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Pro Consent = Anti Contact?…


Date: February 28, 2021

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“A reminder. Anti contact people are pro consent, because they acknowledge consent as an essential component of a relationship, and are aware when it’s lacking.” – Lecter/Larva

If one wanted to play around with the meaning of “pro consent” and “anti contact”, I cannot disagree.

What some of us interpret as “pro consent”, is far more broad than the current dominant ideas on social/legal consent.

“Pro Consent” as a principle, is far larger and more inclusive, than “anti contact”…even if “anti contact” might technically squeak into the fold given the angle you’ve given it here.

“Anti contact” can never be the totality of “pro consent”…They are simply not parallel equals.

I would argue, though…”anti contact” ideology necessarily denies all possibility of adequate consent…which perverts the original intention behind the “pro consent” principle.

There is a massive paradox in equating the two, because they are naturally opposed.


Do you think kids can consent?…


Date: February 28, 2021

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“Do you think kids can consent? I’m always stuck in the middle of it – Kimberly @Darkqueen”

Not an answer to your question…Just a branching thought…

From what I have witnessed…I’ll just say that the social discussion on this question has striven, almost entirely, to be as aggressively inequitable as humanly possible…

…which is possibly the most prominent reason, why some of us push back so hard on the conventional ways this question gets answered.

…We’re done with the dogma, the gaslighting, the threats and constant stonewalling, standing in the way of research and actual honest social dialogue.

What dominates is dehumanizing speech centered around fear and retribution, over issues most people do not even appear to understand.

“Consent” has many angles in a sea of variables, all ultimately judged in different ways by different personal and social temperament.

Some tempers are highly aggressive…others, a lot less so.

We have the undesirable fate, of living in a time dominated by aggressive tempers.

Tempers are emotional…not rational…Which is why we, as a species, are not currently having a rational discussion about this question.


As to the actual question…as always…if the overarching culture sets its parameters liberal enough…of course, yes…kids/children can typically meet such criteria.

If a culture decides to respect a child’s autonomy and choice, then this is entirely possible.

Nothing about this statement should be controversial, in any way.

As it happens…most cultures do not respect or value a child’s autonomy and choice, nor the potential for personal growth and empowerment that such represent.


Movements, Demands and Shifting Goalposts: Is There A Discernible Social Goal?…


Date: February 27, 2021

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“I remember when The Morally Just Thing To Do© was “I don’t see color.”
And you know what?
That made sense!
Because racism stems from perceiving one race as different than another (regardless of reality).
But now the goalposts have shifted (again), and what was once considered anti-racist is itself racist.
When will we finally cross the goal?
IS there a goal?” – beardy @bahn

People come along…they see what they recognize as [or believe to be] a problem…they fight…maybe get what they want, or some degree of it…or not…they die…other people are born, with their own ideas on “what’s right”…and they repeat the cycle.

Some might interpret the banishment of “Aunt Jemima” as being racist, in itself.

It’s snuffing out that sweet, smiling lady who brings us our yummy pancakes…because there is some messy history which the overwhelming majority know nothing about, associated with her.

I would think…logically…of all the icons that should be entirely inoffensive and celebrated…”Aunt Jemima” would be totally safe and uncontroversial…but, no…

…Somebody, somewhere just has to latch onto long gone history, and frantically reach for the “delete” button…

…because it somehow makes sense in their mind, to banish everything, which they have decided holds a social taint.

It’s pure madness.

I don’t believe that there actually is an envisioned goal…

…It’s a lot of head strong people, pursing their own goals and trying to drag the rest of us along with them.

Some of these people take things which are literally not a social problem in the first place, spin them on their heads and go on the attack of these strawmen…

…Hence my comment on the people targeting Aunt Jemima “only wanting to get their own names in the history books”.

At the point that “Aunt Jemima” and “Uncle Ben” are on the copping block, it’s morphed into a campaign to dictate what we can see or choose.

I mean…can anyone even define a concrete social problem that has arisen, from these characters being on grocery packaging?

[…] this is loopy stuff happening on the fringes…which even members of the black community [which, presumably, it was meant to act on behalf of] have become the most aggressively critical voices over.

Logical people understand, that “Aunt Jemima” is not a real issue…

…but I guess a small, loud few who’ve been pushing this for decades, will get a kick over having made a powerful corporation bend the knee to their demand…and they’ll likely bask in personal glory…

Meanwhile, real social problems persist.


Who Owns Your Identity?: Colloquialism and Identity…


Date: February 19, 2021

01) NO! Critical Race Theory Does NOT Continue the Civil Rights Movement

“The New Discourses Podcast with James Lindsay, Episode 22

Critical Race Theorists like to claim that they have inherited and continue the noble legacy and justice work of the Civil Rights Movement (, but this is an abject lie. In this episode of James Lindsay OnlySubs, my subscribers-only podcast, I take about half an hour to make the case definitively that, while they are content to portray this illusion, it is a grotesque distortion of reality, using their own words. By exploring the book Critical Race Theory: An Introduction, by Richard Delgado and Jean Stefancic (Delgado is something of a founder of Critical Race Theory) and the paper “Mapping the Margins” (​) by Kimberlé Crenshaw, who is regarded as one of the true founders of CRT and the founder of intersectionality, the case against the Woke claim on the Civil Rights Movement is easily and definitively made. Join me to hear the details and the argument! -James”

Colloquialism and Identity…

What is being discussed here, for the most part…is the ability for minorities to control their own identities, and how broader society comprehends them…hence, combating their own dehumanization and social impoverishment.

This is directly tied in with the “I am a man!” statement, from the black civil rights movement…It is an expression of the exact same cultural fight, wherein the majority consider it their ever present right to demonize, ostracize and mock some minorities.

James does not appear to understand this.

Where the people who fight on behalf of this typically fail, is in consistently applying it equally across the board to all groups of people…They only see the social consequences on the minorities they are part of, or they rationally know…but they don’t extend that empathy on to other minorities, that are also being viciously stereotyped and demonized.

This is probably the single most maddening thing about them…because while they are putting themselves forward [and many are looking upon them] as “champions of minority rights”…they’re simultaneously de-legitimizing other minorities in the eyes of the masses, when they ignore the injustices done to those minorities…or worse still, engage in furthering those injustices and demonizations.

If you think you can righteously howl and pound your fist over the plight of Blacks, Jews, Gays, Lesbians and Transgenders [etc.]…and you can turn right around to make snide, vicious remarks about Nepiophiles, Pedophiles, Hebephiles and Ephebophiles…then you don’t belong in any civil rights movement…The whole concept of civil rights, has completely flown over your head.

No, James…

…They are correct, in that they understand the many ways that losing control of your own social identity, injures and impoverishes minorities…

…and it does do that…Many of us can personally vouch for this fact.

The problem today…is that there are a lot of self centered, ignorant douche bags, who claim the principle of self identity ownership is only rightly applied to specific minorities they endorse.

…which literally hijacks and corrupts the base concept and principle.

There is a lot to be angry over, where it comes to how that movement has conducted itself over the last few decades…A lot of the people who’ve sprung out of it, behave like mentally detached schizophrenics…

…But identifying the principle of social identity ownership [the control of ones own social identity], is not one of those things to be angry over…

…It’s honestly quite helpful and insightful.

This is one thing they did which was indisputably right.

It’s the fact that so many claim “a right” to be gatekeepers over this, where things went horribly off the rails.

The talking over and stonewalling of others, is atrocious.


Maps, LGBT, and strategic erasure…


Date: January 20, 2021

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“Around 2018 I already started saying “maps aren’t LGBT, unless they’re not cis/not straight”. But even with a modifier, this didn’t sound right. Why? Because almost every map I knew was either queer, or trans, or both.”

I’ve come to see LGBT as being a social and political branding.

As George Carlin would say…”It’s a big club, and you’re not in it.”…

…Though, I would personally tailor it…”and you’re not invited.”

As a practical matter, many of us [myself included] would belong in it, if the LGBT were honestly concerned with ALL homosexuals, and ALL sexually queer.

…They are not…

As it happens, the LGBT [and IGLA] have become an assimilation and domination movement.


The Denial of Empathy (Narrated)…


Date: December 03, 2020

This selection from “In Self Defense: The Life and Times of An Atheist BoyLover…Memoirs and Ethos”, has been narrated by Rocco White. Please enjoy the listen, or read along if you like…or need to.


What on earth is a homosexual pedophile going to have to say about their life, their status and the world around them, that would honestly fill up two decades of their life?…Why express it?…Why say anything at all?…

When I started out, I accepted the social claims and outcomes as they were…I did not question…I had no anger over them, in the bliss of my ignorance…But I had the inner sense that I could help to build some good in this world, despite whatever position I had in it.

I actually thought this world might come to appreciate what selfless “pedophiles” were willing to do, in coming forward and participating in studies with accredited institutions…or in courageously holding a long term public dialogue with the public…Frankly, in opening up the real world of real people who happen to be sexually oriented this way…so that people could begin to see and recognize, the truths versus the fallacies…and come to understand that there is literally no justification in fearing a “pedophile”, solely on the basis of them being a “pedophile”.

I’ve wanted to establish a public openness between “pedophiles” and everybody else…which is why I’ve been adamant about spending so much time, out on the major platforms of the common people.

Fanatics, and all who hold fanatical views against “pedophiles”, aggressively ignore and attack everything they are not expecting or wanting to hear, see or know.

One would think that supporting an organization like B4U-ACT since it’s very beginning, would establish that there are “pedophiles” willing and concerned with cleaning up their own backyard…that we are the literal embodiment, of a solution from within the “pedophile” demographic itself.

…But fanatics, and those with fanaticism in their minds, incredulously attack an organization which exists to literally assist “pedophiles” in maintaining personal psychological stability and social accountability…and they attack all who support such organizations.

They attack those who are best equipped to intervene, should a “pedophile” have a mental breakdown under the social pressure they are forced to live in…the absolute most insane thing they could ever do, if there were any truth to their claims of wanting to “protect children”.

I am fed up with the social and political blood lust, and its saturation absolutely everywhere.

…I am sick of being told I am sub-human and deserve all forms of atrocity inflicted upon me, by people who refuse to even look at me, and judge me for who and what I truthfully am…I am sick of this message being saturated everywhere…consciously and subconsciously…in the organizations you grow up in…in public media…this blood lust is even brazenly celebrated in “entertainment” for the masses.

There is this point that some hated minorities, races, etc, have managed to attain some level of social acceptance, where the masses are allowed to look upon what has happened to these viciously abused groups…see the impact…see the look in their eyes…and internalize that pain, in a type of mental and emotional solidarity…where they finally understand how awful, how unjust a fate has been inflicted upon people who were merely born into a much larger situation, entirely out of their own control.

That point of empathy…is what “pedophiles” are being ultimately denied…Even just striving for that point of empathy…that search for any sign of human decency towards “pedophiles”…is viciously attacked and denied to any who would want it.

After living this many years under these circumstances…the only circumstances I have ever honestly known…I have no rational reason, as to why I have not arrived at the conclusion that this world is simply evil, filled with evil people who relentlessly attack the innocent…because their sense of righteous authority claims they can.

Gays and Lesbians to some extent, have overcome this vicious denial…as have various racial minorities…Large portions of the population understand at the very least, that the hate spewed at these groups is not based in objective fact…but is there to injure the members of those minorities, and keep them in a place where they can be dominated and abused.

…Yet this bare minimum of humane honesty continues to be denied to “pedophiles”…what amounts to the absolute least in standards striven for, by anyone attempting to be honest, just and humane…anyone attempting to strive for integrity, and the better potentials within the human animal.

This is why I seize upon that human empathy and impose it upon the masses…

…because the masses are not just failing to recognize it…there are hoards of fanatics attempting to deny you, me, the world, any ability to recognize and exorcise that empathy.

In personal response…what I have had to say over the last two decades, as a homosexual pedophile…is a little bit about anything, that has ever made me human.


When and How I Use the Term MAP…


Date: September 25, 2020

“Minor Attracted Person” represents all recognized groups, who are attracted to young human beings, yet cannot legally be with those young human beings for sexual relations.

This includes nepiophiles, pedophiles, hebephiles and ephebophiles…

“Sugar Coating” has absolutely nothing to do with the creation or usage of the term.

Many individual MAPs actually prefer to identify as nepiophile, pedophile, hebephile or ephebophile [and terms existing within those communities], when talking about their personal situation.

It is not uncommon for me to acknowledge myself as a pedophile or child lover, and I also quite like terms like Kind, Kindfolk and Kinderfolk.

I would hope it would eventually become clear to all, that when I use the term Pedophile [without quotes, which would acknowledge it as a euphemism], I’m talking about literal pedophile issues…and that the same holds true for hebephile and ephebophile issues.

Distinct categories of MAP, literally do have their own distinct social and personal issues…even if there is a lot of overlap.

They deserve to be recognized and discussed, each on their own.

When I use the term MAP, it is to recognize these groups combined, and the social issues which impact upon all of us.

MAP is the shared experience, among a wide and diverse group of people.

Nepiophile, Pedophile, Hebephile and Ephebophile are the personal orientation and experience of individuals.

Now, there are some hairs that can be split here…

Some people believe hebephilia should not even be recognized as a category.

Not all ephebophiles are equally targeted by the law, as older teenagers [18 and 19 years] are typically considered adults under the law and able to consent, while consent laws are also diverse around the globe and some places it might be legal to have sexual relations with a 15 year old.

You can also be any combination of these categories, or “all of the above”…or only one.

And, of course, people don’t always develop through the human tanner stages in absolute uniformity.

These are, however, recognized as categories of orientation…they have generally set patterns…They are recognized in the professional fields…and they are clearly not equally all the same…

It has also been my personal experience as a pedophile, that ephebophilia [for example] is very different from my personal orientation…every bit as much as teliophilia is different from my orientation.

Therefore, I acknowledge each one of them.


Where it comes to my activism, I have three positions (Narrated)…


Date: September 14, 2020

Where it comes to my activism, I have three positions…

1) All individuals and groups have an unquestionable right to a public voice and presence.

2) All individuals and groups have an unquestionable right to accurate representation of themselves.

3) All individuals and groups have an unquestionable right to humane and dignified social treatment.

None of these are extreme stances. All of these stances are the bedrock, of any culture which claims to function on representative government and values.

They are the bedrock of any healthy, functioning culture.


The Problem With Distortions…


Date: September 13, 2020

The problem with distortions about MAPs, molestation, rape, child pornography, etc…is that they have only ever led to injury, and the chronic ineptness in social structures claimed to combat human violence.

It never does anything good, to drown these issues in hyperbole…

It objectively does no good, to lie about the vast range of people, who are in some way impacted by these issues.

The only thing you are doing, is aggravating [possibly threatening] people, who already have a life full of complications and hurdles to overcome…

…A lot of these people have suffered immeasurably, over their own lifetime…

…and they don’t need others piling on top of them, making things worse.

This is among the many reasons it drives me up the wall, to see young MAPs embracing the negative, cultural talking points…and aggressively repeating them as if they were fact…

…even attacking other MAPs who’ve been around, who’ve seen behind the curtains…

…who rightly reject those cultural talking points.

All people should be free to outwardly talk about their own experiences and issues…

…Nobody should ever generalize their own thoughts and experiences, as being those of everybody else.