Date: January 06, 2019
Let it be known, I’ve removed the “International BoyLove Day!” [www.ibld.net] link from the EQF IBLD website.
This domain is now redirecting people to a malicious website.
It would be best for all who have links to the old International BoyLove Day! website, to remove those links.
I’m positive I have Dave’s IBLD website archived somewhere…I’ll look into rebuilding it, and putting it into the IBLD History section…Though, I can make no promises, on how quickly this will happen.
Date: December 20, 2018
Andrew13 is right…
Girl-Lovers did the smart thing for Alice Day, in picking one specific date and sticking with that…
…But, we are BoyLovers…so, we had to dump on layer after layer of complexity…to the point of ludicrousy…
Speaking as one of the few people to have and maintain an IBLD website…it’s enough of a chore, just having to track down the yearly solstice dates…without having to figure out what Saturday is supposed to go along with it…or whether or not the BoyLove community has figured out how to mash in yet another layer of variation on the rules…
I primarily went back to recognizing IBLD on the solstices, because I got fed up with the fact that they wouldn’t just leave it alone, instead of forcing it to bounce all over the place…
Some thoughts I’ve had in recent times:
1) I don’t like this idea quite so much…but I’ve thought it might be interesting to call it the International BoyLove Festival…starting on the solstice, and ending on the following Saturday…I mean, it’s a great idea [and actually, I love the concept]…but, lets be real…are we really going to fill several days a year with…what?…Just keeping up with one day can be too much work.
2) It’s the 20 year anniversary of IBLD…which means this is a big one…I’d like to say I have a video to commemorate it done…but I’ve only got the barest of notions, on what to do for it…I’ve barely broken ground…and this holiday season is thrashing the hell out of me…It’s not likely to be done by the 21st…Maybe I’ll aim for summer this time…But it feels wrong, not to have it out on the true 20 year anniversary. Been thinking about it and trying to develop something for at least a year.
My health has really been going south the last couple of years…and it’s hard for me to do these kinds of projects anymore…and it frustrates the hell out of me.
3) Again…20 years it’s been…can we finally come up with distinguishing titles, to differentiate the two [summer and winter] observations?
Maybe each can have it’s own theme?…A lot of us do observe both…It would be nice if each one had it’s own focus…We can have as many holidays as we want…We could have one a month, if we wanted…but they should have their own meaning…We shouldn’t be calling four different days a year IBLD…It’s ridiculous…
…This day of observance has gone through so many changes in two decades, it’s almost a parody…and it needs better structure…provided anybody is taking it seriously, that is.
I don’t like the idea of doing anything unilaterally with IBLD…but if the broader community doesn’t do it…then I am going to slap some sort of name onto the summer and winter solstice…even if it only applies to my own website…Because it’s a great idea, and it distinguishes them.
…Think I’ll call one Bob…and the other Sue…
…Just kidding about that…I have a vague idea or two…not sure they’re good enough…or we could call one Zeus…and the other one Ganymede…I suppose…That’s kind of goofy, too…or maybe it’s good…
…I’m not usually up this late anymore [It was past 6 AM when I wrote this]…and I’m really feeling light headed…and hoping this post isn’t coming off too ornery…It wasn’t meant to be…
I’m about ready to observe the classic and original IBLD…and it feels like everything is just bottlenecking on me.
Reading this thread…it’s like a thing or two was taken straight out of my own thoughts, especially over the last few weeks.
It seems like everybody just does whatever they want…and there is no real “day”, anymore…which kind of kills the whole idea behind it.
Maybe it’s time for a reboot of IBLD, so we can all get back on the same page?…reintroduce simplicity into IBLD?
At this point…I would not even care if it was a radical reboot, abandoning the solstices, and picking a neutral time of year…in the spring or fall…[away from major holidays]…
…I love the fall…so long as there’s a soft landing… 😉
Date: June 25, 2018
What a lovely surprise!…
…A fellow observer of IBLD, sent me a photo of their burning, blue candle.
…Which I love!…and I would love to share it, except I don’t have permission…
It’s led me to a question…
…Why don’t we photograph our burning, IBLD candles…and post them online as a collection, every IBLD?
It sounds like a neat tradition…simple…easy enough to do…
I’d be happy to start having this, as a feature in my IBLD posts…or the collection could be a stand alone post, during the days associated with IBLD [from the solstice, through the following Saturday].
Of course…it would be wise to be discrete, in how much surrounding you reveal…but, it’s a really neat idea…Isn’t it?
What say you?
Date: June 12, 2018
[Our Love Frontier] [page] IBLD – Please Contribute
June 5, 2018 at 5:52 AM
Reason for Submission: Original Content for Website
“hello is that you can make a debate on your site besides love frontier FOR THE AUGUST 4 is the Feast of the PZI = pedophiles incestuous zoophiles WHO IS MY DREAM! creates a united sexual front!
Hi Moly! 🙂
This is not the first time someone [possibly yourself] has approached me about this.
Let me first clarify, that I will not be altering the EQF IBLD website to include zoophilia or a dedicated focus on incest.
IBLD is a very specific day of observation, for a specific community. The EQF IBLD website, I believe, captures this spirit and message quite well.
There is no logical reason, for the EQF IBLD website to undergo a fundamental change of this sort…as zoophilia and incest are not especially linked with the BoyLove community. There is a tiny bit of overlap, of course…But your common BoyLover doesn’t visit IBLD websites, to read about zoophilia and incest…The day is not about those things, anyway.
My Views on Zoophilia:
I don’t pursue zoophilia in any way, as a personal lifestyle option.
I find the topic of discussion both interesting and relevant, in that it explores the “spiritual” aspects of sex, sexual intimacy and sexual bonding, in forms of sex which can never produce offspring…and with companions so physically diverse, it holds parallels with pedophilia…in that the sexual companions are functioning from very different points of power and status…even ability to communicate…
I find zoophilia fascinating, in that it lets us explore the ways…in which humans can detect and respect the sexuality of another being.
This is why zoophilia is primarily a tertiary subject of interest to me…There is plenty to be learned from it, I believe…and some of it is relevant, to MAPs who are pedophiles.
I also believe that zoophiles are unjustly maligned, much of the time.
I believe, like any other demographic…zoophiles have every right to seize their own public identity, and fight for both their humanity, and their legal and human rights.
I’m not a zoophile…And forgive the slight pun…but “I don’t have a dog in this fight”, where it comes to the legalization of zoophilia…other than, an interest in being allowed to legally observe and study it…to have it as an issue of discussion, entirely out in the open.
I think there would be social benefit in this, and that we should fight against censorship and oppression aimed at zoophiles [so long as they are acting in accordance with the law].
Making a New Website:
I’m not up to creating a sort of “unity” website, for MAPs, zoophiles and incest advocates.
I don’t know enough about zoophiles, to do them justice…and incest advocacy isn’t that high on my agenda, right now…
…That being said…I have no personal issues with zoophilia and incest advocacy…
It’s just that this is something that is going to fall upon someone else to do.
I don’t see myself as being a rightful person, to spearhead such a project.
The Day of Healing and Renewal:
Some may recall, that we started an alternative observation on “National Coming Out Day” [October 11], called “The Day of Healing and Renewal”.
Our day of alternate observation, is for those who still cannot safely come out…and it stands as a call for reconciling the history and healing the bad blood, which divides the MAP community from the LGBT community…and inviting a new, positive and uplifting relationship moving into the future.
Aside from the fact, that it’s high time I started acknowledging this alternate observation once again…
…I am willing to share in some kind of joint observation, which includes a broader range of oppressed sexual minorities.
I like having different days of community observance…
…I just don’t see a reason, to change what is already set in place.
I invite discussion here, regarding a new observation/resource, that brings together a MAP, Incest Community and Zoophile alliance.