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Orphaned Comment I Left on a Blog of Tom Grauer…


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Date: November 10, 2018

01) Tom O’Carroll May Not Support Me, But I Support Him [Dead Link Removed]

This selection from “In Self Defense: The Life and Times of An Atheist BoyLover…Memoirs and Ethos”, has been narrated by Rocco White. Please enjoy the listen, or read along if you like…or need to.
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Forgive the length of this…I’m a keyboard blabbermouth…and there’s really a lot that can be discussed here.

americanrifleman09 has an excellent point.

It’s not so much that we BoyLovers have been “leading the movement”, so much as we’ve been magnified by the social stigmas associated with us…Which is to say, people are more likely to point a finger at us, judging and condemning us as “the other”.

Due to a number of social prejudices…we are easy to parade in front of the masses, throw cheap shots at…and generally formulate the most extreme “pedophile horror stories” about.

That being said…I still have to go back to a principle I mentioned here, earlier…

…The homosexual pedophile [hebephile & ephebophile] community is every bit as valid, as any other sexual community…It has it’s own need for community, culture, peer support, etc, etc…

Even if I did happen to agree it would be better if Girl-Lovers took the brunt of exposure [I honestly don’t, but if I did…]…I don’t see much of anything that I do, changing…I’m not going to close up shop, and go away.

…Life from the perspective of a homosexual pedophile, is an important thing to document and share…It’s important to be out here, and be seen as who and what I am…even if it were only important to other homosexual pedophiles, and nobody else.

I’ve pretty well always wanted to see more Girl-Lovers involved…I’ve wanted to see more joint ventures, between our communities…and it’s pained me over the decades, to witness the sometimes vicious bad will, that’s existed within and between both the BL and GL communities.

On such BL strongholds as BoyChat…the degree of disdain toward GLs, has at times been mind boggling to me…And many BCers don’t like inclusive terms like Child Lover…Some identify deeply with the homosexual movement, and don’t care so much about what falls outside of their own interests.

In addition…there is this unfortunate reality…that these two communities merging, sort of brings together this “soup of variables”, which are not all native to each community…

…Is the issue of pregnancy in twelve to seventeen year old girls a natural problem for homosexual BoyLovers?…Absolutely not.

…Do Girl-Lovers have to deal with the “anal sex” stigma, that so many of us BoyLovers get saddled with [even when we’ve never done such a thing, and would not]?…No.

In their own ways…both of these things are major social pressures, to willingly take on and shoulder.

It is understandable…just why people who already feel like they are in an impossible position, might not want to take on fights they don’t view as “their own”…And even more so, when they believe other communities wont be there for them.

Not everybody has gotten to the point where they see the writing on the wall…and they believe society needs to change so badly, that they decide they are going to start speaking truth about every issue that comes in front of them, whether they believe it is “their issue”, or not.

I think that’s one of the biggest problems within the MAP community…

…Self preservation still trumps everything else…Most are hiding in their proverbial bunkers.

Considering how many of us there are…few people have honestly laid their own neck on the line.

As to the namesake point of your post…

…Upon broader reading of your writing…I can see, that you do have something of genuine substance, to offer and consider…Even if the earliest offerings were extreme…highly controversial, to say the least…and not entirely all, something I can condone…

For me…having been involved for a few decades…the fire is more less in decline…And I see the fight, right now, as being over equal, open access to the lines of communication [ie: the internet, and services on it] which everybody else enjoys…as well as a fundamental human right, to our own identity…as well as to human rights protections…

…This may place me in a “mild” position, in comparison to some [like yourself]…But, believe me…I’ve had to fight a war, for over a decade, based on these stances alone…

I believe…if we can organize enough stubborn MAPs, who aren’t going to tolerate the way things presently are…then these goals are attainable, in this time era.

I believe these are battles we can win…and we are winning.

…We have a new generation of MAPs, who may not hold all of my views…and some of what they do may annoy me…But we finally have young MAPs, not afraid to take the internet by storm, and outwardly identify as MAPs…This is a substantial thing, in itself.

The future internet, is going to be one where MAPs will be recognized and accepted as part of it…an expected part of it.

Something to consider:

Your blog could become some type of test, for free speech on wordpress.com…if enough of the censorship crazies get into a huff over it.

…I don’t believe most people understand, just how dirty, sinister and underhanded the really nasty zealots get…nor the large network that they make up…

…They can tap into their “journalists” associated with high traffic “news” websites, who aren’t afraid to author and spread wholesale lies, aimed at specific targets…They are well refined, in creating false panics aimed at other people, and exploiting the panics they have created, to the detriment of their targeted victims…

To people like that…it does not matter whether they behave morally, or not…They want and demand, what they want and demand…and they don’t care what they have to do, to get it.

I think, wordpress.com resisting the very public pressure when Tom O’Carroll first started blogging here, is an extremely good sign…It’s what prompted me to open an account here, after blog.com pulled an extremely dirty blog suspension on me [after two plus years of very active blogging]…

…I’m just not exactly sure how far wordpress.com is willing to extend it’s good graces, to bloggers who fall outside of “the polite” discourse…

I’ve already been through “the great blog purge” of 2006…and bounced around on various blog platforms, of differing reliability and trustworthiness, until 2013…There’s tons of personal writing I’ve done over the past decade plus, which is no longer online directly because of this…A lot of my earlier content, isn’t so terribly unlike the “in your face” style of your writing…

I’ve found, over the years…that altering my persona, tempering and refining it, has generally served me well…as I don’t really care to repeat re-building from square one, for the fifth [arguably, the sixth or seventh] time…

…If I were still young, this would not be so much of a problem…But, I’ve got bad eyes, bad health…and I’m generally just going down hill…and I need stability in my home bases online…I have it in me, to evolve into something else…but, I don’t know if I have it in me, to rebuild what I have with my blog [because it’s such a vast thing, I’ve created]…and I love being a blogger…

On that note…I’m not telling, nor encouraging, you to stop what you are doing with this blog…

…I’m just hoping that you understand the possible ramifications, for MAP bloggers who are on this platform, and who may decide to intermingle with your blog…in the event that some cancerous group of zealots, successfully gets wordpress.com by the “spooked advertiser, or blogger boycott” balls.

Maybe I’ve personally distanced myself enough…I don’t know…But I was hardly at the center of the storm, the first time that sort of thing happened.

While I do think this world is in desperate need of the stark reality we have to offer…this battlefield is anything but even…And I don’t believe we are in a strong enough position, today, to offer that reality and withstand the backlash.

Despite what progress we may have made, things are still fragile…and I have to agree with Tom…This is an era, for building non-criminal MAP networks [and bodies of writing, literature, media, etc.]…It’s a time to establish ourselves, as moral human beings and legal entities…

…It’s not a time to get careless, nor lack a respectful understanding, of what the frothing at the mouth zealots can do to us…And they can get away, with doing a lot of horrible things to us…make no mistakes about this…

…Many, many MAPs have been badly hurt, because they did not respect the fact…that sociopaths [of many different stripes] will come after them…nor that we don’t have an established network of MAPs, to guard their back.

I recently had to do, what some people are representing as “a retreat” on Twitter…because the utility and importance of my account [given all I’ve invested into it over the years], and keeping my own efforts focused on my prime objectives, outweighed the pleasures, of exposing a certain sociopath who’s been targeting and threatening me for many months, for the utter brain dead idiot that they are…

Does it stink, not being able to directly confront this sociopath, and their followers?…You bet it does…

…Is it a blow to the ego, going quiet under these circumstances?…Yup…

…But, ultimately, I win every single day that I am out here, as they remain out there, stewing in their own venom.

The current fight is not about abolishing the age of consent, nor even especially changing the world to what we think it should be…

I think it was Harry Hay, though it might have been somebody else…who made the comment, “we are in the battle, before the battle”…

…Which is another way of saying, we are fighting to get over the hurdles, which are impeding us from getting to the actual root conflict…

It’s a human rights tragedy that we are still fighting that battle, and not the true battle we need to be fighting…But until we manage nullifying all the brazen B.S. this current battle entails…we are not making any progress on the real battle…

…Which is why some of us have taken things back to the basics…and decided to fight such things, as the stereotypes that plague us…as well as the people, mindsets and tactics, which attempt to destroy us.

I want to end this on a good note, however…not that the previous notes were especially bad, I hope…

…But I want to say, I think I understand where you are coming from…because I have been there, myself…I cycled through it, as a really long phase of my own life…

…I could no longer stomach the dishonesty and abuses of this world…and I started tearing into it, in my own particular way.

I’m not displeased with what came out of that phase of my life…It was pure, unadulterated honesty…though a lot of it was very sharp tongued…Some of it delivered a good “bitch slap”, to this world…Some of it openly mocked, the world that presently exists…

…It was something within me, that I had to let out…and set free into the world…

I presume, you are going through that phase in your own life.

…And I think, it’s a generally positive, necessary experience.


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Cultural Representation: Would your life be different?…


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Date: November 04, 2018

01) Would your life be different?

“Queer stories were not adequately represented (and still aren’t) in my cultural content when I was younger. I think that had a large role to play in my journey to coming out. I wonder if that representation had existed, if/how my life might be different?”

This is Lindsay Amer…She’s the person behind a project named Queer Kid Stuff

I became aware of Queer Kid Stuff pretty early on…and probably four months or so, before religious people started losing their minds over the channel.

Personally…I figured I’d wait and see how things played out, before venturing any type of comment on it…and I’m not going to give a comment here…not one relating to the fundamental project, for which Lindsay is now scorned by the zealots.

…But, I did want to write down a few thoughts, in response to this video.

While I agree partially with one of her commenters…that what goes on on the television [and media], isn’t the most critical [or even best] thing to judge yourself by…or pattern yourself after…

…I think that commenter misses a massive point…

…That being…a total absence of respect worthy representation in media [and culture], can have a severely negative impact on the person who is different…

So what, if we homosexuals are no more than ten percent of the population?…So what, if we were less than five percent of the population?…

…Why should this translate into any “justification”, that we be entirely wiped out of media [except in the worst possible representation]?…

…Why would anyone feel outraged, that we might finally get some type of good representation in media?

What’s going on with those people who are fighting it?…that they would object to any positive representation of homosexuals?…or people who are sexually different?

It does not decrease or degrade their own [presumably heterosexual] representation…It merely makes a place in media, for others who also live on this planet.

I think…and being an actual pedophile…yes…this is a long shot of a thing…but, I do think…that it would have made a tremendous amount of positive difference in my own life, had people like me been accurately represented in media.

I think I understand quite well, what Lindsay is doing here…It parallels what I have been doing, for well over a decade…striking out to help create modern identity and culture, for groups who’ve been deprived of such basic normality.

Even if I wouldn’t agree with Lindsay on everything she says…I have a ton of respect for her, in the stand she is taking…It is one hard stand…

Outsiders will never do for our communities…what our communities need to do, for ourselves…

…And it’s the people who forge the paths forward, who suffer the brunt of the abuse…

There is little reward in being a social healer…Countless people will hate you for it…even threaten your life…Some would murder you, if given the chance…

…But the people of our communities, who walk this road…who live this existence…

…we all know the life and death necessity of it…

We know the vital importance of what we are doing…even if 99% of the world, will never grasp it.


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Ask a BoyLover: Boys In Makeup and Drag?…


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Date: November 03, 2018

Does a boy in makeup or drag, sexually turn you on?

Given the incident with Desmond is Amazing a while back, where people were freaking out over him being featured on a fake NAMBLA poster…I thought it might be fitting to address this question.

First…I’d caution people not to let their preconceptions about sexuality, inhibit their actual understanding of it.

Now…I’m not going to suggest this specific interest does not exist…I’ve seen at least one BoyLover admit to having this interest…But this discussion has come up in the past…and from what I’ve seen…the ones who get turned on by makeup and drag, are a minority within a minority…

…They are the oddball BoyLovers…if I may use such a term [in the most endearing way, possible].

As much as I am hesitant to cite this movie, because the pedophile in it is such a scumbag…if we can isolate the individual scene…the movie “Happiness” has this scene in it…where the pedophile character first discovers this boy, and falls for him…and this boy is all boy…getting ready to swing at a ball, in a baseball game…And this is an excellent example, of what typically attracts a homosexual pedophile to a boy…his pure boyness

…We’re not looking for a boy, pretending to be a little woman.

If anything…I would suggest that the makeup and female clothing, is a turn off.

Desmond is cute enough in his own right…and for me…nothing I have seen him do for performance, has ramped up my level of attraction.

If you think that boys altering themselves away from natural boyishness, and introducing “adult” traits of the opposite sex, is supposed to somehow enhance a BoyLovers sexual arousal…then I’m afraid the fundamentals of the BoyLove attraction, have gone way, way, way over your head.

To a BoyLover…boys are not a substitute for women, nor for girls…Boys are just what we are attracted to…

…If we could have all the women in the world…we would still choose to be with a boy.

…You want the boy…That’s what it means to be a BoyLover.


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Our First, Natural Attractions…


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Date: November 02, 2018

Pedophilia is amongst our first, natural attractions, as human beings.

Children are pedophilic by nature…How else do you suppose they are so easily aroused by each other, prior to having sexual encounters with each other?

Children cannot be pedophiles?…

…This begs the question…what is a pedophile as a child, while they are already sexually yearning for other children?

…I mean…the “plain vanilla” homosexual kids, are now allowed to openly identify as such…even acknowledge, they’re sexually attracted to other children and teens…potentially adults…

The fact that they’re not recognized as having a pedophilic orientation, just underscores how debased from reality society is…

…They call it whatever they want to call it, to make it an easy issue to manipulate.


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It Falls Upon Them, Not Us…


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Date: November 01, 2018

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…I’m receiving positive feedback, for making this move, and taking this position.

It’s hard when you are confronted with these sorts of things…

…Because you look at the people who are causing it, and you recognize the same old, relentless, violent, anti-human views and practices…And these people are brain dead idiots [possibly why they fall for such hyperbolic beliefs, so easily]…

It’s like…well, let’s take a look back at them, and dissect them…because they aren’t going to come out of this looking good, at all…And their vast shortcomings will give us all a better reference, as to just how valid and trustworthy they are…[aka, not at all]…

…I am so sick of setting by, and watching the worst people, with the most disgusting abusive views on human rights, seizing the course of dialogue on issues which have dominated the lives of countless…including my own life…

It’s almost impossible hard, to refrain from wishing that all the inhumane things they wish and demand upon others, not be the literal fate that they, themselves, face…I just rarely say that, out in the open…

…But it’s crossed my mind, many times.

…These are people who literally deserve it

They live lives, which are all about tormenting, murdering, and all around fucking over, other people…

…Anyone who would work to do such a thing to other human beings…deserves that thing [whatever it is] for themselves.

Since they are so enthusiastic…let them be the first in line, for “the procedure” [whatever it is they have specified]…

…Then, once they are dealt with…allow saner minds to prevail, and call it all off for the rest of us decent people.

They are the problem…This is not even debatable…If they cannot control themselves, wont stop being a public menace…and they “just cannot live with” others different from themselves…then it falls upon them, to sustain the brunt of the sacrifice…

…This fate does not rightly fall upon those, who these psychopaths target.


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Living the Proof: My ’20 Years Online’ Anniversary…


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Date: September 18, 2018

01) Marking 20 Years: 1998-2018

I’m happy to announce that a few days back, I marked the twenty year anniversary of my arrival in the BoyLove/MAP community!

It all started at BoyChat!…

…And in the past two decades of personal writings and recordings…the grand total of victims raped or otherwise brutalized and abused, as a result of my sharing of myself to the world…is a big, fat ZERO!

Nobody has befallen an ill fate, of any form, as result of my consistent, twenty years of multi-pronged human expression, as a living BoyLover.

We can exist in peace!

…This is the reality, of a MAPs voice in this world…

…I have been actively exercising my own voice for over two decades…and the world is just as fine, alive and full of possibilities, as it ever has been.

This is why we persevere…to disprove all doubters, who claim this exact thing cannot be entirely peaceful…or constructive.

I am living proof [as many of us are], that the sky will never fall, on account of tolerance for MAPs.


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Collateral Damage of a Deeply Dysfunctional System: What Would Anthony Avalos Say?…


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Date: August 31, 2018

01) Who’s to blame? 10 year old Lancaster boy beaten to death after coming out gay

Thanks to feinmann0!

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“Was the death of Anthony Avalos, a Lancaster, California ten year old boy who came out as gay, the result of neglect and oversight of CPS authorities after years of complaints?

It has since been revealed that the Department of Children and Family Services received at least 16 calls over the years alleging that Heather and Leiva were abusing the children, aged 11 months to 12 years old. School administrators and family members, as well as a teacher and a counselor, had all called in to voice their concerns.

They reported that the children were being sexually abused, beaten and bruised, forced to fight one another, and forced to eat from the trash, according to Department of Children and Family Services Director Bobby Cagle. The concerned callers also reported that the children were being denied food and water, were forced to crouch for hours, and were even dangled upside down from the home’s staircase.

A Los Angeles County Sheriff’s spokesman also revealed that Child Protective Services had come to the house at least once for child abuse allegations involving one of Anthony’s siblings. Maria reported Heather and Leiva to the county and Anthony’s school three years ago but said nothing was done to remove the children from the home.”

…If I recall correctly…this is the exact same system, which forcibly removed Anthony from the home of his loving grandparents [who raised him, and wanted to keep him]…and dumped him into that hell…all because his mother had legal custody rights, according to the state.

These “child protection” organizations are very notorious, for a number of reasons…ranging from overzealous crusaders, to inept bums working at them…to overwhelming workloads, from too many cases for their people to handle…

…One of the glaring issues…is all the mind-blowing waste…of time, energy, money and resources…which goes into tormenting and devastating intergenerational relationships [plus the kids who are being “too naughty”, and doing entirely natural things with each other], at the hands of these organizations, and their people…

…when we’ve simultaneously got all these cases like Anthony’s…where there is objective abuse…where the abuse is both extreme, and life threatening…But the people responsible for stopping this sort of thing are…inept?…apathetic?…Whatever efforts they have put forward…they were useless, in stopping this boy’s senseless death.

Was it worth it?…

…Was this tradeoff worth it?…

…Was Anthony Avalos’ unspeakable murder offset, by all the naughty perverts corralled and fed into the system?…

…Do we all feel it was time, resources, energy, lives and deaths and tortures “well spent”…that the people of these agencies likely had to spend, interfering in intergenerational relationships, where they were neither wanted nor needed?…

Maybe…it’s time to start focusing on genuine cases of abuse?…

…I strongly believe, Anthony would say it is…

…Maybe, Anthony Avalos would be alive today…if it weren’t for all the moral outrage cases, which these agencies are tasked to eradicate?

Just a thought, there.

…I tend to think that a ten year old’s ability to continue living healthy and untortured, is universally more important, than some moral supremacists fits of outrage, which demand appeasement.

The system and culture in the U.S. tortured and murdered this boy, every bit as much as the primary people behind the violence.

If you support the way things currently are…I’m not sure how you can live with yourself…

…It’s your position, which traded away the life and safety of Anthony Avalos…as if it were some sort of bargaining chip.


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So, You’ve Noticed There Are No Children Out Fighting For Their Right to Have Sex With Adults?…


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Date: July 28, 2018

So, You’ve Noticed There Are No Children Out Fighting For Their Right to Have Sex With Adults?…

…And, if you were around in the days before slavery abolition…you’d no doubt note, that there weren’t any slaves protesting in the streets for their freedom…

So…you think you’ve got “an ace in your hand”, by pointing out the obvious…that children are effectively prohibited, and literally hobbled, from even exercising any type of educated voice on this issue?

Look around you…Look at the cases of “victims”, who defend their “abusers”…Look at the “victims”, who refuse to testify against their “abusers”…Look at the “victims”, who refuse to cooperate with investigations…Look at the “victims”, who are angry at what the system is doing to their “abuser” [their literal lover]…

…The rock bed of this movement is out there…Don’t kid yourself…It does exist…

…But in this culture…that demographic is debased from any real, political power…

If the legal doors were opened…and the freedom were allowed…the fighting kids would be there.

…You are a blind fool, if you believe otherwise.

There is so much you don’t see, yes…and it’s because of the multiple layers of discrimination and prohibition.


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I Might Be Wrong?…


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Date: July 10, 2018

This selection from “In Self Defense: The Life and Times of An Atheist BoyLover…Memoirs and Ethos”, has been narrated by Rocco White. Please enjoy the listen, or read along if you like…or need to.
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It is fair enough to say that I, Steve Diamond, might be wrong about any number of issues I’ve explored, or conclusions I’ve arrived at…

…I am fully open to being corrected, and changing my own outlook…

Where frustrated people who declare that “I am wrong” fail…is in their presumption that the science is settled, especially as relates to intergenerational sexual relationships, and issues involving MAPs…

…This is the big lie, that so many of them tell themselves and each other…

The science has not even truly been allowed to begin…despite long running, good faith efforts to begin this process…

While decades later…we are finally starting to see a small break away, from the fanatical interference this field of research has been marred down in…it’s still not honestly at a place where it should be…

The consistent denial by fanatics, in allowing MAPs [and intergenerational relationships] to be scrupulously researched, like any other topic would be…has led me to a few fundamental stances on how I approach MAP issues…First, that I fully reject “social wisdom” on these issues, as being authoritative or valid…Second, that all things under reported or ignored, must be emphasized, in order to counterbalance the gross bias of those spreading distorted information…and Third, that institutions and social structures which refuse to represent people and issues accurately, must be changed or abolished so that we may stop them from harming people and society.

I fundamentally reject the system, that fundamentally rejects me…the system that refuses to deal with MAPs, on an honest and humane level.

Such a system, is purveyor of lies and human devastation…

…As a human being of conscience, and high ethical standards…this is completely unacceptable to me.

So…could I be wrong about some things?…of course I could be…

…But I am not going to roll over, and capitulate, when we don’t even have a clear view on where things honestly stand in the real world [as opposed to the insides of paranoid minds], because the morally outraged constantly want to stand in the way as a barrier.

Most of my life…I’ve spent it standing up for the disenfranchised, and the social outcasts…probably because I am one, and I know how dirty the establishment is towards us…but just as relevant, because society needs to learn and understand how it also degrades and injures itself, by treating the least powerful and most vulnerable amongst it, so atrocious and inhumane.

If I am wrong about anything…If I even could be wrong, about everything…

…Then allow the process of science [empirical research] free travel…Allow the clearer picture to be witnessed and understood, by the masses…

…The numbers will fall where they will fall…

…And then, we can have the conversations, on where I may have been wrong…or where I may have been right…

If the morally outraged are so certain in their own conclusions…then what do they have to fear in this honest proposition?…

…unless they are bluffing…

…unless they don’t believe, that the scientific findings, will support their desired conclusions…

Get the corruption out of empirical research…Only then, will I allow myself to be lectured on the ways I may be wrong…provided that the statistics support it.

Until that day arrives…not a single human being on this planet, has the standing to judge me “wrong”, for my honest exploration on human sexuality…nor on my related conclusions.


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Curing Persecution Complex (Narrated)…


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Date: April 30, 2018

01) Christians Are Being Persecuted & No Evidence Would Change His Mind!

“Joe Messina, Los Angeles based conservative talk show host, joins David to discuss so-called Christian Persecution”


This selection from “In Self Defense: The Life and Times of An Atheist BoyLover…Memoirs and Ethos”, has been narrated by Rocco White. Please enjoy the listen, or read along if you like…or need to.
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Persecution complex is frequently about lack of awareness, and lack of human empathy.

This is why we can see large majority demographics claiming to be persecuted [often worse than the norm], even when they are sustaining nothing especially out of the norm [compared to other groups using a service, living in society, etc.].

Many will even claim persecution over being expected to abide by social laws…laws which everybody else are expected to abide by.

Many will claim persecution “focused specifically on their own groups”…claiming their is some bias…while acting oblivious to the fact, that groups they don’t like have gotten hit just as hard by the exact same thing…if not harder, and/or for a duration that far exceeds their own.

Most people living in “the first world” who believe themselves persecuted, need to broaden their perspective. Their belief of being persecuted, is a belief distorted by isolationist behavior.

…It’s something they’ve devised in their own heads…because they are not living, thinking and realizing things, in the real world around them.

A few good practices to live by, which can help combat this self distortion…

Listen to People:

Strive to sincerely understand people who are different from you.

Let them speak, and articulate their own world circumstances.

Empathize:

Attempt to visualize yourself in those circumstances.

Explore how those circumstances might affect you, and how you might arrive at the same destination under the same [or similar] circumstances.

Understand that difference in outlook and experience, does not automatically mean difference in objectives.

Identify Common Ground:

Realize that not everybody else is “out to get you”…and that your perceived “enemies” may be just as motivated to fight [and outraged over], whatever unfairness you perceive as happening to yourself…Maybe, because they have a history of experiencing the exact same thing.

Realize that even people with vast differences, still normally share a lot of base values on human decency.

The Loudest Are Not Everybody’s Leader:

Keep in mind…the loudest and most obnoxious people, making the biggest social problems in this world, are getting the lions share of attention…because they are the loudest and most obnoxious people, making the biggest social problems in this world

…This does not mean we all accept such people as being leaders…Many of us reject those people, and their claims.

Don’t let the talking heads of this world, hijack the social dialogue…and don’t let them hijack your humanity, along with it.

Ugly truth about the loud and obnoxious…is that they are often making a personal gain of some form, off of exploiting the very same social conflicts that they foster and promote…It is profitable for them, to keep other groups divided and at each others throats.

Extend Good Faith, and Find it in Others:

Humanity is there…The only question is if you are open to looking for it…and recognizing it.

People are a lot more compassionate, giving and forgiving, than you might realize…Don’t slam the door shut on this.

Our Experiences Form Us:

Nobody arrives at a worldview, based on sheer personal desire to hold such a worldview.

…There are countless social forces [tensions, pressures, cravings, relationships, institutions, experiences, etc.] in this world…which push, pull and stretch [sometimes tare] us into all sorts of directions…

…We don’t consciously make decisions about our ultimate outlook [or what we will fight on behalf of in this world], based upon “what will screw over the most other people”…nor “what will make us the most evil”…

…We stand and fight for something, because we recognize that something [no matter how unique or unfashionable] needs to be stood up for, and fought on behalf of.

Learn to Understand Responses:

Lastly…

…Wherever you see people defending “the indefensible”…realize that what is normally happening…is that people are pushing back against a social imbalance so extreme, that all objectivity and rational decency has broken down…

…And they are trying to reestablish, the objectivity and rational decency which is missing.

Don’t ascribe to this behavior, things which are not objectively there.


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