Date: September 29, 2014
If relationships are real…
…we cannot help but impart upon each other, some amount of personal growth, discovery and knowledge.
When it comes to the man and the boy [the adult and the child, etc.]…neither is more relevant than the other…both bring something, and likely a lot of somethings…
However…based upon age and experience, the elder is more likely to have attained more in their life to share.
…The younger shares other things, including energy, vibrancy, joy, desire…capacity to learn…a chance to give greater meaning, to an elders life.
Of course, the younger knows some things, the elder does not……and they will teach the elder, in various ways…but on average…it is the elder, who will teach the younger how to tend a garden…how to grill a steak…where to pour oil into the engine…any number of useful things [some mundane and ordinary, others specialized] , which are likely to enrich the youngers future life…
This type of knowledge may not be equivalent to teaching someone an entire trade, for which they can sustain themselves…but I would argue, it is still a form of mentorship.
Two people cant really be in each others lives for a prolonged amount of time, without intermingling their own life’s knowledge and imparting it on each other…not unless the situation was straight up abusive, and would not end.
Last…I cant let this pass without saying something…because I have no idea, how anyone can equate mentorship with “ageist bigotry”…
It might be plausible, that the assumption young people don’t know specific things is “ageist bigotry”…but there is an insane amount of stuff out there, to learn and know…
As an older human…there are times in my life, where I could use and appreciate a mentor in my life, and one of any age [so long as they are competent]…I don’t see this as an ageist matter. It’s more a plain fact that I lack something, but someone else out there “knows how too…”.
…We aren’t completely self sufficient islands, all on our own…
…And the younger or less experienced we are, the more we lack…
Besides…it is fairly common human nature, for us to teach each other…
…I’d be much more worried and alarmed, if we just did not care…and if we thought it was “okay”, to leave children, kids, teens and young adults adrift, to fend all for themselves.
Date: September 29, 2014
“I harbour doubts about the emphasis that’s placed on mentoring and I can’t help thinking that we are ‘romanticising’ the idea in order to justify and reassure ourselves. Having said that, I still believe that many are sincere in their good intentions and embrace the mentoring obligation, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with two people mutually agreeing to sex unless they respect each other. They may consider each other not very nice people but still be sexually attracted to each other, so mentoring doesn’t have to be the basis for a relationship for it to be acceptable.”
While I think there might be an unintended phrasing in there, I have to say that this is a good direction for discussion.
The “mentoring” angle, I think, is more about marketing a social context, in which these kinds of relationships could exist…It is socially designing one place for us, where others can hail us as good members of the community.
…That said, I’ve never strongly pushed the idea of “mentorship” being intertwined with man/boy love relationships…except that by their own nature, they are typically a form of sexual mentorship [at least in the beginning].
Sex is primarily biological in nature and need…like breathing and eating…Nobody chooses what they want to find attractive…It is just there, in their own makeup. What we choose, is how to go about dealing with it, and [provided they agree] with whom.
Mentorship has never needed to be a factor of these forms of relationship…Realistically, some of us are not terribly good mentors…And maybe we don’t have a lot to offer, beyond a physical relationship [or just being someone to lean on]…
…And in my book of ethics, it is still moral to be there for someone else, to love and support them…even if only in this one, physical aspect…so long as it is still filling a real need, for both of you.
We aren’t everything to everyone, in every circumstance…Sometimes, our place in the life of another, is very limited and compartmentalized.
…Ideally, we do have more to offer those others…and we are allowed the freedom, to offer it.
Date: September 28, 2014
“Published on Sep 22, 2014
00:43 – “The Party of Voter Suppression.” Attorney David Haynes will run down the latest GOP voter suppression efforts. #VoterSuppression
10:13 – “Democrats Can Win on Social Security.” Richard Eskow, host of The Zero Hour in Los Angeles, will tell us how Democrats can win in November by increasing funding to our social safety net programs. #ProtectSocialSecurity
19:58 – “The Dixieland Dilemma.” Attorney Howard Nations will tell us how the Right has destroyed everything in the South – from the environment to economic mobility. #DixielandDilemma
29:21 – “Californians Fight Malpractice Caps.” Attorney Anne Marie Murphy discusses California’s Prop 46, which turns tort reform on its head by addressing the REAL cause of malpractice. #YesonProp46
38:38 – “Labor Can Save The Middle Class.” Attorney Mike Burg will explain how a resurgent labor movement can help save the American middle class. Middle Class, Wages, Minimum Wage, Pay, Gap, Union, Worker. #SaveLabor
48:17 – “The Pap Attack: Democrats – Leave The South NOW!””
Date: September 28, 2014
“An unprecedented look inside one of the most powerful, secretive institutions in the country. The NY Federal Reserve is supposed to monitor big banks. But when Carmen Segarra was hired, what she witnessed inside the Fed was so alarming that she got a tiny recorder and started secretly taping.”
Date: September 22, 2014
I can get behind a lot of what Emma is saying, here…but it is also necessary, to understand that there is a lot of history to get beyond…and considerable house cleaning, that needs to take place.
Feminism should not be synonymous with man hating…
…The problem as I have seen it for many years, now…is that various, extreme male haters, have been using feminism [the movement, itself] as their vehicle.
What a lot of us see getting shoved down our throats as “feminism”, in reality, is the ugly consequences of loud, burdensome people…who have consistently failed to grasp the concepts, and importance of, true equality…of mutual respect…and, frankly, of humanist values.
What many of us are left so revolted by in the feminism of today…is that too much of it behaves like an abusive threat towards us…in tangible ways.
Personally…I think it is high time to put away all “equality” movements, that even care to ask at all, what gender anyone is.
I have never been a feminist…and I never will be…
That is not to say, I do not share some core principle values, with many feminists…But I am a humanist…meaning, that I am not concerned with what sex you are, nor how you identify yourself…
…I am more concerned with true equality in access, and true equality in need resolution, no matter who we are talking about.
…So let women make the same income as men…of course…
…But we should never be seduced into believing, that many people in the feminist movement are “pure as snow”…
For as long as any movement is around, favoring and taking it’s namesake from one sex…there must be other movements, to counterbalance it.
I just wish we would stop being obsessed, with dragging our cultures all over insanity with “feminism” and “men’s rights”…and start focusing on what is most important…making certain that everybody has what they need, in order to live a meaningful, good life.
…I don’t see feminism as being a magical answer to anything, anymore than I see men’s rights solving all problems…If anything, they are just vehicles for new social monsters to come into power…
On top of this…I am mighty tired and wary, of the self selected amongst us…who seem to believe that they are going to dictate the place of the rest of us, and that they are going to hand down to us something…some social status, which they expect us to be thankful for, but which all too often alienates us…often for which, we have had no voice or choice…
…People fall through the cracks in these movements, all the time…New outcasts are created…demonized…
…No thank you!…I don’t want that, anymore!
I think, we need an entirely different social model…a new social paradigm.
Date: September 20, 2014
“Starting a business is not for the self-doubting. Or even usually the self-deprecating. The first thing you have to sell is yourself — like dating, but with a greater chance of landing in debt. Alex Blumberg tells the incredible, sweat-stains-and-all saga of a man fumbling through starting a new business, and the man is: himself. Plus, new stories from Mike Birbiglia and Love + Radio.”
This episode is not about starting or running a business, but selling yourself…Which is why I am choosing to share it here. All sections may not be of equal value, but there is something of relevance here. – Steve
Date: September 19, 2014
I’d love some feedback on this, from my actual readers [preferably, those who care about this resource]…
Swearing has never been a big part of my own life, hence it has not been hard for me to employ it very sparingly, over my years online. This in no way implies, that I think it is never appropriate to employ the use of a swear word. In fact, I think they can be powerful accentuations, which really drive home emotion and passion behind words.
Mostly, I’ve moved away from even linking to content with swearing in it, for the simple fact that I do not want to alienate this resource, from those who take issue with swearing…Mind you, I have also evolved back into more of a “less edgy, more presentable” persona, in recent years…So, I am more interested in how people respond to me…and the perceived quality of my own image.
I want this to be a friendly, inviting place…
…Thing is…I don’t feel right about it being sterile, or politically correct…and I really don’t like alienating, or turning my back on people who swear…many of whom are decent, sensible and kind people…they just swear sometimes [some of whom do such to “reclaim” these words, “demote” them to the status of “just a word”, and strip them of their taboo/shock status by employing them without special relevance, just like any other word].
I’ve wanted to highlight a number of things, published by others…but I’ve held back, because of swearing in the content…though I think the message was worth hearing…And walking this fence bothers me.
Personally, I am not offended by swearing…so long as it is not used for belittling or injuring someone…
I am a pragmatist…and it makes no sense to me, that while having dozens of words we can speak which mean the exact same thing…these tiny few alternatives are isolated as offensive stand outs…or somehow “bad”, while the others are acceptable.
As a society, we have to condition ourselves to believe that individual words, alone, are offensive…And I am squarely in the George Carlin camp here, because this just does not make any sense at all.
In addition…I lean more towards the artistic…and I find liberal expression, to be part of the raw, real world…sometimes it is necessary…sometimes, it is even art. It is not something we can call ourselves “in the right”, for ignoring…or for sanitizing out of our lives. We are not superior, for looking down on those who merely speak this way…In fact, I think that would make us inferior in some regards.
…At the same time, I do recognize that swearing is sometimes made into a sad, nasty spectacle…by people who really aren’t up to much good…They just want the cheap shock value, or to really hurt someone with their words…It’s never really much occurred to me to link to that sort of content, though.
…Maybe, it is a question of class?…and expectations on what people in “our” class are supposed to say, or how they are supposed to act? Maybe, I just don’t fit into “a class”?…Or, maybe I just tend to look for what is most exceptional, about every “class” of human?
I’d like to broaden the focus of what I feature here, just a tad…I no longer wish to shun content, just because of a bit of swearing.
What are your thoughts?…Please share…I will take this feedback into account.
Date: September 18, 2014
“Published on Sep 9, 2014
04:22 – “The Next Foreclosure Nightmare is Here.” Michael Burg tells us what states are doing to prevent the foreclosure nightmare that is right around the corner. #ForeclosureNightmare
14:11 – Can Liberalism Replace Secularism?” Journalist CJ Werleman explains the connection between the prosperity of liberalism and secularism. #FreedomFromReligion
23:02 – “Far Right Groups Pose Serious Security Threats.” Howard Nations tells us why the FBI is more concerned about the threats of the sovereign citizen movement than they are from al Qaeda. #FarRightTerrorism
34:04 – “GOP Boys’ Club Doesn’t Understand Women.” Author Nancy Cohen explains why the Republican Party can’t seem to understand why women can’t stand the GOP. #GOPBoysClub
40:57 – “The Economics of Revolution.” Interview with David DeGraw.”