Date: January 03, 2021
01) LINK
“Patrick Bet-David has a virtual sit-down with Robert Glover to talk about his book, “No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life.” Order the book, “No More Mr. Nice Guy” here:
About the Guest: Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men and the director of TPI University.”
“Find safe people”…
Yes!
…This is what MAPs have been naturally doing for decades, when they come together and form communities.
Interesting interview.
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Two points from me.
Surely the last thing this world needs is an intensification of selfishness, greed, narcissism and individualism at the expense of kindness, respectfulness, caring, and empathy for others. My take on civilisation is that it is becoming increasingly inhuman; once upon a time it almost made it to human.
““Find safe people”… Yes! …This is what MAPs have been naturally doing for decades, when they come together and form communities.”
You must have been fortunate Steve to have been able to operate naturally within a MAP community. Personally, I have never experienced any MAP community at any time during my life. I have had a few real-life meetings with individual MAPs (safe people) in a vane attempt to conjour up a scintilla feeling of community.
Perhaps you mean online communities rather than real-life ones. If you manage to derive a sense of belonging from being part of a group online without ever meeting anyone in real life, again, you are indeed very fortunate. For me, the only way I might feel accepted for who I am is to be given the chance to speak openly with others about my sexuality and the problems that arise from it. In my case, such opportunities are permanently set to zero, although I was once forced to speak openly, and that is documented below – one of three case studies mentioned by Stephen James recently on Heretic Toc: https://www.dropbox.com/s/gbne5oloni4clgu/Therapy%20for%20MAPs.pdf?dl=0
Wise observations, feinmann.
Yes, while I have met a few BoyLovers face to face, I am talking about my online experiences. For sure, I’ve encountered a few people I’d prefer not to encounter again…but I’ve also found many wonderful people over the years.
It’s been a lot of gain, a lot of loss, a lot of joy and a lot of stress over the years, for sure…but it also gave me incredible friendship and my voice…of which I continue to exercise.
I’m sorry for what happened to you, feinmann.
There are reasons I’ve never been enthusiastic about promoting “Stop It Now!”…and why I’m not championing organizations I think are only a few steps closer to sanity…
Of course, it does not bother me to let people know they exist…but I will never recognize them as being competent or authoritative…I understand that many such groups, regardless of their intent, are factually quite damaging and counterproductive.
There is no link for “Stop It Now!” in the EQF Community Links…and there will not be one.
I consider the group to be extreme and incompetent.
Thank you for your kind words. Just to be clear, I fell foul of a government health body rather than a registered charity.
Thank you also for not taking offence to my suggestion that online communities are no substitute for real-life ones. HToc made it clear I was an unwelcome contributor once I made the self-same comment some time ago. I therefore look upon that forum as an exclusive clique from which I have been excluded, ironically a mirror image of the relationship between MAPs and the rest of society, so I no longer contribute to it. I apologise for going off-topic here.
It’s all fine.
I’m sorry you don’t feel welcome on Tom’s blog…There are far more people interacting there, so it’s not as peaceful as OLF…Strong personalities…Strong opinions…and all of that…More chances to rub each other wrong.