Date: May 29, 2009
A) BoyChat is what “you” make of it…
B) You’re making a spectacle out of it…
C) Nobody with a little bit of incite and familiarity, is even remotely surprised that “Whatever Bitch” is you…In fact, it was painfully obvious, in my opinion.
D) If you want to successfully conceal your identity, it would be of great benefit, to avoid returning to the exact same theme, which you are quite famous for, every time you return to BC…
E) Yes, there are some “bad” people who read and post at BC…Some people are selfish and destructive, and others are just really, really lousy at making intelligent decisions, and at personal security…Some just get caught up in a moment of weakness.
F) Most of us, who are not salivating for “fresh meat” to pounce upon, have a reasonable understanding, that much of the “ill” (literal, or just condemned) behavior of people in our minority, is symptomatic of a larger social problem and conflict.
It’s not that we can look at everyone here and say, “They’re just that way”. We need to take into account, the world of shit which most of us are forced to exist in, how we are so isolated to ourselves, and further cut off from our own, natural needs, and hence, a place of well being.
Under extreme conditions, such as the ones we exist under today…extreme outbursts of action, will follow. It is natural, that when an animal, such as we are, is deprived of things so fundamental, and on such an absolute level…”things” break down…mentality, stability, sometimes even ethics.
There is a reason why, so many of us remain quiet, when another falls…even if they did do something heinous…or, at least questionable…and, no…it is not all about “saving face”, “naive delusions”, or “protecting identities”, etc…
We understand, that sexuality, and the freedom to be who/what we are, is a fundamental need, and characteristic which adorns that list defining us all. Those who have had these crucial things taken away from them, are debased as a human being, in life…and there is just nothing that you can honestly replace that with.
I understand why, we make dumb decisions…I understand why we fall…I understand where that moment of “Fuck it all!” desperation exists at…(every honest person in our minority does).
It overwhelmingly has to do, with the deck being stacked, us being treated horrendously to the point of psychological breakdown…and our inability to morph and adapt, to the world of traps around us…
…because, to do so, means to cease being who and what we are.
This is why, your one dimensional dismissal of former BoyChatters who have fallen, is so distasteful.
Some of them earned it…Many did not…and “I” will not ride around on a high horse, wagging my finger at people, who I know were truthfully just reacting to a hostile and menacing world which allowed them no outlet.
Humility and empathy, are key here.
I could recall at least a short list, of the really horrendous stuff I am aware of, brought to the world by a few former BoyChat posters…everything from murder, to raping little children.
It’s important to keep in mind, however, that when we are driven so far underground, and we cannot even police ourselves…these kinds of extreme cases will come along, periodically.
It is not as though, we have all managed to live our lives unscathed…Many carey mental injuries, from a life of perpetual threat, neglect and rather sinister psychological manipulation. Some go mentally ill, from all of it.
I cannot just drop the axe on everybody, because this is not a simple situation…and simple answers do not fit.
Ultimately, I am forced to look out at the world and say, “You treat us like fucking shit, dictate what we supposedly do, and disallow us to be what we naturally are…and you are somehow shocked, when we explode, go insane and fulfill your demands of us?”…