eighth…I will not be rebuilding again…

…I’ve gone through the same grueling, nasty experience that Tom has just been put through…twice over, thanks to malicious censorship…and once due to a hardware failure on the part of the service I was using at the time…

I know the frustration of having months or years worth of work suddenly nullified, because some censorship crazed idiot decided to click a button and make everything disappear.

It’s taken a lot, for me to consistently rebuild every time…and a lot of you don’t likely realize, just how much content is here, and how much work has gone into building and organizing this blog…

…I am not up to doing it again….We are closing in on 8000 posts…and there are well over 100 pages, representing many essays and websites, in this account.

Ninth…this does not mean I am disappearing, should something happen…

…If something happens, I’ll bring some things forward with me, of course…but I will take this as a sign, that it is once again time to evolve.

I might stop blogging, and focus my time and energy on making and distributing media again…

Tenth…I’ve loved, loved, loved blogging…but I am extremely tired these days…

I don’t “want” to stop…but I am winding down…which may sound insane, given that my posting level is through the roof this year…But I’m doing scantly little personal writing…and it’s mostly just copy and paste type posting…which brings with it it’s own type of burn out, over time.

I’ve gotten to a point where it’s a real chore, to do things which were effortless for me when I first came here…at times I’m almost dreading things, which used to be fun for me…

A big part of the reason I’ve infused my crazy “pro wrasslin’ universe” into this blog, is to inject some personal creativity into this blog, and keep myself engaged…entertained, even, in my blogging…but even now, I’m getting overrun in offline life and missing things I’d planned with that.

Eleventh…How “exciting”…we now get to really put to the test, my theory that running a widely diverse blog might help insulate a MAP from falling victim to censorship…

I don’t want to restate what I’ve said a bazillion times over…but my blogging has changed a lot, since I first started blogging in 2006.

Partially, this is due to the extreme hostility and censorship my original writings received…and part of it was that I simply needed to evolve and expand…because…how many times over can you keep saying the same things, about the same issues?…

My WordPress years have been standout from those previously, in that they are defined by my Human Rights Activist focus…and my activities here have overwhelmingly focused on educating and aiding people, in well rounded areas of useful information…which anyone can use to improve their lives.

This has always been a sincere evolution for me…and I’ve never been trying to “hide” my more controversial content behind it…but as a human being, who knows the issues represented by that content are vital to so many, including myself…it’s always been my intention to eventually republish it…

…And yet, still…something like eight [or is it fourteen?] years on?…I’ve not republished the original essays of my first blog…

There are real reasons why I’ve so gingerly danced around taking any strong stance on changing age of consent laws, or legalizing child porn…or any number of other issues concerning early life sexuality and MAPs…

There are real reasons why I come at so many issues, from an angle which is not head on confrontation…

…When a pedophile [of which I am] does these things…their work always gets deleted…

I’ve been reluctant in re-posting the naughty writings of In Self Defense, largely because I don’t know what the fallout will be…

At times, I’ve almost been shocked at what I’ve been able to get away with here…at times, I’ve intentionally been testing the waters…and it’s worked out okay, thus far…but there are no guarantees.

Lastly…I am out here on the “common” internet, using an “everyday Joe’s” service like WordPress…because it has been important to me to be “out here among the normal people”…among the masses…establishing that we are here, and we are not leaving no matter how many times we get pushed down.

…It is the relentless aggressors, who are going to have to relent this time…because they will never be able to keep us down, nor keep us out.

This specific act alone…establishing our normal presence as MAPs who cannot be driven away…has become every bit as important a focal point to me, as anything else I do here…which makes it all the more difficult to gamble with things, by doing things like publishing my more controversial content here.

I have never been anything even approaching a great writer…I’m no Tom O’Carroll…I’m no great researcher…and I will almost certainly be forgotten, as things move forward and decades pass on…

…but what has happened here over the years, is my true life’s work…and “In Self Defense” is my personal magnum opus…However it is judged…I’ve spent a large portion of my life working on it.

I have loved being able to do this…but if I ever lose this blog to the malicious acts of others…this will release my shackles, and free me to become something else…something bigger, louder and more a pain in the ass to all the control freaks out there.

I don’t think this blog is in danger of being censored…and I am going to move forward, freely blogging like I have all along…I am going to start re-posting the original “In Self Defense” posts…including the ones which call the “normal” world a bunch of bastard mother fuckers…and deal out some black eyes, busted lips and broken teeth, to the establishment…the old school, frustrated and pissed off Steve Diamond, who was ready to proverbially tare this fucked up world a new ass hole…and didn’t mind letting the shit heads know about it.

…Don’t worry…it’s probably only a few actual posts, which were literally like that…but I wrote those over 15 years ago…so I don’t entirely remember.

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End-of-Life Doulas Sue for First Amendment Right to Offer Advice and Support…


Date: July 01, 2020

01) End-of-Life Doulas Sue for First Amendment Right to Offer Advice and Support

“For many, talking about dying is—unfortunately—a taboo subject. So, as someone nears the end of their life, getting answers and finding support can be difficult. That’s what end-of-life doulas do—they help families plan and care for someone transitioning from life to death. From helping families plan for the day that someone passes away, to providing emotional and practical support to the dying person and their family along the way, doulas offer a set of unique services rooted in a holistic approach to life and death.

But don’t tell that to the regulators in the California Cemetery and Funeral Bureau (CCFB), which—to preserve the funeral director monopoly on end-of-life services—have cracked down on retirees Akhila Murphy and Donna Peizer, two Sacramento-area end-of-life doulas who operate a tiny nonprofit called Full Circle of Living and Dying.

In November 2019, the CCFB responded to an anonymous complaint and ruled that Akhila and Donna were engaging in the illegal act of running a funeral establishment without a state-issued funeral-home license. The CCFB said that to continue to help families, Akhila or Donna must obtain a state-issued funeral director’s license, and that Full Circle must operate a full-service funeral home, capable of storing and embalming bodies, neither of which Akhila or Donna do.

Without the time, financial resources or desire to obtain the burdensome license and build a funeral home, Akhila and Donna faced a choice: Either they could shut down Full Circle or fight back. They choose the latter.

Today, Akhila and Donna—along with the Institute for Justice (IJ) and a group of families who want Full Circle’s services—filed a federal lawsuit to vindicate their right to help those approaching the end of their life.

“The Funeral Bureau is silencing free speech and interfering with the ancient right to hold a funeral in a private home,” said Jeff Rowes, a senior attorney at IJ. “California cannot force end-of-life doulas to become funeral directors to carry out their labor of love: providing compassion and guidance to the dying and their families.”

Unlike funeral directors, whose primary set of responsibilities is focused on the physical transportation or embalming of a recently deceased body, end-of-life doulas offer families experience and peace of mind throughout the entire process, both before and after death. Part of their post-death work involves helping families hold their own funeral in a private home. Home funerals are legal in all 50 states because they are safe and simple. The remains of a deceased person present no public-health risk in the hours and days following death.

Families are increasingly opting for home funerals for a variety of reasons: to care for their loved one personally, to honor the deceased in the familiar comforts of a private home or to observe religious customs, such as the Catholic Wake or Jewish Shemira. Once the home funeral is over, Akhila and Donna rely on a licensed funeral director to take the remains for final disposition.

“The goal of Full Circle of Living and Dying has always been to create a community that fully understands options and rights in death and dying. We advocate for the dying and empower families and communities to bring back the tradition of family-led death care through conversation, guidance, education and local resources,” said Full Circle Co-Founder Akhila Murphy. “We asked the Bureau for an explanation of what we did wrong. They told us to get our own lawyers if we wanted to know. That’s when we teamed up with IJ to defend our rights and the rights of consumers to know all their options in end-of-life care.”

Akhila, Donna and the other end-of-life doulas that work at Full Circle have a constitutional right to provide advice and aid to families in mourning a loved one. Specifically, the First Amendment protects the right of Americans to speak, and the Supreme Court has held that providing advice or instruction is protected speech. Earlier this month, in fact, a federal appeals court ruled that a Sacramento-area vocational school represented by IJ had a First Amendment right to teach students, regardless of their educational background. The Constitution also requires that governments have a legitimate reason for denying Americans their right to earn an honest living. Here, the government’s only interests appear to be blind economic protectionism for funeral directors and bureaucracy for its own sake.

“Akhila and Donna represent a movement that helps families experience the process of dying and death in a way that is unfamiliar to many now, but has been part of American culture since the founding,” said IJ Constitutional Law Fellow Adam Griffin. “This resurgence of interest in home funerals led the CCFB to overreact wildly, trying to shut down Full Circle to protect the funeral industry from the options that end-of-life doulas offer consumers. That is unconstitutional, and we will vindicate our clients’ rights.”

This video falls a little bit outside of the scope of this series…but I think it still compliments the series well…So, I’m including it.