Anal Sex = The Last Taboo?…

….	Date: October 22, 2012 01) Anal sex: Science’s last taboo “As of the 1990s, only about one-quarter to one-third of young women and men in the U.S. had tried anal sex at least once. Less than 20 years later […] as many as 40-45 percent of women and men in some age groups had tried anal sex.” “They surveyed more than 2,000 women ages 18 to 30 about their experiences with anal sex.” “Only about one-quarter of women said their first experience with anal sex was pleasant.” “…nearly two-thirds tried anal sex again…” “Certainly enough people have been having anal sex over enough generations that if anything were seriously dangerous about anal sex, we would know it by now.” “[W]e also don’t know much about the long-term effects of anal intercourse…[…]…because no one has studied these kinds of things.” “…more women in the U.S. have received anal sex than the number of men who have received anal sex…” This is an interesting article, about a University of Zagreb study…in which the topic was women’s experience with anal sex… I’m not going to attempt analyzing anything…but, I thought this was interesting enough to mention…and that some others might find it interesting…You should read the whole article, as I’ve only quoted a handful of points…which I think are over all relevant… I do think this article underscores something rather substantial, however…that being, the prevalence of anal sex in heterosexual behavior. Anal sex is stereotypically associated with homosexuals, despite the fact that many of us have never had anal sex…And in all reality, heterosexuals account for a large percentage of the anal sex which is going on. Heterosexuality does not get stereotypically associated with anal sex…even though it is a substantial contributor to the practice…I tend to wonder, why it does not get it’s accurate representation. …Are too many heterosexuals embarrassed about this? Probably one of the more interesting revelations I have encountered, is this very phenomena…Anal sex is looked down upon by so many heterosexuals…yet, so many of them are doing it, too…and it’s not being acknowledged. Anal sex is every bit as much heterosexual, as it is homosexual…or bisexual…and “nobody” is recognizing this point…I think, there are a lot of closet cases, out there in the hetero world. It’s interesting to note, this parallel with studies on pedophilia…where we also don’t know much or have concrete statistics, because nobody is studying it in any meaningful way… …Do we have a problem with confronting issues, because of a deeper social problem relating to taboo and personal embarrassment? Shouldn’t these things be studied?…and if not, then why should they not be studied? Another point I find interesting…is that nearly 25% of the women reported their first time trying anal sex, as being pleasant…and that is something which seems counter intuitive… As a homosexual male, myself…I readily admit there can be very serious pain associated with anal penetration [I’ve had prostate exams, during doctors visits]…I am not at all, a fan of being anally penetrated…and my younger years aside [where I might have tried it with an age peer], I have not been prone towards the activity…I find it unthinkable, to push this upon another…You think it’s going to be painful, and may even injure them… …Then you have these cases…first timers, saying it was good…and it was a lot of the first timers…not just people who’ve become accustomed to it. Honestly…I don’t really know what to do with that information…and I don’t believe it would translates evenly, to cases where young people [teens and children] are anally penetrated by adults. I actually take a very strong stance, against adults penetrating children in sexual ways…even though I am aware, some homosexuals have accounted that [as boys] they craved having sex with adult men, in that way. Anyway…I have to take strong issue with the title of that article… …Anal sex is certainly not the last taboo of science…There are a number of issues, which are every bit as much taboo, if not worse…pedophilia comes immediately to mind… I just wish, people would stop taking singular issues, placing them on a pedestal…and trying to suggest, that “this” is the last frontier being held back by taboo and stigma. This author probably didn’t mean anything deep or literal, within that choice of wording…but still, given all the groups/issues which are marginalized by taboo and stigma…it’s kind of insulting [or dismissive, at any rate], when people do that… …It’s much like when minorities announce themselves as, “the last legitimate group to liberate”.	….

We are still viewed as separate…

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….	Date: October 9, 2012 01) Movie portraying children sexuality “On the one hand there is the Sandusky trial and on the other hand there is a movie that discusses children sexuality. The movie is clear about its message of love and no mention of abuse. Are we not keeping up with peoples’ perceptions about us? I feel that there is a trend that people are accepting more and more children’s sexuality. How come we are not recognizing this acceptance amongst us as childlovers?” There is no doubt, for years there have been marginalized voices [separate from us] attempting to bring social acknowledgement to childhood sexuality [at least as a matter of human sexual development]. Since many people view childhood sexuality as being extremely inconvenient to current social models, reviving social consciousness towards childhood sexuality [and it’s various issues, both personal to the child and social] has been a challenging shell to crack. It does seem that their is a growing acknowledgement, that ignoring and suppressing a humans natural sexuality at those ages, generally leads to negative effects. This is not to imply anybody “has to” have sexual experiences at those ages, in order to grow up fine…It’s just to say, that neglecting the practical issues that arise surrounding a child’s natural sexuality, is over all bad. A child should not feel shamed into silence about their very real sexuality, for example. There have been sex experts in recent decades, who openly advocated positive reaffirmation [ie: “That feels good, doesn’t it?”], whenever a parent finds their young child sexually stimulating themselves, for example…and just being non-judgementally open, about discussing sex with their child…and accepting, about various sexual things their child is more likely than not to eventually do [ie: masturbation]. These are good trends, but I’ve also seen those exact same experts being booed and rejected by audiences, for answering in such ways…What they say may be sound, but many people don’t want to hear it. …That is a deep social problem…truth and reality, getting rejected in favor of “social wisdom”…a principle more in place to enforce “social norms” and prevent change, than anything else. …But we should not ignore the fact, that some sex experts have been acknowledging childhood sexuality for a very long time. It’s important to note, that “we” are not seen as being involved in that equation…Meaning, “childhood sexuality” and “pedophilia” are framed as two distinct issues. In the real world, they certainly could intertwine…but it’s political suicide for an expert in the field of sex, to openly state such…as it would be, for people in many professions. It’s also important to note, that while a lot of these movies may be interesting to us for watching, and there might be some angle by which we can personally identify with them…these movies are not about “us”… …I have yet to actually see a movie which I can honestly say, it is my opinion that it gives an accurate portrayal of actual “pedophilia”, and a realistic storyline for “pedophiles”…let alone, a reasonably balanced representation of adult/child sexual relations. At best, movies typically dance lightly around the kids sexual experiences…and that is all that those parts of the movie are about. It’s nice to see the acknowledgement…but these movies are sometimes targeted with “child porn” accusations, too. It is out there, and we’ll find an oasis every now and again…but there are very loud, obnoxious and aggressive groups, who are very intent on suppressing this sort of thing…Which is why we so rarely see it, even in it’s most tame of forms.	….
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Banned Sexual Orientation Therapy…

….	Date: October 2, 2012 01) BoyChat “…Religious and civil rights law groups say they are headed to federal court to try to stop a new California law that bars licensed counselors and therapists – even if they are pastors, priests or rabbis — from helping anyone under 18 to change their sexual orientation…” 02) Original News Story I don’t know that I specifically agree with the strict letter of that law [which prohibits even instances where a homosexual youth personally wants to seek it]…but I do think this is something, generally in the right direction. To me…I don’t know that there is a right answer, when youth want this for themselves [and yes, I know there’s a lot of destructive, preconditioning that goes into this]…If they are dead set on pursuing it and believe they cannot live this way…then they have a lot to work through, and merely denying them the first hand experience of this path may not help…but I do know that compulsory negative influence surrounding your orientation, can become personally devastating. A lot of times when I was growing up and discovering the revelations of my own sexuality…I wished for some kind of sanctuary…Not necessarily to be made different…but to have a way out of my circumstances…to be rid of the conflict…and the fear… Sometimes I look at what is going on today, with gay youth groups…”gay straight alliances”, and the like, openly practicing in public schools…It about blows my mind…That sort of thing was inconceivable, back when I was in school…and where I went to school, this would have never been allowed, at all… …I wish it had been… As someone who has led an isolated existence of this sort…I wish there had been something/someone there, to stand up for people like me. …I think these laws ultimately should focus on those people/groups, who impose a hostile atmosphere of aggression, threat and shame upon kids who are not heterosexual…most especially, those cases where the kids cannot leave the place and situation. …These settings are rife with psychological and emotional abuse…even at the hands of the well meaning. I think…crippling a human beings sense of well being and self worth, is the true crime…	….

The judith reisman hatchet job…

….	Date: December 11, 2011 01) BoyChat Post Judith Reisman = Shameless Quote Miner… [this is the post, that got exploited by judith reisman] The propaganda, in which the above post gets exploited. A few posts, where I flesh out a bit of the situation…here…and here… I am curious what others think about this… Earlier this week it came to my attention, that back in August judith reisman wrote another hatchet piece aimed at B4U-ACT. In this piece of propaganda, judith saw fit to cherry pick fragments from a very colorful post I made some time earlier, where in I spoke very frankly about who she is and what she does…Her primary objective, is in stirring up phobia and hate so as to create a social climate, where truthful, objective and level headed discussion about “pedophiles” can never take place [and she wishes it were still that way, for the “plain vanillas”, too]…I have never made any secret, regarding my level of total disgust for judith reisman…and, that is where I was coming from, in the post she “quoted” from. What she tore from my post, is a disjointed collection of words, which does not even express a coherent thought, when slapped together, in the manner judith decided to present them in…judith also refuses to link back to the source post [or to any resource, that I have online], and refuses to her readers, understanding of all context in which those words were written…Anyone who just sees her piece of propaganda, will never know why I said those things…despite the fact, that I did elaborate a bit, in a fairly long post. True to character…judith did another hatchet job [this one on me], and made it sound like I was on some incoherent, onslaught of cut downs against her…and she omitted [shielded herself from] what issues I was talking about in that post… …and, gee…where, oh where, have we seen this very same pattern of behavior and tactic, used against us?…This seems like a template, for every asshole with a big mouth, and a bully pulpit… I’ll admit, I did berate that whore of the sex abuse industry, judith reisman…and unapologetically so…but that asshole deserves it, in spades… She does make my blood boil… …If you’ve ever had the displeasure of paying attention too, and witnessing, what judith habitually does…then I don’t have to explain to you, what an abominable shyster she is. Irregardless…after writing her tripe, bemoaning B4U-ACT…she slid in a not exactly “quote” of me…apparently, to illustrate to her clueless fans, “how hostile we are towards her” [while refusing to let it be known, just why that hostility is entirely justified]…and what I found most interesting [beyond the mere fact, that I somehow ended up in an “article” about B4U-ACT, at all] is how she segwayed into this… …and I quote… “Before leaving the issue of stigma and hate speech, note a few excerpts from BOYCHAT April 15 by some of these “social worker” credentialed pedophiles:” My observation that I’d like to make public here…has to do with how judith is connecting me, in with the people behind B4U-ACT… I suppose, it is open to a bit of interpretation…but, to my mind…judith comes to the end of her bellyache over B4U-ACT…after she spends the entire time, bellyaching over B4U-ACT and the people putting on the workshop…everything about that piece of propaganda, is aimed at attacking B4U-ACT and the people associated with it…Then she has this interesting segway, that jumps to me…merging some of my words, into her propaganda…painting a picture, as if “this is what B4U-ACT is saying about [her]”… judith introduces me, as “some of these social worker credentialed pedophiles”…without any distinction, or hint that she even has a clue, that not only were those my own, personal reactions to her history of nefarious behavior, and thus, they have nothing to do with B4U-ACT…but that I am not now, nor have I ever been, associated with B4U-ACT, in any manner. …It does not seem at all unreasonable, based upon the manner in which judith phrased this…to presume that judith was trying to imply [whether by chosen deception, or fact that this is yet another thing, that ignorant bigot does not know], that I am amongst the B4U-ACT group… Even at best, she is clearly exploiting this in a deceptive way…such is the total sleazebag, which judith reisman happens to be. I encourage those associated with B4U-ACT to speak out, and make their own viewpoints known…and I also make it clear, that I speak for myself…I am no leader, or spokesman for any group… …In this comes beautiful liberation, where I can call assholes “assholes”, without fear of tarnishing anybody else’s reputation, by association to me…I don’t feel any sense of obligation, to be tied down to such restrictive codes of behavior…[granted, I do overwhelmingly choose not to behave like that…and I only break out of this mode, for the more unusual confrontations where variables go well beyond the normal, and sometimes even into the obscene]… Now…here’s the question… …In your judgement…am I wrong, in presuming that she thinks I am a member of B4U-ACT [and is making an ass of herself, by exposing how clueless she is]?…am I wrong, in presuming that the rotten old hag, is trying to deceive her readers?… …I don’t expect anything resembling integrity, out of that wicked witch…I’ve seen enough out of her, to know better than to ever expect integrity…Hell, I don’t even expect sanity to come out of her… I don’t believe in karma as a magical force…but, I do believe in karma as a social concept, and reflex…For someone like judith reisman, if karma ever catches up to her, it’s bound to be bloody and ruthless, I think…All the same, my comment about “death by semi [getting run over, by an eighteen wheeler]”, was offered in comical jest. Irregardless…is it really so wrong?…We all know those cases, where “it couldn’t have happened to a nicer person”… Also…in response to judith’s inability to understand my “With love…”…These are words, embedded into the code, that displays alongside my oldest two signature pictures on BoyChat…”With love”, is a sentiment I offer to my friends and allies, on BoyChat…It is not directed towards you, judith…you idiotic dingbat… In close…I am very curious, about the validity of the following quote… “the Department of Justice found 58,200 children kidnapped by non-family members in 1999, such fear seems well-placed.” 1999 saw the disappearance of 58,200 children, she says?…How on earth, does such an epidemic that would have left such an unconcealable footprint, go unnoticed by the public?…That’s a massive amount of children to have disappear, in 1999… …or, is judith just phrasing this in such a way, as to make it seem to say something which is not true?…My goodness…Just exactly how deep does a cover up have to go, to keep this bomb shell under wraps?…	….

Karma Comment: judith reisman…

….	Date: December 7, 2011 01) Mainstreaming Pedophilia judith reisman is at it again… This is at the bottom, of the above linked piece of propaganda. “Judith Reisman” is “with the worst of them…dehumanizing hate speech…extreme christian [sic], right wing…alarmist…creating gross distrotions [sic]…no genuine integrity…a harlot…Judith did, in fact, make [Kinsey’s sexual stimulation of infants and toddlers] sound like horrendously violent, child sexual assault…[she is a] horrible, wretched scumbag…pathetic, sorry excuse for a human being…The world will become a less wretched place, the second Judith Reisman drops dead [from natural causes, of course, though I’d not complain if she got accidentally ran over by a semi]. …With Love, Stevie-D.” Just for reference…the Frankensteined paragraph tossed together by judith reisman, to allegedly summarise my own words, came from this August 16, BoyChat post… …Did poor, poor judith get disturbed by my “semi” comment?… …Yes…I wrote those words, in the context of describing judith’s own heinous behavior, towards people like us…and more people of integrity, should step forward and tell judith, just what a rotten, despicable to the core individual she is. That post was a kinder, more reserved assessment, than judith reisman deserves…I’ll tell you that much. While I’ll admit, I should probably refrain from being that liberal with words [more for my own reputation, than anything else…because we all know, she rightly deserves the sentiments]…I’ll never apologise for saying it… Of all the people out there, judith easily makes the short list, if we ever had to name our “anita briant”. Perhaps…I will return and comment more… …Getting cherry pick quoted, in the “world net daily”…mmmmmm… You know what…if judith can dish out the B.S. she’s been giving, habitually [to many different, sexual minority groups] all these many years…Then she is fair game, to go after, expose…and take down… She’s one of the more rotten liars, out there…I think “hyperbole” is her middle name. I’ll have to spend some quality time, bringing this foul character to light, here… …Oh…I’ve been observing judith for years, and collecting plenty enough information about her, to know what I’m talking about…and just exactly why, her behavior elicits such a response from me…I’ve written a few things, regarding her [at various places, over the years]… …but, I’m also notorious for writing things…and adding it all to “the collection”, to be posted later… If you don’t know judith reisman…suffice it to say, she is a notorious propagandist…She’s well known, for distortion of truth, and an utter lack of objectivity…Of course, she is cocooned within her own, fundamental, religious and far right wing reader base…That’s who she caters too…That is her base, and roots…Or, in other words…she preaches to the choir… Her fan base loves her, because…well…she’s a doctor [though, very much of the loony quack style]…and she acts as a tool lending credibility, to the hatred and intolerance that her fan base so thirsts for. I categorize judith right down there on the same low level, as james dobson, pat robertson, fred phelps…and pretty much any other religious nut job, who’s just out there to attack people, spreading lies and phobia. …and, yes…the world will become a better place, the day she dies… …Loosing someone who behaves like she does, makes that a simple truth. It should be noted, that [as is almost universal with these sorts of situations] there is utterly no link pointing back, to the BoyChat post where judith lifted my words from…Hence, no context provided…and she’s just being an opportunistic sleazebag, here…How typical. […Weak…very weak, judith…but, I don’t expect you to have even one iota of integrity…I just wanted others to recognise this subtle yet profound point…You make me sick with outrage, judith…Your contempt for others, is sickening…You are a person of poor character…] So…anyway… Lastly…I should probably clarify that judith’s presence at the B4U-ACT workshop event, has never been called into doubt [certainly not by me, anyway]…and that was not why I responded the way I did, alerting others who don’t know her about how utterly bankrupt her integrity is. …No, when I mention judith in this way, it is entirely based upon her long term track record…which is pretty consistent. It was confirmed well before the B4U-ACT workshop, that judith had been invited to attend…It was also confirmed after the B4U-ACT workshop, that judith had been present. …Anyone familiar with judith’s past knows, that opening the door to her was just begging for her to use her attendance, as propagandist fodder in her personal war against all sexual minorities…because that is just exactly the type of thing she does… If nothing else…the fact that B4U-ACT would choose to do this [welcome in a propagandist, with such low integrity, and a history of this sort of ill behavior], should testify that B4U-ACT is a much more complicated group/effort, than what many people hostile towards it are trying to reduce it down too…As a collective, it is not “pro pedophile”, nor interested in legalizing pedophilia. …Of course, if you listen to judith [and actually believe what she has to say], you’d be left with a completely opposite viewpoint…because that’s what she does…She distorts the facts, because she’s amongst the “all is fair in war” sect… …and she declared personal war on all sexual minorities, years and years ago… No, she is no friend to “plain vanilla” homosexuals, either…and often has tried to associate them with the hate filled stereotype and stigma, which gets pinned on us Child/Teen Lovers…and blame their gains, for any advancements we Child/Teen Lovers might make…which, of course, she habitually works to spook and horrify her [very dogmatic] readership, with. When judith learned of B4U-ACT [something that might eventually help people like us cope with life, and help make the world a better place], this cruel woman decided that she needs to destroy it…because it in some [any?] way, intends to help “pedophiles”… You see…judith reisman is a miserable wretch of a human being, who is just out there working to destroy people like us… …and again…she fully deserves to be classified, right along side fred phelps, of the westboro baptist church… This is why I have such a low opinion of her…She is ruthlessly hostile towards us…She lies, and distorts any facts associated with us, if it serves her own agenda…In short, she is a horrible person who deserves an enormous backlash for her repugnant behavior. The “death” comment I made about her…that is a comment I’ve made in regards to a few people…acknowledging that they cannot keep going on hurting other people forever…They’ll eventually die…The “semi” bit, was a reference to judith’s bad karma…	….

The Washington Times and B4U-ACT…

….	Date: November 24, 2011 01) CROUSE: Normalizing Penn State pedophilia Revisiting this “article” again…I wrote a different, shorter response…hit the “post” button, and ran into a “just a moment” message…which failed to end…even after an hour… …Hmmm…The first response [which really tore apart that propaganda piece] never got approved, while a bunch of other people’s responses did… This second response [which also embarrassingly exposes that propaganda piece], so far…I’m running into a fishy problem, even getting it accepted…No message, that the moderator will view it… Anyway…since the moderator refused my first comment, here is a new one I submitted. We shall see, if anyone at The Washington Times has the integrity, to allow their readers to view this… [Note: It did eventually go through, and show up!] In light of major news providers making this sort of opinion piece available, a few things should be stated and understood. 1) This article badly misrepresents the group, B4U-ACT; both in terms of who they are, what their goal is, what they’ve accomplished and what they are doing. 2) The author of this piece [Janice Shaw Crouse], has offered a collection of words which reads curiously similar [both by innuendo, and what is strategically omitted], to what looks like a smattering of other, far right [often religious] authors’ pieces. This appears to be an intentional smear campaign, where in they are attempting to harness public outrage over the Penn State scandal, and deceptively funnel it towards B4U-ACT. 3) B4U-ACT exists, in response to both the inability of “pedophiles” to seek out competent, compassionate mental health care, and the reluctance causing barriers which so frequently keep “pedophiles” in the closet…and hence, isolated; not willing to seek out help, even when they are in mental/emotional turmoil. It also exists, to address concerns from mental health professionals, who simply don’t know [or are unprepared] to handle such cases. In addition, it promotes fact based information, while attempting to combat stereotypes, stigma and the dissemination of false information. 4) Miner Attracted Person [MAP] is a value neutral term, acknowledging only the sexual orientation of the individual; and that said orientation does not dictate the nature or behavior of the individual person. Many such people are never violent. Many never break the law. Many are actually good, decent people. This term is intended to be used, in a clinical setting…in privacy, between the “pedophile” and mental health workers. 5) It is my understanding, that B4U-ACT has rejected all notions, that current laws concerning sexual activity between miners and adults should be changed. It is also my understanding, that several members of B4U-ACT are dead set against such a campaign. B4U-ACT focuses solely on cultivating a mental health industry, which reaches out to “pedophiles”…and offers a support structure without judgment…or the probability of a destroyed life, should their orientation become publicly known. 6) If B4U-ACT is supported and allowed to thrive, they can eventually start chapters in every state…and this is a good thing. Many “pedophiles” who’ve done heinous things, were people that lived isolated lives…They had no peer/support structure, with which to take their problems and stress too. If we had such a structure in place, some amount of violence against children [including some cases of rape and murder], stands a good chance of being eliminated. 7) Given the lengths to which many people on the far right [and the left, as well] have gone, to promote child safety [as well as tenaciously assault anything/one they believe stands contrary to it]…I am astonished, that anyone of that mindset would actually try to destroy B4U-ACT, with what appears to be a blatant propaganda campaign. This type of behavior, stands entirely contrary to promoting an environment of child safety, when someone is attempting to destroy a group, which itself is trying to bring troubled “pedophiles” who cannot cope, into a support structure which works to keep them from doing something very bad. 8) No other group like B4U-ACT exists. It’s goals are ethical…They are very much worth trying. 9) Please, before you pass judgment, learn about the history behind B4U-ACT, the people in this group, and what they are factually doing. All of them, including the “pedophiles”, are real people; who are concerned about a lot of social issues…including those concerning children…including the horrible social plight of “pedophiles”, and the many continuing problems that must be addressed.	….

B4U-ACT: A Brief Historical Account, Of What I Know…

….	Date: November 22, 2011 01) CROUSE: Normalizing Penn State pedophilia – While children suffer, activists push to mainstream abuse I left this in the comment section, for this piece of shameful, yellow journalism…I know that B4U-ACT is a controversial organization, both within and outside of the Child-Love/Teen-Love community…but, I get so disgusted, when I see people so brazenly distorting [or outright ignoring] the truth, about this group and it’s activities…I had to say something, as this “article” is just an extension, of how so many people think nothing, of berating us, lying about us, and distorting perceptions about who we are, what we do, or why we are doing it. …I admit it is a bit longish, for a comment…but, this is what I left in response to that “article”…The form accepted the entire thing, told me it had been received and was awaiting moderation [often a bad sign]… There were about 26 comments posted total, when I submitted…Since then, this has grown to over fifty…Quite a few comments were approved…mine was not… I don’t know exactly what that says, but I wanted to make this public note, that there seems to have been a refusal by the moderator, to allow this to be seen. Michael Melsheimer [who died last summer] was a founding member of B4U-ACT. To my knowledge, he did not maintain a personal website, in the later years of his life…nor is his old website still online. This is a shame, because he went to substantial detail, outlining his own personal efforts [as a “pedophile”], seeking and attempting to attain mental health services, to deal with depression, and emotional/psychological issues which arise, from being forced to live your life under enormous stigma, in an environment hostile to your orientation…and even hostile towards the simple act, of publicly talking about what he was going through. This is an extremely sinister, and hard burden to bare, for most people with this orientation…It often leads to psychological issues. As it were, Michael got repeatedly turned away, and refused services. He was not being forced to seek these services, as he had no criminal judgement against him. He was seeking this, for his own purposes and quality of life…his ability to cope with life, etc…What Michael discovered, is that there was no public health service, facility or program available to people like him, to aid with mental health issues. As a result, the places he went in search of help, did not know what to do with him, and rejected services to him. He found this unacceptable, and started contacting people…politicians, mental health professionals, etc…There was agreement, that it stood in the best interest of the public [and people like Michael], for these kinds of services to be available to people like him…who felt they needed it. There was still no state funding for it, however…So, Michael kept pressing forward. He eventually managed to get together a group, which became known as B4U-ACT. This comprised of mental health professionals who were concerned about providing compassionate care for people with this orientation [and nurturing public safety, of course], and actual people having this orientation, who could provide a factual, level headed perspective of what it is like to live like this, the hardships…what people like this need in their lives…the barriers that stood in the way, of them seeking mental health services, etc, etc. Amongst the various problems identified, is the inbuilt hostility towards people with this orientation, both in tone, prejudice and legal reporting obligations…all of which are real problems, within the mental health field, and make many closeted “pedophiles” extremely reluctant to ever seek out such services. Much of this problem comes from preconceived, stereotypical notions about “pedophiles”, held by many people in the field. B4U-ACT started working, to educate mental health professionals about better ways of addressing people like Michael, and dealing with their issues. It also works to combat stigma surrounding people with this orientation, and stresses that many such people never commit a criminal act, associated with their orientation…Yet, it is still socially perilous, for anyone to self identify with this orientation. They rejected the term “pedophile”, and coined “Miner Attracted Adult”, because it is a value neutral term, and does not carry with it the implied baggage, of “someone who rapes children”, etc…It only acknowledges the orientation, and does not pose accusatory implications…which are frankly unfounded [and untrue], in many, many, many, many, many cases…Further, this was intended to be used by professionals, within the clinical field of mental health…It was not something, as I under stand it, that anybody expected the main public to embrace or use commonly. Ultimately, mental health workers are not there to judge people…They are supposed to be there, to help others get through life, and assist in the avoidance of social problems. There is utterly nothing unethical about what B4U-ACT stands for, what it came into existence over, or what it is doing today. Last I knew, the group officially rejects, all accusation that they can, will, should, or are campaigning to change any laws, or perceived, current social norms. In short, the full scope of B4U-ACTs constitution, is to condition the mental health industry, to better be able to assist “pedophiles”, who are having serious troubles coping and dealing with life. One [of many] advantageous social aspect of this effort, is that “pedophiles” who are not in turmoil or peril [or isolated, and allowed to develop a psychological illness], are much less likely to have a breakdown, and do something stupid…One such thing, might be to rape a child… It is rare for “pedophiles” to become actually violent…but, people who are relentlessly conditioned by the world around them to “be a monster”, sometimes…they eventually break down, and live up to those expectations which society demands of them…as a bold faced scapegoat. Instead of contributing to this atmosphere of isolation, constant psychological abuse, habitual violent threat, gross distortion and just utter nastiness…I wish people would reflect deeper, and realize how their own sentiments of violent threats with guns, etc…outright demented proclamations of what levels of violence they would met out…vicious accusations against people [and situations] they don’t even know…”below the belt” insults and half baked notions, of “why pedophiles are/do that”…blunt dismissals as “evil, irredeemable monsters”…total denial of objective facts, as ones mind hears the word “pedophile”, and instantly shuts down, defaulting to canned responses…I wish you would just stop…and understand what damage “you” are doing here. You are contributing to an atmosphere, which helps nobody…least of all children, whom many of you, presumably, think need to be in a safer environment… Safer environments, are ones which contain mentally stable people…This includes, mentally stable “pedophiles”. If you want to shoot down a group, which is working towards that end…Then you all had better know who you are shooting at, and what you are acting to halt…Such is not what simple minded, vendetta logic, might lead some to believe…You’re just hurting the world…You’re not helping… It is a mark of shame, that so many people would speak out of prejudice…instead of doing their due diligence, and learning about the people they brazenly attack, before they say anything at all… Looking back over Janice Shaw Crouses’ “article”…I see nothing of what I know, about the history of B4U-ACT mentioned, or acknowledged in any way…This “article” is nothing more than yellow journalism, and a hatchet job. It is also indefensibly ignorant…and contains gross distortions. I guess some people don’t want to know the truth…as a deliciously “evil” and vague scandal, makes so much better fodder, for cut throat propaganda. Facts get in the way, of the mud throwing and the outright lies. It’s a sad testimony to the human species, that where truth and facts prove useless or even detrimental to ones’ private goals, they are often the first casualties… …Guess Janice did not have much use, for those truths and facts… This is why I chose to present them…I figured in the face of this gross distortion, propaganda piece…someone of integrity aught to step forward, and shed a bit of light on this issue. Shame on everyone out there, who is using their bully pulpit to spread distorted notions about B4U-ACT…This group is working for the betterment of society as a whole [which includes children]…There are no other groups in this country, which are taking up this important issue, and it’s fight…This is a relevant, vital, monumental and good cause…and various people like Janice, have decided they need to kill it… I don’t know what else to say to any of you…This behavior of trying to destroy B4U-ACT [and obsessively attacking “pedophiles”] is ignorance, viciousness and cruelty, personified. It is high time for a new era…a humane world, where nobody gets treated like sub-human trash. It is time, that everybody have access to vital, mental health services… What is it about this, that so many of you object too?…Why are you so hostile, towards this?…What about all that has just been told to you here, could possibly offend you?… Don’t you know, that if allowed to succeed, it will likely save some children’s lives?… …Do “you” even care?…or are you just too busy getting off, on a “bash pedophiles” party?… I implore you…Please stop contributing to the problem. I was going to go back, to see if they’d approved it yet, and to make an additional comment…pointing out how Janice Shaw Crouse [just like a few other, curiously similar “articles” that have surfaced, lately] was trying to link two entirely separate issues…seemingly to harness public outrage over the Penn State scandal, and channel it towards B4U-ACT…Which, of course, is one of many dirty, below the belt, media tactics for mentally linking together in peoples minds, their emotions and feelings about one issue to another. It appears, there is at least a few people out there, who are trying to subliminally link Penn State scandal outrage, with B4U-ACT. Theoretically…if Sandusky were a sexually violent predator [which has yet to be proven], what something like B4U-ACT could offer, is an avenue for intervention, to someone like Sandusky, before becoming sexually violent…Or, in other words, if allowed to thrive and spread, chapters of B4U-ACT could act as a substantial deterrent, for people who are feeling as though they cannot control themselves…A person in such turmoil, could turn to this group… The biggest [and probably sickest] irony…is that Janice Shaw Crouse [and a few others] appears to be hell bent, on completely destroying even the possibility, of this option. In other words, she [amongst others] is working to shoot down, something that could have a real world impact, on lowering sexual assault on miners…which, seems to be what she is so up in arms about, in the first place…and this makes no sense… The fact that she [as well as others] is lying, both in what she says and by omission…it makes this “article” add up to one completely despicable spectacle…	….

Scrubbing Queer Rights Clean…

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….	Date: May 2, 2010 01) BC Response The sanitized rewriting of history, has many young gays believing that “we”, deceptively tried to attach ourselves to the Queer Rights movement. When, factually, the Queer Rights movement was broad enough, initially, to simply include people like us, without second guessing it. Largely, this was because…the movement was concerned more with broad, sexual liberation, and the freedom to honestly define and defend, ones own sexual nature. It recognized an outside oppressor, that effected many groups…and was doing the same thing, to all of them…and, it fought back. Queer Rights, was…well…I don’t want to say “everything queer”, but…that is an implication of the term…and “queer” is very broad…It is not hammered down, to one, specific meaning. This is why I make a distinction, between the Queer Rights movement, and the Gay Rights movement. “Gay”, is more of a recent, public relations identity, for a selected fraction amongst the Queer Rights movement. It was for people, who wanted to distance themselves from the politically inconvenient…and, wanted to hijack the Queer Rights movement, making it “their own toy”, and taking it home with themselves…so none of the rest of us “could play with it”. Soon after, it became an “offensive obscenity”, to even imply that we have a sexual rights movement of our own, at all…or, that we were once accepted, in the Queer Rights movement. This was considered a “cruel affront”, to the good, valiant, pure as snow gays, who had unjustly suffered so horribly, and were “being hurt all the more”, by us…and “what we [supposedly] did to them”… It is well beyond ironic, that the elements which so cruelly stabbed BoyLovers, Teen-Lovers, Child-Lovers, etc, in the back, and turned on us with such inexcusable hypocrisy and ruthlessness, are the exact ones who are proclaimed to be “the victims” in all of this. It really is a sick and twisted joke, and a testimony to how social paradigms [and history books] are constructed…Real history, does not have to have anything to do with the process. Factual history has been so whitewashed…and, today, society is assaulted with so much of these mind numbing, loud minorities, who shout down and censor alternative viewpoints, that one dogmatic party line, is all many people ever hear/know…and they very much believe this B.S., especially when the opposition that should be there, is negligent in being there.	….
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Boys in Men’s Bodies?…

….	Date: March 2, 2010 01) BC Link I’ve heard it said before… …that once you reach eighteen, that is it… Psychologically [not to be confused with physically], you never feel like you get any older. In many ways, I feel like the same base person who I was, when I was in my teens…and I wasn’t so different then, from how I was younger [except I’d given up throwing fits]. The only difference today, is that I’ve been pushed past my capacity to cope so many times over [in multiple ways], that it would take an insane idiot to get in my face and cause me any more grief. There is a surplus of people on this planet, who need a good, stiff bitch slap [maybe several dozen]…and I’m seeing a lot of them walking around me, these days. I’ve certainly changed, in that regard…because I’m sick of the abuse…and the constant pressure/stress alters you. Have I evolved from where I was as a boy?… …You know, many people say I have a good character…though, frankly, I’ve been going crazy over these past few years, most especially…I still have good intent, and I care…and I am sincere… Many people appreciate those characteristics I still possess [many of them since I was a young boy], because they are noble and true…they are desirable. I’ve had various insecurities and phobias, which I picked up somewhere as a boy…and no matter what, I cannot seem to get rid of them…some of them are crippling under different circumstances…One day, it may mean the death of me. Does this mean “I am still a boy”? I don’t know what “grow up” means… …I’ve paid enough dues, to cover an entire village of people… I work, as though I were some sort of “bought and paid for” chattel…doing the work of two people, under insane levels of stress. People push me as though there are no limitations…physical or emotional…and I often just cannot rise to that level of demand anymore…but, I keep getting back up, and pushing on… …Is that “grown up”? I keep my PlayStation 2 [and a handful of other game consoles, which largely just set collecting dust] set up, for binge playing…once every couple of months…It’s an escape…a coping tool, if you will… Does this mean I’m not “grown up”? You know, I get so frustrated, and disgusted…with being pulled “this” way, and then “that” way…by everyone and everything, tearing me apart, trying to force me to be, and conform to, just what they envision as “my rightful place in the world”. I am not allowed my rightful place in this world…and I have enough insight, to know that much. …but, I’m about as “grown up”, as I am ever going to be… That I am a flawed human being, with obstacles that often seem insurmountable, is a testimony to the harsh world I live in…and what ways it has failed people like me. Ultimately, I am alone…and I’ve not had anybody groom me for a life of success and lavish living…I’ve not been given tremendous breaks, or someone with power to look out for me and open doors. I don’t even have someone to be my life partner, because it is so damn complicated finding someone you can even trust. If you want to judge me, because I am not conforming to an institutionalized model… …then I can tell, you do not have the first inkling of experience, that would allow you to understand and empathize, with those who face this kind of crippling adversity. Nobody needs to hear your parroting, of modern day, pop psychology mind farts, which have never held any credibility. If you want to do something of value, then stop casting ignorant judgment, and start offering a hand of help to others.	….

471 Sex Crimes Against Delaware Pediatrician…

….	Date: February 23, 2010 01) 471 Sex Crimes Against Delaware Pediatrician Do people get into the field of pediatric medical care, in order to fulfill a sexual desire? No doubt, a few do. It saddens me to know, that anyone would ever think that this is either acceptable, or that it is “their only option” to know a child intimately… …and then again, maybe…this man is just sadistic on a personal level…and he gets off on violent rape? I don’t want to speculate very much, as I don’t know his circumstances, or the path that led him to this dreadful set of circumstances. I should note, however…This is one of the very few case stories I’ve encountered, where the “victim count” [literal victims, or not] made it to the triple digits [though, it’s just a little past 100]. These kinds of cases are extremely rare…which is why it made the news. Someone in his position had resources [drugs] available to him, no doubt, to assist him in getting away with this for so long…otherwise, one would be left to wonder, if he were doing violent assaults on children, then how is it that none talked, or showed signs of the assault? …Or, maybe they have one, or two [or a handful of] charges against him, and they decided to pull his entire clientele into the investigation, claiming they are all “victims”? Such distortions are very possible, when it comes to this kind of news. I am curious as to why anyone felt the need to clarify, that “one of the victims was a boy”. That just came off as bizarre. It is as though they had the opportunity to claim homosexual assault, so they went ahead and did so…for shock value? I do not see the relevance. For the record…if these charges are true, then this guy should be locked away for a long, long time…and he may never see the outside world, again. I recognise that kind of behavior, as both predatory and gross exploitation. You do not present yourself to others, under an unrelated and important pretext [ie: being a doctor to service your child’s needs], just to turn around and force some kind of blatant assault [on those who were brought to you, in order to tend to their medical needs]. I am reminded of Dr. Adam Selene [a BoyChat poster, from years back, who was a knowledgeable doctor]…and how he sternly rebuked an anonymous poster [a troll?], who asked for advice, as to whether they should become a pediatrician, in order to gain access to children. “You don’t get into the medical field, unless you sincerely want to help people”, and “This is no place to get your sexual thrills”, are how I would [more nicely] sum up Dr. Selene’s message. I agree. This is just about as bad, as the “pedophile priests”… We, as a society, need to start getting smart…and looking at the root problems, which would drive anyone to these kinds of behaviors [and in some cases, atrocities]. You know…I don’t tend to highlight these kinds of cases on my personal websites, though I’ve addressed many of them [at places like BoyChat] over the years. I do not ignore them [not at all], it is just that my focus has been on bringing the world to a well rounded, even understanding of “pedophilia”, and the issues surrounding it. I figure, within hours…hundreds [probably thousands] of people will have pounced upon this news story…and they will be letting the whole world know of their own outrage, and whatever it is they think “should be done to” this guy. I try to provide not only a better quality of personal character, but also a higher standard of integrity, than what you would typically find on the internet…and I hope this comes through clearly. I refuse to engage in the typical, online behavior. This is why I normally focus on the positive, rational aspects of “pedophilia”, and upon confronting the social resistance towards it…as well as other forms of taboo, human sexuality. We need far more level headed voices, like what I am providing. We need to band together, and remove the broken social behaviors, which would drive anyone to do the kinds of things, that honestly can be called “sexual assault” [on children or adults]… …but, at the same time, we must respect that there is a clear, distinct line between healthy sexuality [and development], and predatory assault. We cannot ever hope to effectively address real sexual violence, until we are ready to get serious about not convoluting the issues, and not allowing sex laws, to be used as weapons against peaceful, sexual minorities. As things stand, persecuted sexual minorities will only be driven underground…Some will become desperate and angry, because they have no safe outlet. These circumstances only act to inflame, whatever serious dangers already exist. …This pattern of political, social behavior, only acts to encourage sexual violence, and other forms of violence, including murder. We need to focus on the root social problems, not spend our time, recklessly calling for this guys head on a platter, or seeking bloody revenge. Is nobody else, at all, interested in confronting these issues, in a way that actually means something?	….