“Kan man være pædofil og samtidig modstander af enhver form for overgreb på børn? P1 Dokumentar har talt med en række unge pædofile mænd, der aldrig kunne finde på at udleve deres seksuelle fantasi. De vil gerne have hjælp, men tør ikke at række hånden ud. Men hvis pædofile ikke får hjælp i tide, så øger det risikoen for, at flere børn bliver udsat for seksuelle overgreb.
En af de unge pædofile i dokumentaren er Oliver – han er 18 år og han har aldrig sagt ordet ‘pædofil’ højt, før han snakkede med journalisterne fra P1 Dokumentar.
De unge pædofile mænd lever det meste af deres liv på intern…”
[Translated]
“Can you be pedophile and at the same time opposing any kind of abuse on children? P1 Documentary has spoken to a number of young pedophile men who could never figure out their sexual imagination. They want help, but do not dare to reach out. However, if pedophiles do not get help on time, it increases the risk of more children being exposed to sexual assault.
One of the young pedophiles in the documentary is Oliver – he is 18 years old and he has never said the word ‘pedophile’ loudly before talking to the journalists from P1 Dokumentar.
The young pedophile men live most of their lives internally …”
Well…I cant tell what’s being talked about in detail…but, the description gives us a general idea of the tone of this interview…
…Before anyone groans…please remember…I am an information, content and media aggregator, amongst other things…
I have a policy [and history] of passing along things involving other MAPs, regardless of whether those things perfectly mirror my own ethical world view…I do this for the sake of broader commentary, and fostering dialogue.
01) Sam Harris ‘just cannot believe’ Donald Trump is US President
“American neuroscientist and popular author Sam Harris discusses how Donald Trump rewrites reality, the illusion of free will and how social media is driving us all insane.”
01) How to spot high-conflict people before it’s too late – Bill Eddy
“Here’s a fast fact about high-conflict people: life is better when you avoid them. Bill Eddy, mediation expert and president of the High Conflict Institute, describes them not only as difficult but also potentially dangerous. So how can we avoid becoming a target in their path of destruction? First, you have to be able to recognize them, says Eddy. They tend to share these four key characteristics: a preoccupation with blaming others, all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, and extreme behaviors. Once you know what you’re dealing with—a textbook high-conflict personality—you can take measures to manage this relationship, whether it’s at home, at work, or beyond. Eddy shares his matter-of-fact methods for withdrawing from these people or, if that’s not an option, for how to resist their conflict lures and disengage from the drama. Bill Eddy is the author of 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities.
Transcript: What’s interesting is high-conflict personalities seem to—we’ve really boiled it down to four key characteristics. The first and maybe the most stunning is a preoccupation with blaming other people. It’s really, “It’s all your fault,”—and you may have experienced this—“and it’s not at all my fault”. That’s zero. “My part of the problem is zero.” And that’s how high-conflict people talk. And they’ll say, “Don’t you get it? It’s all your fault.”
The second is a lot of all-or-nothing thinking. “Of course it’s all your fault, but my way or the highway.” Solutions to problems are: “There’s all-good people and there’s all-bad people.” So they have this kind of all-or-nothing perspective.
A third is often, but not always, unmanaged emotions. And you may see that; people that just start yelling or just start crying or just storm out of a room—that kind of behavior we’re seeing, but it’s emotions that they’re not managing.
And the fourth is extremes of behavior.
And one thing I talk about in the book ‘Five Types of People’ is this 90 percent rule, that 90 percent of people don’t do some of the things that high-conflict people do. So if you see some shocking behavior and then the person makes an excuse for it, that’s often the tip of the iceberg.
So it’s preoccupation with blaming others, all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, and extreme behaviors. That seems to be the pattern for high-conflict personalities. People that have those we call high-conflict people. But, by the way, don’t tell them that you think that—that’ll blow up in your face.
So target of blame seems to be why these folks can become so difficult. If you’re the target of blame your life may be ruined by one of these folks, and that’s what people need to become aware of. So the target of blame—each of these five high-conflict personalities tends to zero in generally on one person. It could change over time but they see that person as the cause of all their problems. And so they want to control that person or eliminate that person or destroy or humiliate that person. It’s a fixation on one person, and all of their life problems they emotionally focus on that person. So you don’t want to be one of those folks.
How to avoid being a target of blame? First of all, if you see warning signs of this behavior don’t get too close to such a person. You may be a friend, but don’t be the closest friend. You may be a co-worker, but don’t be the closest co-worker. Because what seems to happen is the people they get really close to are the ones that are most at-risk of becoming their targets of blame.
But it could be anybody. They tend to target intimate others and people in authority. So this could be boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, parents, children, co-workers, neighbors they get close to. It also could be police, it could be a government agency or government official, it could be their boss, it could be the company owner. So they tend to focus on intimate others and/or people in authority.
Now the way to avoid becoming a target of blame is not getting too close to them but also not engaging in conflict with them. They often invite conflict, like they’ll say outrageous things and you may feel like you’ve got to persuade them that they’re wrong, and that’s what I call a “forget about it”. Just forget about it. You’re not going to change their mind. If they’re a difficult person, a high-conflict person, this is who they are, and you may not really even exist for them. So if you argue with them they’re not going to change. So save yourself the trouble.”
………………………………………..May – 2018
………………………………….A 142 Post Month!
A mere few days ago, I figured this posting month was essentially over…Then the heat wave broke, at least enough for me to get back to blogging…and May 2018 leaped over April 2018…to become the new record high posting month!
01) ONLINE CHILD SEXUAL EXPLOITATION IN KENYA – A RAPID ASSESSMENT REPORT February 2018 [PDF]
02) The Article
Thank you, to feinmann0.
“From a 2018 report by Terre des Hommes, a Dutch charity that campaigns for children’s rights. “A recent study shows that 45 per cent of commercial sexual exploitation of children victims in the Kenyan coastal regions had migrated from upcountry to engage in commercial sex work. It is estimated that in the coastal town of Mtwapa alone, between 10,000 and 20,000 children are trafficked annually for the purpose of sex tourism.”
The above quote by the Dutch charity was broadcast by citizen TV, Kenya. The allafrica link describes how AfricaCheck, an African fact-checking organisation based in Johannesburg, uncovered falsified statistics used in children’s charity reports to highlight a massive problem that in reality never existed.”
I skimmed over this, very quickly…and will go over it, later…
Of course…the reality of these “crimes”, is that many of these children and teens are very enthusiastic participants…
A few years back, there was a report about this in the Philippines…where the parents, themselves, were setting things up…and letting their children have the time of their lives with each other in front of a live camera…and the kids loved it.
…It was a literal, cottage family business…It sustained their lives…and the kids were being harmed in no way.
Cases of kids and families moving to different jurisdictions, in order to get away from draconian laws and do this sort of thing, are not unheard of.
Of course…sad thing about that documentary…is that you had the activist “social worker”, who had to weasel in and convince these children as to “why they were being abused”…
01) P1 Dokumentar: Hjælp mig, jeg er pædofil 1:2
