Category Archives: Memorial

A category for Our Love Frontier’s Memorial Page

Ric Ocasek & Eddie Money…


Date: September 15, 2019

01) Ric Ocasek, Lead Singer of The Cars, Dead in New York at 75

“Rock & Roll Hall of Famer Ric Ocasek, lead singer of the rock band The Cars, died Sunday in New York at age 75.

Police said they received a call around 4 p.m. for an unconscious male at a townhouse on East 19th Street. He was pronounced dead at the scene. Law enforcement sources confirmed the deceased was Ocasek.”

02) Eddie Money, ‘Two Tickets to Paradise’ Singer, Dies at 70

“Eddie Money, the prolific singer and songwriter whose songs “Baby Hold On,” “Two Tickets to Paradise,” “Shakin’” and “Take Me Home Tonight” soundtracked popular music in the 1980s, died Friday (Sept. 13). He was 70.”

I know it’s kind of bad to combine memorial posts like this…but I just got this news dumped on me, about an hour ago…and I don’t really have a lot to write about it…

…This really, really sucks…

I had hopes The Cars might make more albums.

I’m thinking Eddie was done in that regard, though.

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David L. Riegel – 1931-2019…


Date: July 07, 2019

I met Dave, twice…

…one of the scantly few BoyLovers I’ve actually met, face to face, more than once.

I cant speak to the accusations some have made against Dave…and a handful of hours, is a handful of hours…You cant know a lot about someone, based on so little time…

…But he did strike me as an entirely genuine person…and a kind person.

I do not agree with all of his viewpoints [most especially, those about Girl-Lovers]…but he was still a very important person among us.

He did more for the plight of man boy love, than most people ever have…or ever will.

Dave was not perfect…

…That does not mean, this is not a really hard loss.

01) RIP Dave Riegel

02) Are we making ‘useful idiots’ of ourselves?

“David was born in 1931 and came late to boy-love activism after a varied career in which being an airline pilot was perhaps the high point, if you’ll forgive the pun. He was drawn into research and writing in the behavioural sciences when he was approached in 1999 by an editor of the McGraw Hill textbook Taking Sides: Clashing Views on Controversial Issues in Human Sexuality for an essay on the controversy that was then swirling around the famous 1998 Rind et al. analysis, which gave survey data showing that children do not typically suffer psychological trauma from sexual contact with adults, contrary to popular opinion.

After that, he became involved in internet-based studies into the psychosexual development of boys and also conducted survey research on boy-lovers’ views and sexuality. In 2005 he gained a degree in psychology. Remarkably, for a newcomer to academic research, and without the benefit of ever having undertaken a supervised Ph.D., he managed to secure the publication of at least 10 of his papers in academic journals. Through his own online SafeHaven Foundation, he published numerous other articles and books. His website was still up and running only a couple of days ago but now appears to have been suspended.

The Dave Riegel I will remember was energetic and determined, driven by a fiercely-held belief in ethical boy-love as a power for good. While he was always more of a partisan activist than an objective scholar, he was entirely sincere, in my view, in seeking truth through scientific enquiry. He was as honest as he was cantankerous, and I will remain in his debt for the support he has given me.” – Tom O’Carroll

03) The Safehaven Foundation

[My Comments on Tom’s Blog]

Dave Riegel:

I am heartbroken, about the loss of Dave.

I met him twice, and never had a bad experience with him…He struck me as kind and sincere…if stubborn, where it came to his online work.

It always pained me, to see the way certain others in our community dragged Dave through the mud…

Very few people have stood up for the BoyLove community, like Dave has…and he did so, at great cost to himself.

I just found out about his death, maybe an hour ago…

I had my gut feelings about this, as he’s been crossing my mind as of late…I was just looking at an old e-mail from him, from four or five years back, last night…and I have an uncanny sense that befalls me, sometimes, when I’m about to encounter news of somebody’s death…and “here” it is.

Dave’s SafeHaven Foundation website is no longer online…possibly because it’s no longer being funded.

It is archived at the Wayback Machine.

See link 03.

I urge other archivers to grab a copy, for historical preservation within our community.

In the mentioned e-mail, Dave actually responded to my question, regarding wishes for his work in the aftermath of his inability to maintain it online…He expressed a gratitude, to anyone who thought his work was deserving of continued hosting and preservation.

For those who can put any hard feelings from past clashes with Dave aside [or who never had any]…I think the contents of his website should be considered open, for respectful incorporation and archival into MAP related projects and websites.

Dave’s legacy should absolutely not be abandoned.

I am going to go get a more updated copy of Dave’s website…and I’m going to focus on recreating his IBLD website, in the “IBLD History” section of the EQF IBLD website.

I’ll probably create a SafeHaven archive, as well…eventually…It’s a lot of work.

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Penny Marshall…


Date: December 19, 2018

01) Actress and director Penny Marshall dies at the age of 75

“She starred in TV’s ‘Laverne and Shirley’ for eight seasons before moving behind the camera to direct seven films.”

The tabloids have had Penny “at deaths door”, since at least the late nineties…I’ve done web searches on her every few years, just to see how she was doing…like I’ve done with a few other famous people I’ve watched and loved…

…This is a really, really sad death.

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Burt Reynolds…


Date: September 06, 2018

01) Actor Burt Reynolds has died at 82

“Actor Burt Reynolds, who starred in films such as “Deliverance,” “Boogie Nights” and “Smokey and the Bandit,” died of cardiac arrest, his longtime agent Todd Eisner tells CNN.”

I think my favorite Burt Reynolds movie, is City Heat. It was just a really fun movie, that also starred Clint Eastwood…and it’s kind of nostalgic for me.

I was really sad to get this news, a few hours ago.

This is the loss of a huge Hollywood legend.

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Jonathan Pitre…


Date: April 06, 2018

01) ‘I can’t imagine my life without him,’ says Tina Boileau after the death of son Jonathan Pitre

“He found solace and strength in science fiction, and like those he read about, Jonathan Pitre had otherworldly qualities.

He had one of the most painful diseases known to medicine, epidermolysis bullosa (EB), but was defiantly happy. He couldn’t scratch without tearing his skin, but dreamed of playing hockey. Ostracized by other children, he thrived in the adult world: poised, thoughtful and genuine.

Jonathan found purpose in helping others with EB. He made himself the face of the disease, shared his story worldwide, and raised a small fortune for the EB charity, DEBRA Canada. His sunny, red-haired resilience charmed millions of people, and made him an Ottawa celebrity. None of it changed him.

“Jonathan’s heart is so pure and bright,” his mother, Tina Boileau, once said.

Her son, Jonathan Pitre, died Wednesday evening in a Minnesota hospital. He was 17.”

I first learned about Jonathan Pitre on BoyChat, several years back. I believe it was Cactus who introduced us to Jonathan, and his situation.

Having popped back up in the media several times, ever since…I’ve kept loose track of his life…and was deeply saddened, to learn of his passing.

– Steve

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Stephen Hawking…


Date: March 14, 2018

01) Stephen Hawking: Visionary physicist dies aged 76

“World renowned physicist Stephen Hawking has died at the age of 76.

He died peacefully at his home in Cambridge in the early hours of Wednesday, his family said.

The British scientist was famed for his work with black holes and relativity, and wrote several popular science books including A Brief History of Time.”

“It would not be much of a universe if it wasn’t home to the people you love.” – Stephen Hawking

“My goal is simple. It is a complete understanding of the universe, why it is as it is and why it exists at all.” – Stephen Hawking

“Life would be tragic if it weren’t funny.” – Stephen Hawking

“One, remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Two, never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose, and life is empty without it. Three, if you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is there and don’t throw it away.” – Stephen Hawking

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Tom Petty…


Date: October 02, 2017

This is a hard and shocking death…But, I’m glad we finally have solid verification on Tom’s status.

Tom Petty and The Heartbreakers put out a lot of music I loved…but, they also kind of faded into the background…so, I didn’t even know about the 2014 album they put out…I knew about the two Mudcrutch ones, though…I have them on a wish list.

How do you summarize a death like this?…He died to young…He was still putting out good albums…

This world is poorer, for the loss of Tom Petty.

In my opinion, the following represents Tom at his absolute best.

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers – You Got Lucky [OFFICIAL VIDEO]:

Stevie Nicks & Tom Petty – Stop Draggin’ My Heart Around:

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers – “Refugee”:

01) Tom Petty, Heartbreakers frontman and beloved rock figure, dies at 66

“On behalf of the Tom Petty family,” said Tony Dimitriades, longtime manager of Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, “we are devastated to announce the untimely death of of our father, husband, brother, leader and friend Tom Petty. He suffered cardiac arrest at his home in Malibu in the early hours of this morning and was taken to UCLA Medical Center but could not be revived. He died peacefully at 8:40 p.m. PT surrounded by family, his bandmates and friends.”

02) Musician Tom Petty dead at 66

“Sophie Schillaci of “Entertainment Tonight” joins CBSN with more on the passing of Tom Petty. The musician was 66 years old.”

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My Favorite Aunt…


Date: August 29, 2017

…Well…I have a lot of aunts and uncles…and I don’t even know how many cousins…But, this was one of my aunts, I was actually close with.

I have so many memories…This is almost like losing grandma, all over again.

You know that aunt [and/or uncle] who’s always got the home, where everybody else congregates?…If there’s a summer cookout, it’s always at their place…That is what we just lost…

…A self reliant leader, who knew what she wanted to do…and she spent her life doing it.

You were always welcome at their home…and they were always happy to see you.

I learned to swim, and developed a love for water, in their pool…

…During the nineties, I was over weekly…often on Saturdays…watching pro wrestling, on their huge projection television [my uncle was a huge fan, also]…

…It’s a beautiful home, honestly…It will be hard to see it, without her there.

We knew time was short…Cancer…But seeing her only ten weeks ago, you wouldn’t have thought it would take her this quickly…She seemed remarkably good.

I just keep kicking myself…because I promised to stop and visit…and I was going to do just that…But not last time I was in the area, driving past their home, when I could see they were at home…I really wanted to make another quick stop, and get home…I was deceived by how well she’d been doing…I thought there’d be a few more months…maybe a year, or more…

I got the call within days…things took a rapid, grim turn…and she wasn’t receiving visitations…A few weeks later, and I find out she died.

It just seems unreal, how rapid it happened.

I will miss her.

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