“An elderly Indian scientist VIR Nehru lives in a nursing home. He began to have a negative attitude towards Muslims after the terrorist attack that killed his family. Now VIR Nehru is forced to tolerate the Muslim boy Aslam, who must visit him to serve his sentence in public works. The growing tension in the region between the two religious communities will grow into something more between the boy and the scientist within 11 weeks.”
“This short film accompanies the book HOW TO THINK MORE ABOUT SEX by Alain de Botton, published on 10th May 2012 by Pan Macmillan as part of The School of Life book series.
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This short movie is ambiguous, until the very tail end…where it seems to conclude, that you shouldn’t sleep around…
Though I’m not up to writing a lot, today…I feel like this demands a response…
…Not only do I dislike it when I’ve invested the time into watching their media, and putting together a blog post for it…just to get a kind of “parting shot”, that sort of turns the ambiguity on it’s head…
…But I really hate it, when I’m jarred out of the flow of what I’m watching [a balanced look at an issue, from multiple viewpoints], to be quickly confronted with something I likely disagree with…seconds before the media ends.
It feels like a “bait and switch”…
The Good:
I think this explores a realm in sexuality, in a fair and honest way…for however deep a “ten minute” video can.
I like that it contrasts the different things some people expect, and how they experience things when something unexpected happens.
This opens the door to dialogue, about what we need and expect as individuals…dialogue that’s important, in helping us live our lives to the fullest.
The Question:
Is monogamy important?
…Or, more specific…Is monogamy something that everybody should be striving towards?
Personally…I respect “open” relationships…
This is not the same thing as saying, “That’s what I would choose to do”…But I do understand, sexual monogamy does not work for every relationship.
I think…so long as the people involved are honest with each other, and either accept each other in this or have the freedom to leave…it’s okay.
I just felt like the video’s last line made it seem, like the ideal is to have only one sexual partner at any given time…or, a lifelong sexual partner…
…I cant say as I find this realistic…or natural.
As a BoyLover:
The question of multiple sexual companions at the same time, overlapping, is an obvious question…
…Is it ethical to have more than one boy, as an intimate companion during the same time era?…
Is it true…that your current boy keeps you tied into the child population, and helps bridge you to other boys?…
…What happens, if you’ve only ever had one relationship with one boy…and he grows out of being a boy?…
I cant argue against the fact…that it is a natural flow of things for a BL who is open, and has boys in his life…to be introduced to new boys, by his current boy friends…
…I cant argue against…that a bunch of horny males getting together, can naturally lead to sexual relations…if everybody is adventurous enough…
…I’ve never seen that as immoral…
In fact…given the social structure we live in, where they don’t want young males making babies they’re not allowed to support…it’s always seemed like giving them a place to put their erections other than a vagina, becomes all the more moral and compassionate.
I’ve never seen a problem in loving boys…nor in being a BL…It’s an obvious, natural thing…
One Base Rule:
No matter who you are, or how you lean…you must always respect and love your companions…
…Sometimes…often, really…this means loving them, by respecting that they do not wish to be sexually loved by you…even when you so badly wish to sexually love them…
…This is a selfless, sacrificing kind of love…It’s how you know that you honestly love someone…when you put their needs and desires, above your own.
If you live by this…I figure…laws and social bigotries be damned…
…”you”, yourself…are not immoral in your sexual relationships…On the contrary…you are highly moral…
…And, hence…it is not immoral, to be involved with people who share your outlook.
“Eric Turkheimer, Professor of Psychology at the University of Virginia, joins David to discuss IQ, including connections to environment, race, ethnicity, and more”
01) Treatment of sex offenders depends on whether they’ve challenged rules
“WASHINGTON – Eight months after the U.S. Supreme Court effectively upheld a decision saying parts of Michigan’s sex offender registry law — one of the toughest in the nation — were unconstitutional, thousands of former sex offenders who thought they’d be off the registry by now, or facing less severe restrictions, have seen no changes.
The law remains in place, unchanged, with the state defending it in more than three dozen lawsuits — many of which it has already lost. The controversy involves a ruling two years ago by the U.S. 6th Circuit Court of Appeals in Cincinnati that said provisions enacted in 2006 and 2011 and applied to offenders convicted before then violates constitutional protections against increasing punishments after-the-fact. Last October, the U.S. Supreme Court declined to hear the state’s challenge to that ruling, effectively upholding it.”
01) Here is why neuroscientists think you are a pervert
“Why has society condemned certain intimate practices between consenting adults but not others? The answer possibly lies in wherever our society sets moral standards — generally biased, limited and sometimes political. Instead, normality should be derived by scientific and quantified results.
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When it comes to bedroom activities, we often believe that most things we don’t do are wrong and sick. We often judge other people’s realities and behaviours from our limited and biased scope and experience.
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It’s up to each individual to choose what is right for themselves. The notion of abnormality in sexuality — with its medical and psychological labels of illness — came about to explain a deviant pattern in the reproductive aspects of mating. But humans, in general, engage in sex because they like it, not necessarily because they want to reproduce.”
01) Study finds your genes have a large influence your sense of duty to vote
““The conventional wisdom is that political orientations are primarily shaped by political socialization (e.g., parents, teachers, peers, etc). We find that the sense of civic duty is heritable and also that there is genetic overlap between personality traits (which we, and many psychologists before us, find to be heritable) and civic duty.”
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By statistically analyzing data from twins who had participated in the National Survey of Midlife Development in the United States, the researchers found evidence that people have different heritable predispositions to how they feel about politics.
Specifically, they found that about 70% to 87% of the relationship between civic duty and four of the Big Five personality traits could be attributed to genetic factors. (The four personality traits being Extraversion, Conscientiousness, Emotional Stability, and Openness.)
– M.A. Net
